A girl falling for me, issues..

[MercuryWisdom]

Hello brothers and sisters.
So I’m getting to know this new girl, who’s attracted to me and starting to get close and open up to me.

However, there are issues in this ordeal, most prominent one is, she’s muslim, and she takes this stuff seriously, and religion is usually included in her advice, affection, etc. in a caring way, however we all know what islam is really like.

In the past when I was less mature, I would react against this and let them know upfront I’m not that much into religion and be honest and true, didn’t end well. Just them knowing I don’t have the same mindset regarding religion can be problematic.

Right now, I just go with the flow and “act”. However, I know any relationship with that girl is doomed to fail mainly due to the religion thingy and that I’m not super into her.

She’s also loyal, and is looking for marriage only, so any type of relationship would be with the end goal of engagement then marriage, islamic marriage ofc.

Now the girl herself isn’t bad, she’s sweet, kind, affectionate, and naive in a way, also sensitive and was hurt before. I’m trying to be nice to her and treat her well.

This was a good thing at the beginning since I was feeling way too lonely and was lacking interaction with the opposite sex.

Now, I’m overall having slightly more abundance of the opposite sex or love interests/crushes, but this girl is also starting to fall for me and open up, she wants to be serious, I’m usually serious and loyal too, but I feel like I can’t be with her, she’s good to me but she isn’t the one.

I’m honestly more interested at this point in my life in more casual/sexual/flirty relations which she can’t satisfy.

How should I deal with this? I don’t feel like cutting ties, because I’m holding on to the affection she provides, but I’m not what she wants either and I can’t be.

Is there also a possible working/spell to attract casual/sexual/flirtatious types of relationships with people who are compatible and also none-religious/more liberal?

Also, can you also give me workings or tips to become more attractive/flirtatious myself?

I feel like I’m always the serious/obsessive/sensitive guy in any relationship, sometimes I just wish I can be the cool “fuckboi” who has multiple options of women that are attracted towards him, I hope I’m understood.

I just feel tired of my nature in love and wish I can just let loose and attract whoever I want than having to obsess or seeking to please someone. Is that possible?

Part of wanting this is because I’m way too attracted to fire and air women, despite having difficulty with compatibility because my type of love is different, it’s deep and solid like the ocean and the mountains.

However, I’m also deeply turned off by water women and some earth types which is counter-intuitive and weird but how it is for me since I was very young, I would naturally be obsessed with the popular/pretty fire/air types despite me not being the type of guy they’re attracted to, which is sad and hurts, somehow.

 

[Wega]

Hello brother @MercuryWisdom
I decided to reply as a year ago I was in a situationship with a girl who was muslim. We were so into eachother, but she was reading their trash book, etc.

Truth is, this helped me realize a lot of things back then about how we should treat such occurrences in our lives.

Unless we do a magical working to potentially attract a Zevist partner, we are going to meet mostly partners that are not on the same spiritual path.
This is not entirely a bad thing and here is why:

We are of Zeus. Through our spiritual path we are coming closer to the Gods and they are here to assist us in such matters if it concerns our well-being.
My personal experience was that I was somehow down to marry the girl even though she was muslim, I even had sex with her and was living in this fantasy world where she could be converted to a Zevism in the end.
I talked about the girl to Astarte after doing her Power Ritual.

Shortly after some things happened and magicallly we cut ties. Sooner I've realized that it was for the better of me.
But overall this gave me an unique experience and a positive mindset shift.

If you feel bad about the girl or yourself, here is my personal opinion:
We can totally fine move through such personal events that build us to become better in our future relationship/s, and
the fact that you are exchanging energies with this girl will manifest upon her soul positively sooner or later.

I hope this message helps you in some way!

 

[Wega]

I talked about the girl to Asterte after doing her Power Ritual.

Astarte* typo sorry. Moderator please can you change this mistake I double checked the text 3 times Idk how i missed it.

 

[Skyveryflat]

hmmm did u feel she put black magic for love for you so u get caught with her. maybe u must testing in any spesific u are so in the future can good for you

 

[Matt.TheEnvoyOfSol]

Yaa that’s a red flag if it were me I’d just keep referring to her as a friend maybe she’d take the hint. Might lose interest all together though

You could try a material Venus square for a spell specify female companionship or though it is dependent on how strong your heart chakra and Venus in your chart is I would imagine.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

hmmm did u feel she put black magic for love for you so u get caught with her.

lol no.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

Hello brother @MercuryWisdom
I decided to reply as a year ago I was in a situationship with a girl who was muslim. We were so into eachother, but she was reading their trash book, etc.

Truth is, this helped me realize a lot of things back then about how we should treat such occurrences in our lives.

Unless we do a magical working to potentially attract a Zevist partner, we are going to meet mostly partners that are not on the same spiritual path.
This is not entirely a bad thing and here is why:

We are of Zeus. Through our spiritual path we are coming closer to the Gods and they are here to assist us in such matters if it concerns our well-being.
My personal experience was that I was somehow down to marry the girl even though she was muslim, I even had sex with her and was living in this fantasy world where she could be converted to a Zevism in the end.
I talked about the girl to Astarte after doing her Power Ritual.

Shortly after some things happened and magicallly we cut ties. Sooner I've realized that it was for the better of me.
But overall this gave me an unique experience and a positive mindset shift.

If you feel bad about the girl or yourself, here is my personal opinion:
We can totally fine move through such personal events that build us to become better in our future relationship/s, and
the fact that you are exchanging energies with this girl will manifest upon her soul positively sooner or later.

I hope this message helps you in some way!

You’re right about this mindset. Thanks for sharing.

 

[Aarti]

im questioning why nobody (muslim or any) isnt propsing me or have an interest

 

[Aquarius]

I feel like I’m always the serious/obsessive/sensitive guy in any relationship, sometimes I just wish I can be the cool “fuckboi” who has multiple options of women that are attracted towards him, I hope I’m understood.

I feel like you're trying to be something that you're not.
Just an opinion.

 

[AFODO]

Send her the islamic evil site from a fake account, and see what happens. If your gut says that you should not be together with this person however, just don't.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

Send her the islamic evil site from a fake account, and see what happens. If your gut says that you should not be together with this person however, just don't.

No way this can happen, it’s not as simple as you think.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

im questioning why nobody (muslim or any) isnt propsing me or have an interest

Well usually if you’re a female with an interesting personality, good looks and good style/makeup there should be no shortage of guys who would die for you, lol.

It also depends on your age and putting yourself out there.

If you’re too young as in teenage years/post-puberty usually you would have less prospects than in college, if you’re too old as in over 30 that also Affects your prospects.

Best age for women getting prospects I think would be between 19 and 25.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

I feel like you're trying to be something that you're not.
Just an opinion.

I understand, and you’re right. However, I don’t know, it’s not that I’m trying to be someone different I just want it, I feel it would feel better, especially for my age and current environment.

I think you understand what I mean though.

 

[Skyveryflat]

let see the progress u and her if her was fanatic u will know and u know must what for far away from her.

 

[Aquarius]

I understand, and you’re right. However, I don’t know, it’s not that I’m trying to be someone different I just want it, I feel it would feel better, especially for my age and current environment.

I think you understand what I mean though.

I totally understand what you mean. You're influenced by your environment. I worked hard at removing these kind of "environments" so I'm not really influenced by them, as such I already think about marriage and kids.

Do your best Brother, you're an awesome person.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

I totally understand what you mean. You're influenced by your environment. I worked hard at removing these kind of "environments" so I'm not really influenced by them, as such I already think about marriage and kids.

Do your best Brother, you're an awesome person.

Thank you! Happy to hear this from you.
Glad to hear you’re doing good.

 

[Soul Wings]

Yaa that’s a red flag if it were me I’d just keep referring to her as a friend maybe she’d take the hint. Might lose interest all together though

I wouldn't recommend being subtle. Communication and honesty is key in relationships - no matter how painful or awkward it is. It's okay to be honest and gentle with people when letting them down easy. You can tell a woman you aren't interested, so she can go and find someone who aligns with her morals/lifestyle/long term goals, whatever the case. If you know you aren't interested, don't string her along. Being a placeholder for the next one fucking sucks. This attracts and invites people to string you along in future, too.

Yes, people react emotionally to this, sometimes very badly and it's unavoidable. It's due to ego death. Take comfort in knowing you were honest and genuine, and allowed this person free to pursue the life they desire. In love, there is both joy and pain.

You are young Mercury as far as I am aware - a lot of young men I meet do not know what they want, do not want to commit or get married and just want fun. It's not unusual since the only way to find out is to experiment, the only reason someone should be ashamed of this is if they are lying, cheating etc about it. If you are honest you will attract honest women. Put out there how you want to be treated.

 

[Havoc]

It sounds like you’re still talking to this woman in the hope that she’ll give you sex. If she did it would be under the assumption that you love her and want to get married.

I find a lot of Arab men become Zevist because they just want to fuck women and acquire benefits. The actual point of spiritually is to seek the highest possible good and live in accordance with natural law.

Your passing up on a golden opportunity to get married and have children to chase western porn fantasies and I’d recommend you don’t do that, you’ve already spoken before about being a porn addict so you should try to fight the effects that has had on your brain with spiritual practices rather then being a “fuckboi”

Her being Muslim is a valid excuse not to want her but you can always have a conversation with her about Zevism, meany Muslim dislike yehuborim and a lot of them become Muslim because they want to be good, so you have the opportunity to show her a higher good.

But she’s not going to be interested in being a sex object and if she does have sex with you under an assumption of good will and you betray her she’ll be crushed. The feeling of women are something you should care about.

 

[serpentwalker666]

It sounds like you’re still talking to this woman in the hope that she’ll give you sex. If she did it would be under the assumption that you love her and want to get married.

I find a lot of Arab men become Zevist because they just want to fuck women and acquire benefits. The actual point of spiritually is to seek the highest possible good and live in accordance with natural law.

Your passing up on a golden opportunity to get married and have children to chase western porn fantasies and I’d recommend you don’t do that, you’ve already spoken before about being a porn addict so you should try to fight the effects that has had on your brain with spiritual practices rather then being a “fuckboi”

Her being Muslim is a valid excuse not to want her but you can always have a conversation with her about Zevism, meany Muslim dislike yehuborim and a lot of them become Muslim because they want to be good, so you have the opportunity to show her a higher good.

But she’s not going to be interested in being a sex object and if she does have sex with you under an assumption of good will and you betray her she’ll be crushed. The feeling of women are something you should care about.

I would be very careful with what you are suggesting here I do not think you fully understand the gravity of the situation you are trying to recommend...

Islam and Muslims are a bit different in that aspect. Christians are crazy but many won't react in the absolutely depraved ways a Muslim could. (Not saying they wouldn't, but your chances are lesser.)

They could get lucky and the conversation could go well, or you could have your door broken down in the dead of night and you end up deceased from being stabbed to death by a horde of enraged and insane Muslims, when the Muslim woman tells her family you are a devil worshipper and they take matters into their own hands and do what Muslims do best, destroy and spill blood.

It is NOT worth the risk.

I would just recommend MercuryWisdom find someone, have a relationship and keep their Zevism a secret.

Maybe in better circumstances they wouldn't have to do this, but in an Islam dominated nation one is playing with death if they think revealing their allegiance to Zevism is a good idea.

 

[ModernMage]

"I do not allow friendly association with other people, nor do I deprive them that are my own and that obey me of anything that is good for them."

Focus on building yourself instead of taking whatever appears to you. When you feel you are ready do a working to attract the perfect partner for you. Don't be desperate because you are lonely or want to get laid.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

It sounds like you’re still talking to this woman in the hope that she’ll give you sex. If she did it would be under the assumption that you love her and want to get married.

I find a lot of Arab men become Zevist because they just want to fuck women and acquire benefits. The actual point of spiritually is to seek the highest possible good and live in accordance with natural law.

Your passing up on a golden opportunity to get married and have children to chase western porn fantasies and I’d recommend you don’t do that, you’ve already spoken before about being a porn addict so you should try to fight the effects that has had on your brain with spiritual practices rather then being a “fuckboi”

Her being Muslim is a valid excuse not to want her but you can always have a conversation with her about Zevism, meany Muslim dislike yehuborim and a lot of them become Muslim because they want to be good, so you have the opportunity to show her a higher good.

But she’s not going to be interested in being a sex object and if she does have sex with you under an assumption of good will and you betray her she’ll be crushed. The feeling of women are something you should care about.

Dead post, don’t revive.
I’ve changed opinions, approaches, and no longer in contact with said person, not out of enmity, just distance.

Yeah sure I became an Zevism at 14 because I love fucking women, I am edgy like that.

 

[kaelgr]

If you feel like you can't be with her and that's not exactly what you're looking for, if your goals don't align, you should end communication with her. It's that simple.