How to stop being sensitive to other people's opinions/reactions?

[sinbad]

I never used to care, but for some reason I get unnecessarily upset or even pissed off if I am ignored or brushed off and not treated like royalty

The more I have metidated, my emotional blockages unlocked to extreme levels of sensitivity. I look stoic on the outside, but on the inside I am very easily stirred to extreme depths.

I know my reactions are retarded and perhaps arrogant, but it is like the "dam" has been removed and the emotions are flooding the place.

How can I get them under control so I don't feel so much?

 

[sinbad]

Side note, epic Zevist band I recently found:

HE IS NOSTRO DIS PATER

 

[Shadowcat]

Having a lot of water or lunar emphasis can cause oversensitivity but so can fire with the difference in the two being water tends to hold grudges and ruminate.

Oversensitivity to even constructive criticism is usually rooted in insecurity and a poor self image. If you know who and what you are the words and actions of others won't always hurt as much and constructive feedback will be seen as an opportunity for growth rather than an insult or an attack.

Sometimes people ignore you not because they want to hurt you but because they just aren't interested in interacting..in some cases they could be afraid to offend and will play it safe by not interacting at all

 

[Daerosa]

Side note, epic Zevist band I recently found:

HE IS NOSTRO DIS PATER

I would recommend being cautious with this group. I used to listen to a couple of their tracks as well, but the way they portray the Father Zeus is not correct and is distorted. Some members here have also expressed their distrust toward this group.

 

[RespectExistence]

Focus on a goal. It's better to be attached to one single thing, than to many. Try journaling, it may fit you better.

 

[sinbad]

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"Their intuition and sensitive natures open them up to psychically absorb other's moods, emotions, and the tone of their environment"

The annoying thing is I can literally feel whatever negative emotion is being directed towards me, which is somewhat crippling as there is very little seperation between "me" and the "other" in terms of the emotional space.

Which makes it difficult to respond appropriately sometimes as I am swayed in every direction by the fluctuating emotional rhythm of the conversation.

I find it difficult to reject or be cruel to other's even when that is the appropriate response, although I have gotten better at it recently.

Is it okay to become a little more "evil" or "machiavellian" for lack of a better word, because I think it is excessive and ineffective to be this way.

My mind is highly strategic/Scorpionic, but it is difficult to execute these strategies because of the above tendencies.

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Yes, there is a strong lunar Air influence.

But I am always asking for feedback/criticism because it allows me to transform faster.

I am polite and interested in learning about everything and everybody, even from those less intelligent because they may have valuable personal experience/wisdom.

So I go out of my way to interact with people, and when they react with indifference or rejection it annoys the F out of me because I went out of my comfort zone already to try and be courteous and interact with them.

But my natural orientation is to think I am the king, and everyone should come to me. So it doubly pisses me off, because I suppressed my own ego.

I want to be good at networking, but I think my mindset or approach is extremely faulty, because I don't always understand what is appropriate social behaviour.

 

[hailourtruegod]

I never used to care, but for some reason I get unnecessarily upset or even pissed off if I am ignored or brushed off and not treated like royalty

The more I have metidated, my emotional blockages unlocked to extreme levels of sensitivity. I look stoic on the outside, but on the inside I am very easily stirred to extreme depths.

I know my reactions are retarded and perhaps arrogant, but it is like the "dam" has been removed and the emotions are flooding the place.

How can I get them under control so I don't feel so much?

Speaking from experience, somewhat, I say you perhaps havent came across something that needs to be rectified / dealt with inside your soul. Past trauma that your mind refuses to acknowledge or at least not consciously connecting this as the root of said problem.

Something that helped me understand the average person better along with living life is reading what the men of Zeus of the past have said about said people. We have to understand the minds of the average person along with the mass mind as well and then there will be calming of the mind from the understanding that these moments of anti social behavior from others is not enough to bother the mind.

Remember, if the mind doesn't conclude it has been hurt where it can no longer choose rationally just because a limb is cut off then words can have literally no power against the mind that understands this.

Of course its not just the mindset alone as meditations from here are tools needed as well for us to get past basic interactions and thoughts. The books just lay physical instructions as how to approach life in any level.

I hope this helps and feel free to pry more to my meaning if something isn't clear.

I still have to get past bad habits 100% as I myself just recently have came to understanding what I wrote above but I know I no longer suffer from what you mentioned and only have what I refer to as triggers to test my new skills.

 

[sinbad]

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Hmm, there is something that drives me to feel entitled to reach the pinnacle, but because I am not there yet there is a cognitive dissonance I suppose.

I do enjoy the feeling of being revered/worshipped for my skills, but would you say this is something that needs to be rectified as "bad karma"?

And would you say reading about the mass mind allowed you to become more calm and tolerant of their behaviour?

Which books helped you the most?

 

[Lucifigus]

I never used to care, but for some reason I get unnecessarily upset or even pissed off if I am ignored or brushed off and not treated like royalty

The more I have metidated, my emotional blockages unlocked to extreme levels of sensitivity. I look stoic on the outside, but on the inside I am very easily stirred to extreme depths.

I know my reactions are retarded and perhaps arrogant, but it is like the "dam" has been removed and the emotions are flooding the place.

How can I get them under control so I don't feel so much?

It also hurts me emotionally, if i am ignored by someone.
On ToZ website, in Power Meditations, under "Advanced" find "Invoking fire" and "invoking earth", and "invoking water" and "invoking air" and read it. There it writes what can help to not be so sensitive.
Than do this:
Read this: https://templeofzeus.org/Preparing.php

 

[hailourtruegod]

Hmm, there is something that drives me to feel entitled to reach the pinnacle, but because I am not there yet there is a cognitive dissonance I suppose.

I do enjoy the feeling of being revered/worshipped for my skills, but would you say this is something that needs to be rectified as "bad karma"?

And would you say reading about the mass mind allowed you to become more calm and tolerant of their behaviour?

Which books helped you the most?

Im glad you asked these questions as there is more to fill in and there is some confusion from me not articulating it better. Now I know where to cover this better.

I was listening to The Republic by Socrates and getting into Plutarch but I paused to finish Meditations from Marcus. In his book he covers how silly it we should see it to want validity from the average person or to care what they think and what really matters is that we do our civic duty and act honorable just for the sake of being honorable. Even if no one sees us being a good man/woman we should still focus all our attention to be so.

As we share this trait with the Gods and thus something we can say confidently we share with the Divine.

It gets the point across, as rational social beings and in my note Zevist, we have a duty to look past the stupidity and mistakes of the average person and make sure we act rational, with self-control, courage. That is what is good.

Meditations, the actual practices we have here, helped me dig thru what I needed to weed out for my mind to understand these words on a higher spectrum/level.



I do want to mention that I understand this can be more difficult in today's society where we share advanced nations with 3rd world mentality who are also ghetto. Trust me these people I have the most to pick a bone with, not because I was an outsider who got messed with by them but being part of this sub culture and witnessing people close to me being disgusting in the mannerisms and thought processes, thats putting it very lightly. I know of animals with more honor than the men and women I grew up with...

To answer the last part of your reply start with the book Meditations. Get thru it all while doing your best to understand what he writes from a Zevist point of view. Can take a while since much of what he says makes on just stop and think hard but and it can get tiring at first but I find it helpful every time I continue with the book. Almost at the end myself.

 

[SatyaSitamanas]

"Their intuition and sensitive natures open them up to psychically absorb other's moods, emotions, and the tone of their environment"

The annoying thing is I can literally feel whatever negative emotion is being directed towards me, which is somewhat crippling as there is very little seperation between "me" and the "other" in terms of the emotional space.


My mind is highly strategic/Scorpionic, but it is difficult to execute these strategies because of the above tendencies.


But I am always asking for feedback/criticism because it allows me to transform faster.

I am polite and interested in learning about everything and everybody, even from those less intelligent because they may have valuable personal experience/wisdom.

So I go out of my way to interact with people, and when they react with indifference or rejection it annoys the F out of me because I went out of my comfort zone already to try and be courteous and interact with them.

But my natural orientation is to think I am the king, and everyone should come to me. So it doubly pisses me off, because I suppressed my own ego.

I want to be good at networking, but I think my mindset or approach is extremely faulty, because I don't always understand what is appropriate social behaviour.

I resonate with all these thoughts so very much. Sometimes I feel like I wear a mask so much to be viewed as not the weirdo, but then I end up suppressing so much of my true self. Its hard to accept the parts of myself that I view as counter culture, the personality traits and ways of being that have gotten me in trouble or rejected. I feel like I osciallate from being perfectly peaceful and above drama, to being "the drama" because I am so sensitive to being misunderstood. I struggle maintaining my identity around those who I have let into my heart. For those who are not in my heart I feel the most myself, but I am kind of an a-hole, which is not good? When I let someone in my heart, I get so attached that their emotions become mine, my personality shifts to ensure they won't be upset with me. Its an awful way to exist and I have faith that being a Zevist will set me free eventually. Its going to be a process because these thought process -habits- have been fed and reinforced my whole life. I remind myself: they have been learned, they can be unlearned. Some part is my nature and that's where I am in my journey to freedom, differentiating what is my nature and how Zevism can help me fix these things, and what are simply bad habits that I kept repeating.

I think if we meditate enough and for me that includes journaling because I have so many thoughts to process, that we will get closer and closer to the root issue. When I am stuck, I will even chat with ChatGPT about something "Why do I do _______? Why can't I let this problem go? Why do I need to feel justified? Why do I care so much?" Ive found asking those types of questions help me get closer and closer to the root. It takes time and we need to give ourselves compassion that it will be painful at times as we advance, but it won't be forever. The Gods are here for us, we are never alone.

 

[SatyaSitamanas]

I never used to care, but for some reason I get unnecessarily upset or even pissed off if I am ignored or brushed off and not treated like royalty

The more I have metidated, my emotional blockages unlocked to extreme levels of sensitivity. I look stoic on the outside, but on the inside I am very easily stirred to extreme depths.

I know my reactions are retarded and perhaps arrogant, but it is like the "dam" has been removed and the emotions are flooding the place.

How can I get them under control so I don't feel so much?

I forgot to comment that I appreciated you talking about how meditation took away the blockages, and how it feels like the emotional dam was removed and can't be controlled. I felt this incredibly strongly when I did the 40 day program and that first week was intense. So many emotions and a lot of crying, a lot of ups and down, it was hard to even work or smile because so much "stuff" was coming up. I was able to find peace and maintain that for a few months, but then i fell off the wagon with my meditations and just recently started again. And the same thing is happened: being flooded by emotion. Someone linked me to the Anti-Anxiety Kundalini Yoga exercise that HPS Lydia recently posted. I did it this evening and had to stop about 2.5 minutes in as I couldn't stop crying, so then I journaled for about 30 minutes and really worked through those thoughts and came to a place of clarity where I feel emotionally stable again. Granted, I personally have my fair share of things that need to be addressed so I'm expecting more of this to happen for each one. But, as I get closer to the root issues, each one makes me stronger and more emotionally resilient, able to stand on my own and not take things personal. We must keep going, but take breaks as needed so we get the results we are looking for. I wish us both strength and resilience, and anyone else who needs it.

 

[SSinHeartandSoul]

I never used to care, but for some reason I get unnecessarily upset or even pissed off if I am ignored or brushed off and not treated like royalty

The more I have metidated, my emotional blockages unlocked to extreme levels of sensitivity. I look stoic on the outside, but on the inside I am very easily stirred to extreme depths.

I know my reactions are retarded and perhaps arrogant, but it is like the "dam" has been removed and the emotions are flooding the place.

How can I get them under control so I don't feel so much?

Some years ago I've had the same problem, I would get quite annoyed when someone did not reciprocate when I said hi to them. I didn't understand why this happened, I did however come up with a solution which worked extremely well! I shared this as a meditation on my profile, I will also share it below.
From what you have stated I believe this could very much be of help to you.

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Meditation for programming your subconscious.


Many of us might be struggling to take control over our emotions, to feel & understand those emotions. To understand them you need to analyze why / how / what is going on inside of you, to change & take control over them you must program your mind & subconscious.

Feelings come from your subconscious, your subconscious tells you what you believe & what you have reaffirmed to yourself many times over, even if this is not something you desire. In other words you become what you think about. Below is an exercise / mediation that I have personally used with great success to change how I see myself on a subconscious level.

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Before starting know what it is that you want to change, for example: I get angry for XX reason, this needs to change. (When affirming always speak to yourself as if this is already how you see or feel about things, for example: I am not angry when XX happens)


Exercise / Meditation:

1. Go somewhere where you feel at ease, this can be at home, your bedroom or outside when taking a walk.

2. Clear your mind (void).

3. Go into a light trance.

4. Affirm to yourself in a serious but fair tone that you are now going into program mode (or however you want to call it).

5. In the same tone as above affirm what it is that you want changed, this can be done in as many words as need! (If you need 5 minutes for this, that's fine) Make sure that you speak as if that what you want to change is already as you desire it be.

6. Affirm that the programming has ended.
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In my experience the above can change you on a fundamental level, so be mindful of your words & intentions. In most cases only one round of the above was enough to make a difference in my experience, this might not be the case for you, so do the above as many times as you need. I also want to state that feelings can have different causes, for example picking up feelings from a spiritual connection of a loved one, in most cases what I wrote above is the main culprit & should be worked on.