For the ones who struggle with dealing with people in real life because of opinions/beliefs etc..

[Goldenwings]

( im talking in this thread about real life , since its easy to get along with people in this forum with" the real you "as we hold same or similar beliefs and opinions, but you know how it is like in real life)

If your real personality ( beliefs , opinions, interests etc..) cant get along with people around you, thats normal, and here is how i solved it years ago

I felt the same, solution is i created multiple personalities( im just doing it automatically i dont feel like acting you can start with 2 personalities( its actually enough): the real you and the one you use to interact) i wear a different mask depending on whom im talking with, and my real personality is only revealed to the ones that are very close , for example sometimes in real life im wearing muslim mask, sometimes i may be an open minded muslim, sometimes "maybe" he is an athiest, and sometimes even a muslim glorifying satan( it may sound weird but i can do that ),depends since when i do otherwise i face problems

Also personality with neighbors is not same in work, not same while shopping, not same in a relationship, etc..

I see it like if you are in a farm, you cant have same personality with bulls/pigs/rabits/horses... ( Im not degrading humans, but an example that will make you understand is better than playing hide and seek) Everyone responds to different techniques and everyone has special ways of dealing with, if you treat a horse same way you treat a rabbit he wont like that you dont have control you will mostly have problems unless if he is very gentle, also you cant ride a bull or milk a pig

its just different, this is often observed in men who start deep conversations with women they try to be in relationship with, start debating the matrix or whatever in first date and by consequence the women lose interest , and he thinks he didnt do something wrong

Wrong personality wrong place, besides if you "need nothing" besides if you can handle opposition, besides if you just dont care besides if you have more than enough options, besides if you like to troll, besides if you like to assert whoever you are, its better in real life to create comforming personalities that help you achieve what you want or just navigate life without unnecessary problems

But there are people in real life that i can talk to them with my real personality,however if i do same with others i get hurt, so i just show one 5% of my real me , another 10% another 50% then i feel opposition and i tune it down 35% then the problem vanish and so on, i figure out quickly the percentage one is comfortable with and i generally interact with him with that

This technique im using myself in real life and its working perfectly for me

 

[Tethys333]

I don't particularly agree with the concept of “multiple personalities.” Based on how you describe it, a better way to define it would be pretending to be something you are not in order to protect yourself. This is logical when you are faced with a potential enemy (whether Jewish, Muslim, or others) because they could hurt you. But when faced with “andrapoda” people (I WILL IGNORE THE SPIRITUAL POINT OF VIEW, WHICH MUST ALWAYS BE HIDDEN), my advice is to behave as you are: with your own passions, your own hobbies, your own character. There is no law that says you have to get along with everyone, and it is also okay not to get along with some people.

I further disagree when you talk about relationships between men and women during a date. I believe that your multiple personalities are very wrong there. When you are on a date, I don't think there is anything more right than showing yourself to the other person as you are.

You can't pretend to be someone you're not just to please the other person; you would both be unhappy. There is no prototype for a man or woman, but they must be compatible with you and your ideals. If you don't know the real him or her, how can you really like them? If you want to impress someone, you just have to be yourself. If they like you, it means there is potential for a deeper relationship; otherwise, nothing happens and everyone goes back to their everyday lives.


If a person has difficulty relating to others in their life, well, they also need to work on themselves. People are often convinced that others are always the problem, failing to recognize that perhaps they themselves have something to improve.

Meditation also helps in these respects: increasing charisma, boosting self-esteem, and so on.

But first of all, we need to face reality, understand that this is how we are and that's okay, and if we know we can improve, we shouldn't waste time and do it immediately. Meditation, said Shiva, serves to flood every cell of our body with happiness. If improving our charisma or improving ourselves in general makes us happy, then let's meditate. But I don't think multiple personalities can actually help. On the contrary, I am convinced that people would feel worse and, above all, lost because they would not feel like themselves.

Our goal is to improve, not to feel bad.

 

[Aquarius]

Since you're creating so many threads you could perhaps create a thread called GoldenWings's thread, and post them all in there.

 

[Goldenwings]

Since you're creating so many threads you could perhaps create a thread called GoldenWings's thread, and post them all in there.

Thank you for your reply
Is this actually possible? Or do you mean i should post in my profil instead ? Or not post at all, im okay with whatever the forum rules are