relationchip advice

[siscool397]

So i met this girl and shes obsessed with me the only problem is she has a bunch of bad qualitys that i dont like and most of them she is fixing it seems. I think she was a girlfriend in a past life that was really good looking but i ignored or did something bad and she killed herself and i regretted it so much i remember it in this life. she doesnt really have a life either she is a babysitter and isnt planning on going back to school and she is taking an instrest in my spiritual intrests but i have this really bad feeling that if i break it off with her i will really regret it, and history will repeat itself in a bad way. I know if i do she will be heartbroken. I do care for her a lot its just that she doesnt feel like shes right for me in the sense that she has lots of bad qualitys that get in the way of my ss and the rest of my life. I know you will most likly tell me to just get it over with and dump her and just be friends. But what if that is not the right way to handle this? i went on a date with someone else today that i like more so i have to figure it out soon.

 

[jonathon_billing]

1. I would figure out what I want to do with my life, my main goal/mission. Then work back from that.
E.g. One of my main goals is to become a God, so everyday I meditate.

2. You could try a cost/benefit analysis. What are the positive/negative of staying with her.

3. The "right" way to handle things depends on what you value. What things you value more/less than others. Do you value her sex, more than her company? Do you value her sex more than spiritual advancement, by how much so? Is there other ways you can get both, etc.

4. There are decision making tools (like flow-charts) out there.

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So i met this girl and shes obsessed with me the only problem is she has a bunch of bad qualitys that i dont like and most of them she is fixing it seems. I think she was a girlfriend in a past life that was really good looking but i ignored or did something bad and she killed herself and i regretted it so much i remember it in this life. she doesnt really have a life either she is a babysitter and isnt planning on going back to school and she is taking an instrest in my spiritual intrests but i have this really bad feeling that if i break it off with her i will really regret it, and history will repeat itself in a bad way. I know if i do she will be heartbroken. I do care for her a lot its just that she doesnt feel like shes right for me in the sense that she has lots of bad qualitys that get in the way of my ss and the rest of my life. I know you will most likly tell me to just get it over with and dump her and just be friends. But what if that is not the right way to handle this? i went on a date with someone else today that i like more so i have to figure it out soon.