Jack said:
sunrise said:
let me tell you my female perspective.
I need to fall immediately for a guy, I don't mean in bed, but in lust, love that type of thing.
It never took me about several meetings to figure out if I like somebody or not. It is at first glance. Men who were rejected were trying and keep trying due to their hunting nature, but I was always upfront in regards to 'attraction'. No today is always no. You need to figure out if a 'no' is like some sort of delay or a serious 'no'.
The attraction is there or not. I mean, hopefully, you are not forcing things in a way. Hopefully, you are not, as you will always have to 'maintain' something that wasn't there naturally in the first place. Will be like some sort of struggle which you don't want. And the satisfaction will be only temporary.
My opinion, you want a woman that would see you irresistible from the start, you owe this to yourself. I hope you are not getting into some sort of DANGEROUS AMBITION as you will lose now or later, first of all, a lot of time, energy, then resources...
You need to be proud enough to not see yourself less worthy just because a woman doesn't respond to you as you wish.
I would work on my aura in your place. Program it to attract suitable/compatible partners that would find me 'irresistible' in accordance with my nature AND IN MUTUAL SATISFACTION...this sort of thing. You want a 2-way thing where you don't break your pride but, at the same time, don't 'force' either situations.
You want love to be like a thing that just happens as a natural FLOW sort of magic.
I don't like manipulation when it comes to love, of any sort.
at the same time, I don't mean to discourage you doing your thing either, it is just a perspective.
Love can be developed gradually. I think what your describing here is lust, that genetic attraction you get for high value dudes. If you then keep thinking about this it might turn into love.
Sex appeal is everything. You see a woman you are attracted, you fall in love.
First, let's make a distinction between 'FALLING' aka lust and that deep love you are talking about. There are two different aspects. Two different things BUT they emerge one from the other.
If you fall 'gradually' then it is something artificial there.
Falling in love is ONLY at first sight. Never at the 2nd, 3rd.
If, you don't initially fall, or have that sort of lust, don't tell me you will eventually love deeply that person one day. You can't.
Unless you do it for the sake of being in a couple with a person which you came to the LOGICAL and/or INTELECTUAL conclusion (after some time in a friendship), that you can work out something together.
Which is again, artificial.
it Is like ...ok, we look fine together socially, etc logically speaking, we seem to match = let's be together. I see zero sparklings here.
When in fact you should do this (all the logical process) AFTER you initially 'fell'.
I will go even deeper than that. Let me tell a short story. I once a long time ago fall for a guy, Didn't know shit about him. He was a journalist, writing shit, Read an article. Fall immediately. Didn't know how he looked like, didn't even care. Meet him shortly after this. This exemplary was a mirror for me physically, NOT only that I liked the way he 'thinks' hence the appreciation for the so-called articles, but IT CAME OUT TO BE A MIRROR OF MY PHYSICAL TRAITS. From here on, an incredible love story emerged.
So, the metaphysical aspect of love is quite complex but simple at the same time. It is spiritual in its essence. I don't know. I would like to be able to explain it like math, the same with the fact that I would like to know EXACTLY how energy works.
So again, you cannot fall gradually, but gradually you can love more or less, depending on the evolution of other aspects, and levels.
I Know people who fall bit by bit but something artificial is there, something BORING. If you need time to figure out what you feel for somebody is really nothing there, you feel it or not.
BUT and at the end, what you do with that 'feeling' is another story.