Aldrick said:
That makes sense to me.
There is nothing wrong with feminine men or masculine women. This has always been a thing. I mean look at the Gods. Their true forms are not exactly viking.
But I have never understood chopping your dick off. The past clergy supported this, but never gave any reasonable explanation. So it hung around for years.
I actually in general had always been attracted to more feminine men as a result of having more solar or masculine qualities so me and my ex had this dynamic for a long time, although he balanced out abit later which i found even better. He actually had a really heavy transgender phase and was at this point for awhile, even at the " i want to chop it off part." luckily he got himself out of that. he would go from ups and downs in moodswings to taking hormones and then all of a sudden not. very caring and nuturing over all but also could be quite unstable.
He liked to crossdress..alot. loved shopping more than me lmao.
He found out he was Bi after cheating on me with 2 other guys. Hey, you love who you love, but cheating is cheating. Cried his eyes out when i packed.
I think the trouble with this is, and i noticed this with him as well, people who dont conform to gender norms ie more masculine women or more feminine men are bashed into thinking they have to fit their gender stereotype, so then they start thinking they are in the wrong body. It was a combination of this and trauma he endured as a child. his father was also a dirtbag and left him alone with a very overbearing and emotionally burdensome mother.
Me growing up the way i did, from always getting picked on from being a tomboy and wearing boys cloths (later on that stopped, save for when i was in uniform or working in the shop), to playing on the school football team, Enlisting in the national guard for 6 years, to then becoming a welder and almost always having nothing but male friends since i was a kid, nah..i never thought i was a boy. In fact. Always felt comfortable with my body and who i was.
Only thing that bothered me at times was especially when i got older was how i seemed to walk as a shadow between two worlds especially socially...didn't identify too much with other women, but guys would take it the wrong way if you just wanted to be friends :roll:
Hilariously enough, later on in life i discovered that i was actually also extremely feminine. I feel like ive got fire and water at the same time and im at a point where im not sure which should dominate or if one should at all haha. at one time i thought i was all fire...these days not so sure.
my ex was definately mostly water. i started noticing a pattern that i am very attracted to water people.