What is difficult is that the same behaviors which can promote self-development and spiritual advancement are often intense, private, and overall yin-based, which is different from the nature of social expression, which is normally yang.
Therefore, it can be a genuine expression of your own desires and comforts as a Zevist that you prefer to talk and act in more private or intentional ways. At the same time, we have to recognize where this can differ from traditional social expressions.
Although going out to eat is interpersonally light, its nature as something everyone can enjoy and easily do is what makes it popular as a stepping stone to deeper interactions, which is what most of these "normie" behaviors are. What may appear as a lack of depth is a structural choice that promotes for ease of engagement with others.
As Zevists, we can transform, advance, and create for ourselves not just comfort, but also manifested social power and prowess through our workings. Runes and energies similar to Wunjo, Sowilo, Gebo, or Ehwaz can all advance our social expression and behaviors in their own ways. For God's rituals, two close options are Hathor and Aphrodite, both of which have elements relating to love and joy.