Question #3916: I find motherhood offensive

[Ask Satya Operator]

Hi I know its wrong but I dont know why I feel ashamed and offended by motherhood.I love my mother and Im a woman but I feel uncomfortable when I think about getting married and become a mother.I dont want to be like this but even thinking about me and my siblings getting married and have children is disgusting.I wish we could always be children and know nothing of sex.
I know its wrong to feel this way but I dont know what to do
The first time I learnt about sex I couldnt eat well for 2 weeks.Im not a kid anymore but this feeling is still with me

 

[Crystal Lake]

When I was in middle school, my thoughts about getting married and have children were very similar to yours. I think the point is to become mature and stop being a child.

If you are an adult and still feel sick about getting married and have children, in my opinion, I think you need to clean your 2nd chakra.

 

[phi3.14infinity]

If you don't like marriage,it's completely your choice ..Do what you are actually comfortable with ..But since you actually disgust motherhood,it may be due to past life hangups because of which your disgusted,do meditations and yoga

 

[High Priestess Lydia]

A lot of opinions and thoughts are based on subconscious traumas, even from past lives. Many people in the past were forced into marriage before they were ready, or with someone they hated, or for bad reasons, or were raped.

As you clean your chakras and soul and advance yourself, then your true self and true feelings/opinions will shine brighter. Maybe you won't ever have children, maybe you will decide you do want children, time will tell.

 

[AFODO]

Sex is a must in a Human life and is very natural. I'm not sure if you are disgusted about sex or motherhood, as they are two different things, but from what I can tell, both?
As HPS Lydia said, this is connected to your karma, and as you purify your soul this will go away.

I always thought that someone disgusted about sex stems from their childish behavior, but now I know it can be a much deeper problem.

 

[AFODO]

No. This sounds absolutely wrong and against JoS to me. Sex is absolutely not necessary for development, since both relationships and orgasm (what you need from sex except children) are possible without it. Again there are people who can use sex for this but this is not necessary. Platonic relationships are absolutely normal and natural for many people, while these many people get the deepest orgasm not from sex, but from a light touch or even just from thoughts. Thought orgasm and spiritual sex is real, if it's not peculiar to you personally, it doesn't mean it's not peculiar to everyone. Don't spread misinformation, please. That's why JoS doesn't enforce anything into people's privacy - because everyone's private needs are different, and that's why we have the Demon Lovers page. Because there are some people for whom that is the only appropriate relationship.

The default healthy life is when one has a sexual partner. Do you think there is any Demon who never had sex? I don't think so.

Maybe there are some people who do not want to have sex, or masturbation is more satisfying for them, but there are also people who jerk off to furry porn so that's that.

And every sexual interaction is Sex.

A sex act is sexual contact between two or more persons by penetration of the penis into the vagina or anus; contact between the mouth and genitalia or by contact between the genitalia of one person and the genitalia or anus of another person; contact between the finger or hand of one person and the genitalia or anus ...

Spirit sex is also sex.

These are something that one must experience in life, let alone the reproduction part of all this.

 

[Wotanwarrior]

A lot of opinions and thoughts are based on subconscious traumas, even from past lives. Many people in the past were forced into marriage before they were ready, or with someone they hated, or for bad reasons, or were raped.

As you clean your chakras and soul and advance yourself, then your true self and true feelings/opinions will shine brighter. Maybe you won't ever have children, maybe you will decide you do want children, time will tell.

Being forced to marry someone you don't love or even dislike for family or even political reasons can remain as a trauma in your soul for many lifetimes, especially if it happened several times.

 

[Novice Priest Karnonnos]

A lot of opinions and thoughts are based on subconscious traumas, even from past lives. Many people in the past were forced into marriage before they were ready, or with someone they hated, or for bad reasons, or were raped.

As you clean your chakras and soul and advance yourself, then your true self and true feelings/opinions will shine brighter. Maybe you won't ever have children, maybe you will decide you do want children, time will tell.

This is really important. The other reason for women can include really traumatic childbirth as it was common for women to die back then, or misery over losing children.

Religious filth blaming women for any misery they endured with the 'curse of Eve' logic didn't help here. There was not much consolation for any loss.

Another thing is that society pushes out so many 'ideas' of sex that may be alien to a person's preferred experiences. Pushing endless content either obsessively positive about or extremely negative in regard to sex, weddings and children (especially with insisting any of these has to cost the earth or can't be done whatsoever due to 'lack of money') that people can become really overwhelmed at a young age and not want anything to do with them.

 

[Aquarius]

What does madly Platonically Being in Love mean ?

To love someone without the sexual feelings.

 

[Gerecht_Ror]

The first time I learnt about sex I couldnt eat well for 2 weeks.Im not a kid anymore but this feeling is still with me

As HPS Lydia said this is often due to traumas.
I see many cases of traumatized people on here recently (mostly because I tend to look for those threads to contribute).
Sexual life is personal and different for each of us, but feeling bad about sex is not normal as it's part of human existence.

In case trauma comes from this life, you will need first to detach your soul from any kind of offender/abuser.
In case this comes from past lives, cleaning the soul meditation (search for Visuddhi meditation from HPS Lydia to be performed right after FRTR) to remove past chains and links, and curses, should be of help.
Also reading books on PTSD and how this affects the mind of traumatized people, may be of help. I found working with conscious mind on information, may trigger internal unconscious process directing towards healing, as a side working to meditations.

 

[Dragonheart666]

Explain! To me what Platoniclly means....? That sounds"....pretty BORING! not much to offer..one another..i would get some psychiatic help,
And learn! To be human. And learn to love yourself... And find your inner Goddess. ️ Sharing love, with someone Is PRICELESS!!
AND BEING sexuality intimate is everything! And bringing life! To this world " and being a mom is a gift! And it is BEAUTIFUL!!! You are Bringing and creating. As a woman. And learning how! to love and give love. Because you are love. And loved!

 

[Henu the Great]

Explain! To me what Platoniclly means....? That sounds"....pretty BORING! not much to offer..one another..i would get some psychiatic help,
And learn! To be human. And learn to love yourself... And find your inner Goddess. ️ Sharing love, with someone Is PRICELESS!!
AND BEING sexuality intimate is everything! And bringing life! To this world " and being a mom is a gift! And it is BEAUTIFUL!!! You are Bringing and creating. As a woman. And learning how! to love and give love. Because you are love. And loved!

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To each their own, and so, please understand others might love differently than you.

 

[Ĥl·lĥæ]

platonic love – Qwant Search

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To each their own, and so, please understand others might love differently than you.

It's been said here many times that asexuality is a disease, and I particularly believe that it's a blockage of the sacral and laryngeal chakra pairs.
That's probably what it is
Every human being with a sexual organ and a sentimental and sexual chakra should at some point feel attracted to something of this nature.
It's inevitable

Anyway, something like that is cured over time.
Someone with this kind of mental illness doesn't need to blame themselves and automatically do healing work that Lydia has already posted about.
Just yoga and cleansing without thinking too much about it would solve the problem

 

[Dragonheart666]

Okay. ❤ I understand. And I appreciate you explaining this.

 

[Henu the Great]

It's been said here many times that asexuality is a disease, and I particularly believe that it's a blockage of the sacral and laryngeal chakra pairs.
That's probably what it is
Every human being with a sexual organ and a sentimental and sexual chakra should at some point feel attracted to something of this nature.
It's inevitable

Anyway, something like that is cured over time.
Someone with this kind of mental illness doesn't need to blame themselves and automatically do healing work that Lydia has already posted about.
Just yoga and cleansing without thinking too much about it would solve the problem

I think you might be conflating things a bit here. I am not entirely sure that platonic love and being asexual is the same thing. If you ponder about this seriously you might come to the same conclusion.

 

[Ĥl·lĥæ]

I think you might be conflating things a bit here. I am not entirely sure that platonic love and being asexual is the same thing. If you ponder about this seriously you might come to the same conclusion.

Then I'll take a closer look