What fuck is the point of envy/jealousy? Why would someone do this?

[sinbad]

I don't understand why someone would do this.

I excused this person's behaviour because I thought all those years ago, their betrayal was due to misunderstanding of which they felt justified to hurt me.

But today I found out they did it out of pure envy, jealousy and malice.

Their actions led to a chain of events which cost me the last 10 years of extreme pain and sufferring.

Prior to that, my life was perfect. I did not understand why, but people loved me automatically, even those I did not know. Everyone would compliment me and praise me behind my back and literally revered me - no one had any issues with me. And only positive things to say. I had everything. Handsomeness, charisma, girls, money, gifts from strangers, 190 IQ top of everything instant master of every skill I attempted, life was a movie. I was practically a local celebrity.

And it was totally unconscious on my part. I did not even know why people treated me well, I just existed and was authentically myself. Absolutely unconscious about anything.

And I guess he hated that fact. And this was a male too btw, I did not expect this indirect bullshit feminine sabotage from a guy. If he wanted to fight it out we could've just done so.

He literally tried to mould his life and personality after mine after this and still copies me

I was a sweet and innocent boy back then who showed only kindness and warmth to everyone. Never had a single bad thought or intention to another soul in my life - not even a tiny bit, not even for a single second.

And this person became my friend for no other reason than to destroy me. But why? I even gave them money when I had barely enough for myself, friendship, help with their difficulties, trusted them.

But they only got close to me in order to sabotage and ruin my life, social life and reputation because they felt inferior

They even pretended I wronged them somehow, to guilt me. Spread fake screenshots of texts. Lied about me.

All these years I thought it was my own fault.

For what fucking reason?

Why would someone even do this, logically? I don't understand envy/jealousy or why it exists.

The spiral after that led to my complete downfall. My neurosurgeon university prospects, everything went to shit. Sufferred in complete loneliness and isolation which deterioriated my social skills.

Not only did they rob me of my youth, but all the people I would've naturally helped with my generosity had they not done this.

What the fuck is envy and what purpose does it serve as a human emotion

What drives a person to do this?

I even forgave, and made excuses not to curse him, because I thought it was stupidity or misunderstanding on his part.

But I am having second thoughts.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

I don't understand why someone would do this.

I excused this person's behaviour because I thought all those years ago, their betrayal was due to misunderstanding of which they felt justified to hurt me.

But today I found out they did it out of pure envy, jealousy and malice.

Their actions led to a chain of events which cost me the last 10 years of extreme pain and sufferring.

Prior to that, my life was perfect. I did not understand why, but people loved me automatically, even those I did not know. Everyone would compliment me and praise me behind my back and literally revered me - no one had any issues with me. And only positive things to say. I had everything. Handsomeness, charisma, girls, money, gifts from strangers, 190 IQ top of everything instant master of every skill I attempted, life was a movie. I was practically a local celebrity.

And it was totally unconscious on my part. I did not even know why people treated me well, I just existed and was authentically myself. Absolutely unconscious about anything.

And I guess he hated that fact. And this was a male too btw, I did not expect this indirect bullshit feminine sabotage from a guy. If he wanted to fight it out we could've just done so.

He literally tried to mould his life and personality after mine after this and still copies me

I was a sweet and innocent boy back then who showed only kindness and warmth to everyone. Never had a single bad thought or intention to another soul in my life - not even a tiny bit, not even for a single second.

And this person became my friend for no other reason than to destroy me. But why? I even gave them money when I had barely enough for myself, friendship, help with their difficulties, trusted them.

But they only got close to me in order to sabotage and ruin my life, social life and reputation because they felt inferior

They even pretended I wronged them somehow, to guilt me. Spread fake screenshots of texts. Lied about me.

All these years I thought it was my own fault.

For what fucking reason?

Why would someone even do this, logically? I don't understand envy/jealousy or why it exists.

The spiral after that led to my complete downfall. My neurosurgeon university prospects, everything went to shit. Sufferred in complete loneliness and isolation which deterioriated my social skills.

Not only did they rob me of my youth, but all the people I would've naturally helped with my generosity had they not done this.

What the fuck is envy and what purpose does it serve as a human emotion

What drives a person to do this?

I even forgave, and made excuses not to curse him, because I thought it was stupidity or misunderstanding on his part.

But I am having second thoughts.

Some people are evil and sociopathic, you learned a lesson.

Now you won’t be kind to everyone because not everyone deserves that type of treatment, some need to be crushed like cockroaches.

Learn and move on and grow again. He might be the trigger that caused your downfall but the downfall was yours, and we fall so we can rise up harder and more mature.

You’ve learned discernment, it’s a gift because being kind and true without borders and infinite generosity will bring downfall, if not with that person with another person in a higher level.

 

[Acolyte Of Pan 666]

The answer is that this person had a very low, negative view of themselves. It was never about you. They felt really shitty about themselves and projected that insecurity into you by seeing in their eyes how much better than them you are.

You just happened to be the target of this person’s projection.

Jealousy is never about the other guy, it’s about seeing the ideal version of oneself in others but not in oneself, creating a strong emotional dissonance. They don’t just feel robbed by you but by fate itself, and ruining you is “getting back” at fate much more than it is about going after you.

It’s parasitic and will only make this person feel shittier about themselves the more they do this and dwell in this. All they think they can do is pull others down but if they just tried to lift themselves up, they could end that parasitic cycle and stop being envious as they’ll get what they wanted if they put in the work.