How to stop being “nice”?

[Acolyte Of Pan 666]

You put others on a pedestal cause you have low self esteem.

Stop putting others above you.

Throw out anyone who don’t treat you right. They ain’t worth shit.

Don’t use people. That’s mean. Mean is bad.

Not telling you to be a bitch either.

You don’t have to choose between being a dick or being a bitch. Just be a man. Treat everyone rightly and justly but don’t let them step on u. If they’re shit then shit them out of your life and move on.



Just rule breh. You don’t need to bring down nobody. That’s what parasites do.

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[Epiphany]

How do I stop being the “nice” and good person in romantic relationships?

I don’t want to be the person who loves and loses anymore. I want to be the person who uses people then throws them away.

Gross. You don't need to be a scumbag, and quality people will be repulsed by you. Just grow some backbone. Read Richard Cooper.

 

[Inquisitor⥀Veritas]

Are you generally a nice person? if so then i would say that you should just be yourself, if you aren't being YOU then your not really doing yourself any favors. And if you have to be someone else that isn't you then can you say your actually being authentic? Why should you have to pretend to be someone else for the reason of love and relationships? You will find someone who loves you for YOU Mercury-Wisdom. You really shouldn't pretend to be someone your not. Being who we are truly are is what is important in this world, Don't put a mask on for others sake.

 

[NinRick]

How do I stop being the “nice” and good person in romantic relationships?

I don’t want to be the person who loves and loses anymore. I want to be the person who uses people then throws them away.

What workings can I do to achieve this?

There is a difference between being „needy“ and being dependent on your partner and being a scum bag haha

You can be a kind, and very loving person, but at the same time don’t think that she is the most important thing in your life and keep doing your own things.

Good Luck!

 

[MercuryWisdom]

Are you generally a nice person? if so then i would say that you should just be yourself, if you aren't being YOU then your not really doing yourself any favors. And if you have to be someone else that isn't you then can you say your actually being authentic? Why should you have to pretend to be someone else for the reason of love and relationships? You will find someone who loves you for YOU Mercury-Wisdom. You really shouldn't pretend to be someone your not. Being who we are truly are is what is important in this world, Don't put a mask on for others sake.

I’m never being vulnerable again, it’s very dumb honestly, I have no idea why I do this.

It’s not good to be pure, loving, etc.

Even if someone loves you for you or whatever it always ends badly if you love purely and is vulnerable.

I don’t want to love truly ever again, just use people sexually, and always have this distance.

It’s not smart to be vulnerable.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

If that is who you decide to be then I will have no use for you and I will throw you away. So would anybody with any sense.

I’m talking regarding romance and sex, so frankly I have no idea why you would want to use me Epiphany.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

Spoken like a true sociopath as far as i know.. and I know, the right amount of pain and disappointment will blacken your Heart and Soul and turn you into a proper fuckboy. It's a life of loneliness and a long list of people who would like to kill you.. do you really want that or some TV show made It look appealing?

Yeah sounds nice. Loneliness is already there so.. and I poured my whole heart and more a couple of times so there’s not much to pour.

Sex sounds nice, I don’t mind being a fuckboy who just doesn’t care but about himself, what has caring for other people brought me?

I’m already building my business, body, and mindset.
I’m going to buy a car and a place with my own money and just have sex with different people, and enjoy it. And travel.

I wanted to get married and built all these dreams with a person but it’s all worthless, in the end everyone chooses him/herself. Not the first time, won’t be the last.

But sex sounds nice.

 

[Ĥl·lĥæ]

You can't pretend to be something you're not, it's impossible, one day you'll be manipulable again.
If you just want to use people, then start having casual sex, not dating.
Your only obligation will be to spend some money on random things and then unload and leave.
At the end of the day, within the framework of what I've just said, no one will come out badly, and everyone will win.

 

[Inquisitor⥀Veritas]

I’m never being vulnerable again, it’s very dumb honestly, I have no idea why I do this.

It’s not good to be pure, loving, etc.

Even if someone loves you for you or whatever it always ends badly if you love purely and is vulnerable.

I don’t want to love truly ever again, just use people sexually, and always have this distance.

It’s not smart to be vulnerable.

You can certainly be YOU, and also protect yourself at the same time.

 

[Kaemythra]

If every time someone treated us badly, abandoned us or any other act that hurt us, we started being bad, I honestly don't know where humanity would be, and unfortunately it's at a very bad level. You decide what you think is best for your life, do you want to have multiple partners? Go ahead. But there's nothing better than being a good person, both for yourself and for others, if someone has managed to destabilize you from this level that you want to go down to a low level that is using people (which it is) then you have to work much harder on yourself, forget about others, you are you and you only control what you do and think, you don't control how they will react towards you or what they think. I don't know what happened to you to come to this conclusion, but I'm sorry for your pain. But there's another thing, it's impossible to live and never get hurt or disappointed, life is like that, it has its ups and downs, you'll end up hurting and disappointing people too. Don't be another idiot, be yourself, that GOOD person! Leave when you realize you don't fit in. In the end, even if it takes a while, you'll be recognized and guess who will recognize that? Other good people who are worth being around. Everything passes in life and that's great.
Stay safe !

 

[serpentwalker666]

How do I stop being the “nice” and good person in romantic relationships?

I don’t want to be the person who loves and loses anymore. I want to be the person who uses people then throws them away.

What workings can I do to achieve this?

None, because this isn't beneficial to your development.

You don't want to use people, this isn't good for you or them.

This would be a bad exchange and harmful to all involved.

Sure, one could say fleeting casual sex or things of that nature are fine. But one has to ask oneself if this is truly fulfilling them in the long term, as most people want deeply committed relationships and or to build strong families.

Try to reflect on why you are feeling this way, as this may not be good for your advancement to try to push something like this, and have negative, unexpected outcomes.

 

[Deep Darkness]

Book: No more Mr Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover

 

[Chrysallida]

Perhaps you're being nice and a good person, but not confident enough? If you use people and throw them away, at one point you will surely regret this. That's quite a common way to generate bad karma. If you happen to reincarnate later and all people treat you like trash, then you'll won't understand why there are treating you so badly. You might even get a "curse" if you throw away a decent woman that happened to have a nice family supporting her. You wouldn't want an angry mother or father cursing you because you behaved like an asshole. Just saying this because my brother dumped his first girlfriend in a very bad way and her father got really pissed off. Later for some reason he spent decades switching relationships, almost every year. Oddly, every women he had didn't have a father alive (and with that, father issues). Just because we are zevists, that don't mean we can step on people and use them as we please. Even if you're being serious enough to have a decent relationship and the girl isn't appreciating you the way that you think that you deserve, please understand that people are confused. Feminists and incels are all over the place and everyone think that the "right path" should be left or right and never considers that there exists a middle between them. If you want to be more casual, then try for a moment. If you feel fine with it, then you discovered something new about yourself. But, if you start feeling uneasy and bad for it, then try to be true to yourself, don't ever lie to yourself when you feel that something's not right.

 

[tandt]

How do I stop being the “nice” and good person in romantic relationships?

I don’t want to be the person who loves and loses anymore. I want to be the person who uses people then throws them away.

What workings can I do to achieve this?

To add, these days be careful, being the "fuck boy" will end you in disaster. I mean STIs and STDs.
As Zevists we can use the knowledge we have to attract happy relationships and have family if you want.
I am a person who favours stability rather than walking everywhere fucking everyone

 

[MercuryWisdom]

Hello everyone.

You can ignore this post as it’s no longer relevant to what I think about all this.

I was feeling a bit emotional and was triggered by a couple of movies tying into my life as well.

I’m still young and figuring it all out.
But I’m actually doing great in my personal life at this point, growing daily.

 

[Eratessa]

How do I stop being the “nice” and good person in romantic relationships?

I don’t want to be the person who loves and loses anymore. I want to be the person who uses people then throws them away.

What workings can I do to achieve this?

being a nice person is not a bad thing. on the contrary, it is wise to treat deserving people nice. i think you shouldn't treat everyone the same way. not everyone will react good, not everyone is as kind as you. you can work with asmodeus, he is very helpful about gaining self respect and power.