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Controversial theme: how to deal with and heal the trauma of rape

afl6663 min to read

I know this is a controversial issue, but unfortunately rape occurs to a greater extent than is actually reported.

I was a victim of rape a few years ago by a man in my family (it started when I was 4). It turns out that even today there are consequences of this trauma.

Fortunately since I made my dedication, I have had no more nightmares from rape; but I still have glimpses of all the disgusting things the bastard did to me, and even though he died, that bastard still haunts me in my dreams and sometimes I feel the bastard's presence beside me.

For many years, my mind blocked everything that this bastard did to me (I read several studies that say that when the trauma is very big, the mind tends to "hide" all the memories as a defense) and after going through some very difficult situations ; all the memories (with details) came and how I had a mixture of disgust, shame, anger, humiliation; I ended up trying to commit suicide.

I had psychiatric treatment once and psychological treatment twice, but that didn't help me much.

Like most women who suffer rape, I first started to relate only to scoundrels and then I simply decided not to have a relationship with any man, because for a long time I felt dirty and unworthy of having a relationship with a decent guy.

It has been a few years since I just left home to go to work, the market, the pharmacy, the bakery ... Anyway, I have been isolated for a few years; I have no friends, boyfriends, nothing.

But after I got to know ToZ, I made my dedication and started my daily routine that all Zevists have; I "discovered" that I am worthy of being loved, that I deserve to have a partner and a healthy relationship.

It turns out that I still have some blocks in this sexual issue and in the issue of trusting people (especially men - just to clarify, I am heterosexual) and I still have difficulties in touching myself, in stimulating myself sexually.

In addition to AoP, I program my aura with positive affirmations for protection, Runa Sowilo and Tyr for protection, Runa Ansuz for cleaning, Ritual, Runa Wunjo for inner healing, Returning Curses 2, in addition to Meditations; what else could I do to heal this trauma that I suffered; and so that I can return to a healthy sex life without trauma and / or blockages?

And also in relation to the bastard who did this to me, in addition to the Banishing Ritual; what else can i do for him to leave me alone and especially for him to pay for everything he did to me?

#20
Shaelsaid:
afl666said:

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Thank you for sharing things with me. I'm very glad to hear that you have gotten better. Do keep sharing your progress, and good job! :)

Shael,

I would like to thank you and your affection that you had with me and everyone in the Forum who guided me and tried to help me; and at the same time, I apologize to you and everyone; but I'm giving up everything.

I know that Satan is the only true God, but unfortunately I have come to the conclusion that I am playing the fool to believe that Zeus and the Gods will help me.

I have been unemployed for over a year, I have no money even to buy my food and the basic things that a person needs to live with a minimum of dignity.

I've done rituals, spells, positive affirmations, I've asked for help, I've had faith, I've cried; but it was no use. I came to the conclusion that Zeus and the Gods are too busy to be able to help me.

I see several testimonies on the website and the Forum that Zeus and the Gods helped people who were in situations similar to mine; and that Zeus and the Gods always help whoever is in a shitty situation like the one I am in; but I had no help. Apparently I am not worthy of the help of Zeus and the Gods.

I know that many will say that I have no faith, that I am weak; but when you have no money even to buy a packet of rice or bread; or the sand and food of your relative is very difficult.

I thank you all for everything and wish you all the best.

I know that you will win and that the day will come when Zeus and the Gods will finally destroy and annihilate all your enemies.

#21
afl666said:

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Frankly, I think that what you lack is not faith or effort or anything like that. What you lack is staying-power and patience. I know this might sound harsh, but this is what I think.

If you look at this situation objectively, then doing meditations and rituals doesn't do anything negative about your situation in any way. So what does giving up do for you? Absolutely nothing. Giving up from meditations isn't gonna make your situation magically fix itself. What you need to do is to start more heavily relying on yourself to fix the situation. Not on the Gods, on Satan, or on someone here on the forums. I'm sure this may be very hard, but it's necessary if you want to get out of your shitty situation. Things wont fix themselves miraculously within a few days or weeks. It takes time. Start relying on yourself and applying your efforts consistently every day, staying patient for as long as it takes. You don't have anything to lose here anyways, really. The only reason you'd want to quit is because you'd prefer sulking to yourself and wallowing in self-pity instead of taking action. This is a habit that needs to be destroyed in full.

You will never get anywhere, both in life and in meditation, if you do not learn to rely on nobody but yourself when it comes to your personal life and circumstances. It's your life and you need to put in the work to fix it. You can be mad at me for saying these things, but trust me when I say that you'll not get anywhere if you always need someone else to take you by the hand.

#22
afl666said:
Shaelsaid:
afl666said:

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Thank you for sharing things with me. I'm very glad to hear that you have gotten better. Do keep sharing your progress, and good job! :)

Shael,

I would like to thank you and your affection that you had with me and everyone in the Forum who guided me and tried to help me; and at the same time, I apologize to you and everyone; but I'm giving up everything.

How do you expect to be helped if you can't help yourself? You have magick and you had 1 year to find a job and yet you managed to do nothing. Don't blame your failures to the Gods.

I am reaching towards a green apple.

#23
Shaelsaid:
afl666said:

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Frankly, I think that what you lack is not faith or effort or anything like that. What you lack is staying-power and patience. I know this might sound harsh, but this is what I think.

If you look at this situation objectively, then doing meditations and rituals doesn't do anything negative about your situation in any way. So what does giving up do for you? Absolutely nothing. Giving up from meditations isn't gonna make your situation magically fix itself. What you need to do is to start more heavily relying on yourself to fix the situation. Not on the Gods, on Satan, or on someone here on the forums. I'm sure this may be very hard, but it's necessary if you want to get out of your shitty situation. Things wont fix themselves miraculously within a few days or weeks. It takes time. Start relying on yourself and applying your efforts consistently every day, staying patient for as long as it takes. You don't have anything to lose here anyways, really. The only reason you'd want to quit is because you'd prefer sulking to yourself and wallowing in self-pity instead of taking action. This is a habit that needs to be destroyed in full.

I will never be angry with you, be sure of that.

You said: "... You will never get anywhere, either in life or in meditation, if you do not learn to trust anyone but yourself when it comes to your life and personal circumstances ...."

Yes I was wrong trust Zeus and the Gods more than me. I really have to learn to trust only me.

#24
Aquariussaid:
afl666said:
Shaelsaid:

Thank you for sharing things with me. I'm very glad to hear that you have gotten better. Do keep sharing your progress, and good job! :)

Shael,

I would like to thank you and your affection that you had with me and everyone in the Forum who guided me and tried to help me; and at the same time, I apologize to you and everyone; but I'm giving up everything.

How do you expect to be helped if you can't help yourself? You have magick and you had 1 year to find a job and yet you managed to do nothing. Don't blame your failures to the Gods.

Yes, you are absolutely right. I am the one to blame for the shitty life I have and for all my failures.

As I am also the only one to blame for all the years I was raped by my own father and did nothing to destroy this son of a bitch the same way he did.

Yes, I am to blame for those seven months that I became a Zevist I did not have the "competence to get a job", because I am still curing myself from the rapes I suffered; and all the times I woke up at dawn because I had nightmares about the rapes, reliving ALL the times I was raped in the most sordid details.

Contrary to what you say, I am helping myself; because as I thought it was more important to focus my energies on healing my psychological, which has been working because it has been a few weeks since I have had more nightmares.

Yes, I made the mistake of thinking that with that Zeus and the Gods could help me get a job.

I am really the one to blame for everything, you are absolutely right.

#25
Aquariussaid:
afl666said:
Shaelsaid:

Thank you for sharing things with me. I'm very glad to hear that you have gotten better. Do keep sharing your progress, and good job! :)

Shael,

I would like to thank you and your affection that you had with me and everyone in the Forum who guided me and tried to help me; and at the same time, I apologize to you and everyone; but I'm giving up everything.

How do you expect to be helped if you can't help yourself? You have magick and you had 1 year to find a job and yet you managed to do nothing. Don't blame your failures to the Gods.

Yes, I am really the only one to blame because I focused 70% of my energies on healing my traumas and only 30% of my energies on the spells I did to get a job and a financial improvement.

I'm really the only one to blame for believing all the posts on the Forum where everyone says that Zeus and the Gods help Zevists who are dedicating themselves and looking for spiritual and personal growth (which includes the financial part), and who still don't have enough power to achieve your goals alone; that just trust and have faith because Zeus and the Gods always help dedicated Zevists.

I'm really the one to blame.

#26
Aquariussaid:
afl666said:
Shaelsaid:

Thank you for sharing things with me. I'm very glad to hear that you have gotten better. Do keep sharing your progress, and good job! :)

Shael,

I would like to thank you and your affection that you had with me and everyone in the Forum who guided me and tried to help me; and at the same time, I apologize to you and everyone; but I'm giving up everything.

How do you expect to be helped if you can't help yourself? You have magick and you had 1 year to find a job and yet you managed to do nothing. Don't blame your failures to the Gods.

Yes, I am really the only one to blame because I focused 70% of my energies on healing my traumas and only 30% of my energies on the spells I did to get a job and a financial improvement.

I'm really the only one to blame for believing all the posts on the Forum where everyone says that Zeus and the Gods help Zevists who are dedicating themselves and looking for spiritual and personal growth (which includes the financial part), and who still don't have enough power to achieve your goals alone; that just trust and have faith because Zeus and the Gods always help dedicated Zevists.

I'm really the one to blame.

#27

You're playing victim at this point. Yes, life is hard, I'm discovering that too in these last few months. Having trauma doesn't mean you can't get jobs meanwhile.

I am reaching towards a green apple.

#28
Aquariussaid:

You're playing victim at this point. Yes, life is hard, I'm discovering that too in these last few months. Having trauma doesn't mean you can't get jobs meanwhile.

In fact, I'm tired of everything, the memories of what I went through and even being a victim. Life is not easy and I know it well.

I'm sorry that you're having a hard time; but I read a lot of your posts and I know that you’re strong and you’re going to get over it. I wholeheartedly wish you all the best. Really. I know you are a nice guy.

At no time did I say that I can't get a job because of my traumas, because I already had other jobs even with my traumas. What I said is that I focused more on curing my traumas, precisely because I was tired of being a victim, because I was tired of reliving everything I went through, because I was tired of everything that caused me.

#29
afl666said:
Aquariussaid:

You're playing victim at this point. Yes, life is hard, I'm discovering that too in these last few months. Having trauma doesn't mean you can't get jobs meanwhile.

In fact, I'm tired of everything, the memories of what I went through and even being a victim. Life is not easy and I know it well.

I understand what you mean, but you can't expect to advance in an area of life in which you're not putting effort to advance in, and the Gods aren't wish granting geniuses and you shouldn't rely on the "experiences" of some people but rather your own, because expecting that the Gods will act in a certain way will just create dissapointments, that's why I always take any experience anybody has with a grain of salt. I know the Gods are guiding me toward a great future, but that's guidance, I HAVE to do the hard work just like anybody else has to do it.

What I'm trying to say is that your expectations of what the Gods do and don't do based on "experiences" you read by others will just create infinite dissapointments, so instead of relying on others create a relationship with the Gods that is honest and you will understand more of their ways.

I am reaching towards a green apple.

#30
Aquariussaid:
afl666said:
Aquariussaid:

You're playing victim at this point. Yes, life is hard, I'm discovering that too in these last few months. Having trauma doesn't mean you can't get jobs meanwhile.

In fact, I'm tired of everything, the memories of what I went through and even being a victim. Life is not easy and I know it well.

I understand what you mean, but you can't expect to advance in an area of life in which you're not putting effort to advance in, and the Gods aren't wish granting geniuses and you shouldn't rely on the "experiences" of some people but rather your own, because expecting that the Gods will act in a certain way will just create dissapointments, that's why I always take any experience anybody has with a grain of salt. I know the Gods are guiding me toward a great future, but that's guidance, I HAVE to do the hard work just like anybody else has to do it.

What I'm trying to say is that your expectations of what the Gods do and don't do based on "experiences" you read by others will just create infinite dissapointments, so instead of relying on others create a relationship with the Gods that is honest and you will understand more of their ways.

Thank you for the words.

I understood what you said and that is exactly what happened. I created many expectations and was disappointed with the Gods.

I am very unmotivated with everything, I feel that the cleanings, AoP, meditations, rituals, spells that I did were in vain. That I believed, had faith and that it was all in vain.

I lost the will, the motivation. You see, I'm not blaming anyone, it's just how I'm feeling.

#31
afl666said:
Aquariussaid:
afl666said:

In fact, I'm tired of everything, the memories of what I went through and even being a victim. Life is not easy and I know it well.

I'm sorry that you're having a hard time; but I read a lot of your posts and I know that you’re strong and you’re going to get over it. I wholeheartedly wish you all the best. Really. I know you are a nice guy.

At no time did I say that I can't get a job because of my traumas, because I already had other jobs even with my traumas. What I said is that I focused more on curing my traumas, precisely because I was tired of being a victim, because I was tired of reliving everything I went through, because I was tired of everything that caused me.

I understand what you mean, but you can't expect to advance in an area of life in which you're not putting effort to advance in, and the Gods aren't wish granting geniuses and you shouldn't rely on the "experiences" of some people but rather your own, because expecting that the Gods will act in a certain way will just create dissapointments, that's why I always take any experience anybody has with a grain of salt. I know the Gods are guiding me toward a great future, but that's guidance, I HAVE to do the hard work just like anybody else has to do it.

What I'm trying to say is that your expectations of what the Gods do and don't do based on "experiences" you read by others will just create infinite dissapointments, so instead of relying on others create a relationship with the Gods that is honest and you will understand more of their ways.

Thank you for the words.

I understood what you said and that is exactly what happened. I created many expectations and was disappointed with the Gods.

These last few days I was like that too. If you don't keep up your aura of protection that's what's gonna happen. Good luck

I am reaching towards a green apple.

#32
Aquariussaid:
afl666said:
Aquariussaid:

I understand what you mean, but you can't expect to advance in an area of life in which you're not putting effort to advance in, and the Gods aren't wish granting geniuses and you shouldn't rely on the "experiences" of some people but rather your own, because expecting that the Gods will act in a certain way will just create dissapointments, that's why I always take any experience anybody has with a grain of salt. I know the Gods are guiding me toward a great future, but that's guidance, I HAVE to do the hard work just like anybody else has to do it.

What I'm trying to say is that your expectations of what the Gods do and don't do based on "experiences" you read by others will just create infinite dissapointments, so instead of relying on others create a relationship with the Gods that is honest and you will understand more of their ways.

Thank you for the words.

I understood what you said and that is exactly what happened. I created many expectations and was disappointed with the Gods.

These last few days I was like that too. If you don't keep up your aura of protection that's what's gonna happen. Good luck

Thanks :)

#33
afl666said:

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Trauma attaches to the soul and chakras as negative links through the astral. They are very real 'physical' things that are 'tangible' on the astral. A trauma or phobia is like a twisted corrupting thoughtform that clings to you. They can be destroyed and removed, enabling your ability to cope much better in general or even remove the negative feelings from it completely, from there it's all mental discipline and void meditation for further detachment and disassociation.

I've had debilitating phobias in my past that I have successfully gotten rid of just as proof that it can be done. One was very sudden just 5 weeks ago actually when I had accidentally cut a live-wire at work in a tired state, resulting in an explosion. This was very recent and I was suddenly deathly terrified of all forms of electrical outputs. Wires, outlets, I was suddenly insanely and unhealthily aware of all the wires and electricity surrounding me and running throughout the entire house I reside in. Couldn't sleep because I was worried the outlets would start spewing sparks or touching the metal frame of my bed would somehow transfer electricity from the house through it to shock me to death.

Phobias and traumas can be odd, strange and weird, but no matter what kind they are they are all the same on the astral and can be removed. As soon as I had recognized that the fears I was dealing with was a phobia resulting from that event trauma, I immediately and intensely started to deconstruct, tear apart and destroy it on the astral, detaching it from myself completely and pulverizing it with my own methods that I deemed most effective for me personally. I no longer have any such fears of electricity and even freely took apart some personally owned electronics the other day for cleaning. Depending on how bad the trauma or phobia is it could take many sessions of this sort of effort to totally destroy and rid yourself of a phobia, but it can be done and you have to really mean and want it to be destroyed and removed.

Additionally one might suggest seeking a counselor or just someone in general for you to talk to. Venting it off physically is kind of like sending off the energy of it on the astral and just 'getting it out of you' in a sense which will additionally alleviate, weaken the trauma link or help with the detachment process of the trauma/phobia. But perhaps this depends on the person and what helps them best. Do what is comfortable for you but to destroy a fear or trauma you must face it first. Can't fight your enemy if you're not looking at them, right?

Won't be able to punch their face in if you can't see them.

#34
Ghost in the Machinesaid:
afl666said:

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Trauma attaches to the soul and chakras as negative links through the astral. They are very real 'physical' things that are 'tangible' on the astral. A trauma or phobia is like a twisted corrupting thoughtform that clings to you. They can be destroyed and removed, enabling your ability to cope much better in general or even remove the negative feelings from it completely, from there it's all mental discipline and void meditation for further detachment and disassociation.

I've had debilitating phobias in my past that I have successfully gotten rid of just as proof that it can be done. One was very sudden just 5 weeks ago actually when I had accidentally cut a live-wire at work in a tired state, resulting in an explosion. This was very recent and I was suddenly deathly terrified of all forms of electrical outputs. Wires, outlets, I was suddenly insanely and unhealthily aware of all the wires and electricity surrounding me and running throughout the entire house I reside in. Couldn't sleep because I was worried the outlets would start spewing sparks or touching the metal frame of my bed would somehow transfer electricity from the house through it to shock me to death.

Thank you for sharing your experience.

This question of being able to vent about the trauma really helps a lot.

I kept all this for many years, but after I said everything that happened, I really felt lighter; especially after I posted on the Forum, because I was able to let off steam without having to worry about being a judge; since nobody knows me personally, nobody can see me.

All of you do not have the notion of how it helped me to be able to talk about all of this here in the Forum, and even more so the messages that everyone posted to help and guide.

I just have to thank you all.

Thanks

#35
Tradersaid:
afl666said:
Aquariussaid:

How do you expect to be helped if you can't help yourself? You have magick and you had 1 year to find a job and yet you managed to do nothing. Don't blame your failures to the Gods.

Yes, I am really the only one to blame because I focused 70% of my energies on healing my traumas and only 30% of my energies on the spells I did to get a job and a financial improvement.

I'm really the only one to blame for believing all the posts on the Forum where everyone says that Zeus and the Gods help Zevism who are dedicating themselves and looking for spiritual and personal growth (which includes the financial part), and who still don't have enough power to achieve your goals alone; that just trust and have faith because Zeus and the Gods always help dedicated Zevists.

Please this could help many Zevism to get fast a little money, if the economy is not rappitly fast decreasing,

How to make fast easy money:

Thanks for the tip.

I will study calmly, because I found it very interesting.

#36
Aquariussaid:
afl666said:
Aquariussaid:

I understand what you mean, but you can't expect to advance in an area of life in which you're not putting effort to advance in, and the Gods aren't wish granting geniuses and you shouldn't rely on the "experiences" of some people but rather your own, because expecting that the Gods will act in a certain way will just create dissapointments, that's why I always take any experience anybody has with a grain of salt. I know the Gods are guiding me toward a great future, but that's guidance, I HAVE to do the hard work just like anybody else has to do it.

What I'm trying to say is that your expectations of what the Gods do and don't do based on "experiences" you read by others will just create infinite dissapointments, so instead of relying on others create a relationship with the Gods that is honest and you will understand more of their ways.

Thank you for the words.

I understood what you said and that is exactly what happened. I created many expectations and was disappointed with the Gods.

These last few days I was like that too. If you don't keep up your aura of protection that's what's gonna happen. Good luck

Hello,

I need urgent help.

I have an interview scheduled at a very reputable company in my city, but it happens that it will be during VoC hours; and I need help, because I know it’s not a good time for anything (I know I need to walk alone, without needing help all the time; but that’s an issue that really concerns me).

I am doing an hour of Aura Clearing rituals daily and an hour of AoP daily.

I still do Ritual with Runes for employment, I am doing How to Obliterate Saturn, I am Programming my Aura, Positive Affirmation; outside the day's meditations.

What else can I do to not be harmed by VoC ??

Thanks

#37
Shaelsaid:
afl666said:

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Frankly, I think that what you lack is not faith or effort or anything like that. What you lack is staying-power and patience. I know this might sound harsh, but this is what I think.

If you look at this situation objectively, then doing meditations and rituals doesn't do anything negative about your situation in any way. So what does giving up do for you? Absolutely nothing. Giving up from meditations isn't gonna make your situation magically fix itself. What you need to do is to start more heavily relying on yourself to fix the situation. Not on the Gods, on Satan, or on someone here on the forums. I'm sure this may be very hard, but it's necessary if you want to get out of your shitty situation. Things wont fix themselves miraculously within a few days or weeks. It takes time. Start relying on yourself and applying your efforts consistently every day, staying patient for as long as it takes. You don't have anything to lose here anyways, really. The only reason you'd want to quit is because you'd prefer sulking to yourself and wallowing in self-pity instead of taking action. This is a habit that needs to be destroyed in full.

Hello,

I need urgent help.

I have an interview scheduled at a very reputable company in my city, but it happens that it will be during VoC hours; and I need help, because I know it’s not a good time for anything (I know I need to walk alone, without needing help all the time; but that’s an issue that really concerns me).

I am doing an hour of Aura Clearing rituals daily and an hour of AoP daily.

I still do Ritual with Runes for employment, I am doing How to Obliterate Saturn, I am Programming my Aura, Positive Affirmation; outside the day's meditations.

What else can I do to not be harmed by VoC ??

Thanks

#38
afl666said:

Thank you for sharing your experience.

This question of being able to vent about the trauma really helps a lot.

I kept all this for many years, but after I said everything that happened, I really felt lighter; especially after I posted on the Forum, because I was able to let off steam without having to worry about being a judge; since nobody knows me personally, nobody can see me.

I just wanted to say it is very brave for you to open up to us about your issues and how you're coping with it. You're a very strong person and I want to say it's very admirable that you're continuing to fight every day.

Being a victim of violence (rape) can be life changing, for the negative. It changes your perception and reality, causes deep wounds, is damaging to the self esteem, and can endanger your core beliefs about yourself, others, or the world. Often times these pain and scars makes life very difficult, sometimes to even function.

Don't let ANYONE shame you for being a victim, because it's not your fault that this happened to you.

The pain might not disappear over night with meditations, but it can certainly help smooth the process and make life easier day by day.

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

#39
afl666said:

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There is no way around the VoC regardless of how much protection or preparation you do for it. It will always fail. You will need to find a way to reschedule the interview one way or another. Try to make up an understandable reason for it and have them shift it to a time outside of the VoC. Even if this makes a weird first impression, it will still leave you with a 100x better chance of getting the job than if you try it during the VoC.

I think most companies will be understanding with this kind of thing, as long as you call for rescheduling atleast a week ahead of time and give them a proper reason.