Gender and Roles

[Satanic Eagle]

i'm a guy, currently in a long term relationship with another guy. I've always been a more effeminate male, but never really thought about gender or anything like that before much. But I've been feeling more and more like i should be a women, in the sense of having a family with my partner, and my role in the family. I feel more shit about it every day, knowing i can't have that.

I'm not about to go castrate myself or pump a bunch of estrogen into my body, but i want to know if there's anything i can do to help myself. I've felt like this for a few months and it doesn't seem to be going away. thanks in advance

p.s. the soul has no fixed gender right? so you can reincarnate as the opposite gender to your past life? what influences this or is it completely random

 

[Ghost in the Machine]

i'm a guy, currently in a long term relationship with another guy. I've always been a more effeminate male, but never really thought about gender or anything like that before much. But I've been feeling more and more like i should be a women, in the sense of having a family with my partner, and my role in the family. I feel more shit about it every day, knowing i can't have that.

I'm not about to go castrate myself or pump a bunch of estrogen into my body, but i want to know if there's anything i can do to help myself. I've felt like this for a few months and it doesn't seem to be going away. thanks in advance

p.s. the soul has no fixed gender right? so you can reincarnate as the opposite gender to your past life? what influences this or is it completely random

I don't quite understand when people say they feel they should be the other gender of what they are, like as soon as a girl enjoys watching transformers she believes she's supposed to have a dick or something.

There's nothing wrong with having feminine characteristics as a male, you're free to express this in a safe and healthy way and to just embrace it as part of who you are. I don't care if a guy pretties up his nails or decides to partake in the typical feminine fancies. You don't have to be a woman to do these things and if you feel like you should be some kind of 'mom' in some sort of family then get yourselves a pet or something to parent over.

 

[Desdemona_666]

I think that this part right here explains it all, these feelings started recently.


People with true gender dysphoria usually know from early childhood that “something is wrong”. They do not just wake up one day and say: “you know what, I am thinking I am woman/man”.


I think what you are experiencing is temporary, and it would be best to understand that you can express you femininity in various ways while still being a man. But, at the end of the day, you seem to be grown up person, so it’s your decision. I gave you advice as a friend would, I have no ill intentions.


Just do not come year or two later here crying that “you want your gender back”.

 

[FancyMancy]

Being feminine doesn't equal being female and being masculine doesn't equal being male.

 

[Aldrick Strickland]

i'm a guy, currently in a long term relationship with another guy. I've always been a more effeminate male, but never really thought about gender or anything like that before much. But I've been feeling more and more like i should be a women, in the sense of having a family with my partner, and my role in the family. I feel more shit about it every day, knowing i can't have that.

I'm not about to go castrate myself or pump a bunch of estrogen into my body, but i want to know if there's anything i can do to help myself. I've felt like this for a few months and it doesn't seem to be going away. thanks in advance

p.s. the soul has no fixed gender right? so you can reincarnate as the opposite gender to your past life? what influences this or is it completely random

Hooded Cobra said it perfectly. Gender and polarity are quite different. Mine fluctuate, from very very Masculine to affectionate. Ive never talked girly in voice or whatever.

But I like to really care for someone and become very affectionate. I love to cook. Then it can shift dramatically. But never would I see myself a woman.

Just be a fem polarity male.

 

[High Priest Zevios Metathronos]

Guys wanting to make a meal for someone doesn't make you a female gay or in total necessity to change your gender now or something.

It makes you someone who wants to make a meal. There is no point to go crazy with these things.

 

[Jack]

i'm a guy, currently in a long term relationship with another guy. I've always been a more effeminate male, but never really thought about gender or anything like that before much. But I've been feeling more and more like i should be a women, in the sense of having a family with my partner, and my role in the family. I feel more shit about it every day, knowing i can't have that.

I'm not about to go castrate myself or pump a bunch of estrogen into my body, but i want to know if there's anything i can do to help myself. I've felt like this for a few months and it doesn't seem to be going away. thanks in advance

p.s. the soul has no fixed gender right? so you can reincarnate as the opposite gender to your past life? what influences this or is it completely random

Hooded Cobra said it perfectly. Gender and polarity are quite different. Mine fluctuate, from very very Masculine to affectionate. Ive never talked girly in voice or whatever.

But I like to really care for someone and become very affectionate. I love to cook. Then it can shift dramatically. But never would I see myself a woman.

Just be a fem polarity male.

I know a serial player who cooks awesome food as he takes the girl back to his house. I need to learn this craft as well someday.

 

[Aldrick Strickland]

i'm a guy, currently in a long term relationship with another guy. I've always been a more effeminate male, but never really thought about gender or anything like that before much. But I've been feeling more and more like i should be a women, in the sense of having a family with my partner, and my role in the family. I feel more shit about it every day, knowing i can't have that.

I'm not about to go castrate myself or pump a bunch of estrogen into my body, but i want to know if there's anything i can do to help myself. I've felt like this for a few months and it doesn't seem to be going away. thanks in advance

p.s. the soul has no fixed gender right? so you can reincarnate as the opposite gender to your past life? what influences this or is it completely random

Hooded Cobra said it perfectly. Gender and polarity are quite different. Mine fluctuate, from very very Masculine to affectionate. Ive never talked girly in voice or whatever.

But I like to really care for someone and become very affectionate. I love to cook. Then it can shift dramatically. But never would I see myself a woman.

Just be a fem polarity male.

I know a serial player who cooks awesome food as he takes the girl back to his house. I need to learn this craft as well someday.

No no no. I cook cuz I love food. Girl picking up skillz is not the reason to partake in yummy food.

Just made stir fry with organic ingredients and non soy sauce. Havent had asian food in so long since we cant eat at asian restauraunts.

Yum ^^ Delicious!

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

How is there anybody who doesn't know how to cook? How are they alive? How could they exist like that? Do they just have 1 single thing that they know how to make, and eat that same thing every day, until they die from nutrient deficiencies?

Water, Food, Shelter, Fire (warmth). And you don't need to cook water into something else because it's already water, so food is the most important ability.