an impasse in my relationship, physical and spiritual.

[Isisd]

I can't get past the fact that my girlfriend not only has losen her virginity to someone else, but also has slept with three different guys before me (while knowing me). We've been together for almost a year, everything is fine, she says she loves me and I love her for sure, and there isn't even the slightest problem. But there's this constant needle in my head, and when i reflect about it I feel sick in my stomach. I even threw up once. And I think I feel it so deeply because she is the first woman I've ever had sex with. I valued myself and my body so much that I've only allowed myself to have sex with the one woman I truly ever loved: her.
I also think about the fact that I couldn't physically have sex with another woman I don't love, even if I wanted to, out of lust and nothing else. I know that we aren't all made the same and each individual feels things differently and with different intensity, but I can't get past this feeling, and sometimes I even don't want to get past it, like that's not what I'm meant to do. I feel that this situation is also influencing my spiritual progress. Maybe there's a bigger lesson I have to learn (no, I'm sure there is), but I don't know where to start. I seriously want to learn and advance. During the first month of the relationship, I felt sick while having sex with her, thinking she had other men on her, and had to stop. She comprehended my feeling and never criticized me for it. She even tried to help me and always told me that those men are in the past et cetera. I feel like she really loves me as well. But I, again, after all these months, can't get past it. And I need this gone, maybe someone here can help me.

 

[Basileus]

I used to be just like you on this one.

I've had a few virgin woman's and none have remained with me until the end so just because I was the first, it means nothing for many.

My father always regretted that when she took my mother, she wasn't a virgin but look, here I am now in the present and they been together for 30 years now.

With time and maturity you will be more at ease of such thing and also, put it this way, would you be mad if she would had sex in her previous life with other men? The exact same thing applies in the present time (your both current actual life times), it's respectable of her that she's trying to help you and make you understand some things, that means she cares and loved you, don't fuck it up just because of the past. For as long as she haven't given you any reasons or thoughts of cheating ( careful not to form your own delusions), because this is what usually happens when one goes trough this stage of understanding this lesson of life.

Just enjoy every moment with her, live the present, think about how the future would look like and what shall be done to achieve that, fuck the past. If the lady wants you and who knows maybe even establish a family later one, then why would you stop.

 

[Novice Priest Karnonnos]

A lot of people, particularly men and teenage boys, put a high premium on virginity and that is just part of one's tastes. It's really not easy to alter this feeling if one has heavy water or earth element and inclines to being possessive: wanting to be one with somebody else. Knowing the men involved also can sour things. Men are highly competitive with lives of exterior danger. A lot of men, especially young boys, need the basic fundament of that type of monogamy to feel secure. That remains the truth, regardless of how sex-liberation people scrutinize this alone as backward and patriarchal.

As HPHC said before, it wasn't even particularly common to find individuals with an official 'body count' (yes, I am aware things like widespread abuse and rape occurred, and a lot of people also lied prolifically) prior to the 1950s.

On the other hand, if you gain more awareness, you will begin to understand why people desire companionship and sex, why those you are with are not 'perfect', and so on and so forth. This girl is a product of her time and circumstances like most people are. Her life is also basically her own. Sex in itself is not evil. You cannot be the arbiter of her sexual choices before you even went with her.

There is really no 'advancement' I can give you outside of meditative practice because this feeling is based on your romantic tastes and sexual vocation, just as I cannot tell a (relatively) promiscuous person they are wrong for having multiple people they have intercourse with and feeling more detached about each. Beyond certain people ridding themselves of abominations (i.e. the things violating the Ethics) and silly nonsense (muh AI waifu), sexual tastes are really not something that alter that much with spiritual practice. Sometimes these also shift with age, preference and experience instead.

But you also should ask yourself: is throwing a relationship away due to this a good idea exactly?

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

I can't get past the fact that my girlfriend not only has losen her virginity to someone else, but also has slept with three different guys before me (while knowing me).

Your girlfriend has also had sex in her past lives with guys other than you, just as you too if perhaps you have an incarnation from millennia ago did not keep yourself a virgin because one day you would meet someone in this life. I am also like you who cannot have sex without love. These are things that exist. But it doesn't mean that those who have this tendency love less than those who don't. They are just different attitudes of living.

Because both of you now would not have sex with someone else since you love each other. It's not so much the value you place on the concept of love then (the when you can have sex), but the value you place on who you love (how you handle sex). This thing about sex being dirty, if you've had sex you're a dirty slut, etc. is as idiotic as saying that if you want only to have sex with the one you love you're a [I don't know how to translate it into English, in Italian it's "pussy dead" which indicates someone who can only get very few girls].

And I'll tell you more, usually if you're always thinking about what other people got from your girlfriend, you get way too distracted (as you can see) from your goal of giving the best and most special things possible to her. You are a child of Zeus, you can give her much more than what a person not yet initiated to the Gods can give her. This as you can see is much more advanced as a concept than those who have had sex before.

 

[Visitor]

Your girlfriend has also had sex in her past lives with guys other than you, just as you too if perhaps you have an incarnation from millennia ago did not keep yourself a virgin because one day you would meet someone in this life. I am also like you who cannot have sex without love. These are things that exist. But it doesn't mean that those who have this tendency love less than those who don't. They are just different attitudes of living.

Because both of you now would not have sex with someone else since you love each other. It's not so much the value you place on the concept of love then (the when you can have sex), but the value you place on who you love (how you handle sex). This thing about sex being dirty, if you've had sex you're a dirty slut, etc. is as idiotic as saying that if you want only to have sex with the one you love you're a [I don't know how to translate it into English, in Italian it's "pussy dead" which indicates someone who can only get very few girls].

And I'll tell you more, usually if you're always thinking about what other people got from your girlfriend, you get way too distracted (as you can see) from your goal of giving the best and most special things possible to her. You are a child of Zeus, you can give her much more than what a person not yet initiated to the Gods can give her. This as you can see is much more advanced as a concept than those who have had sex before.

That doesn't make any sense, how can you know so much about their lives to say such a thing?

He's not living his past life, he's living his life now, that's a totally repulsive response, she CHEATED on him, simple as that

What a disgusting answer, it makes me want to vomit. Give her what exactly? Why exactly should he act like a cuckold? That's repulsive and out of touch with reality...

 

[Visitor]

I can't get past the fact that my girlfriend not only has losen her virginity to someone else, but also has slept with three different guys before me (while knowing me). We've been together for almost a year, everything is fine, she says she loves me and I love her for sure, and there isn't even the slightest problem. But there's this constant needle in my head, and when i reflect about it I feel sick in my stomach. I even threw up once. And I think I feel it so deeply because she is the first woman I've ever had sex with. I valued myself and my body so much that I've only allowed myself to have sex with the one woman I truly ever loved: her.
I also think about the fact that I couldn't physically have sex with another woman I don't love, even if I wanted to, out of lust and nothing else. I know that we aren't all made the same and each individual feels things differently and with different intensity, but I can't get past this feeling, and sometimes I even don't want to get past it, like that's not what I'm meant to do. I feel that this situation is also influencing my spiritual progress. Maybe there's a bigger lesson I have to learn (no, I'm sure there is), but I don't know where to start. I seriously want to learn and advance. During the first month of the relationship, I felt sick while having sex with her, thinking she had other men on her, and had to stop. She comprehended my feeling and never criticized me for it. She even tried to help me and always told me that those men are in the past et cetera. I feel like she really loves me as well. But I, again, after all these months, can't get past it. And I need this gone, maybe someone here can help me.

I've read the other members' replies so I'll tell you mine, because it seems that common sense has simply disappeared from these members' heads

Let me get this straight, you were together and yet she had sex with other guys? I'll tell you something basic, she cheated on you, simple.

She doesn't love you, I've felt that thing about falling in love and if she loved you she wouldn't be interested in other guys, she's just using you.

So I'm going to tell you something that seems to lack common sense in other members, leave her, because she's doing you harm, this is very simple to understand, she cheated on you, she preferred to give her virginity to someone other than you

Lydia has already talked about this if I'm not mistaken, that when a girl loses her virginity she doesn't forget the first time and probably when you're having sex with her, it will probably be someone else who will be on her mind

Look, I'm not the person who talks about this a lot, but I'm really sorry, I think you should look for someone who can really appreciate you

This is really sad, but I really wish you could have someone real on your side, if you calm down please try this meditation so you can find someone real for you: The Aura

Aura to attract an ideal partner for you

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

That doesn't make any sense, how can you know so much about their lives to say such a thing?

Here our noble HPS explain that better:

Working on advancing in general is needed. These xian/muslim thoughts of how nobody should have sex before, is unnatural and anti-life. Clean your chakras, especially your sacral chakra. This also ties in with your spying on her, people tend to obsess like this from lower frequency chakras and mind.

You spying on her now in the present, would be considered by many as worse than her having sex with others in her past. You are disrespecting the privacy of the one you claim to love. How would you feel if you knew she was spying on you?

Know that when two people are together and in love, that's what matters. You likely had sex with others in your past lives, should you be held accountable for that? It is not just the current life that matters. So focus on what you have with her.

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

Let me get this straight, you were together and yet she had sex with other guys? I'll tell you something basic, she cheated on you, simple.

This is not what he told.

This is what he told:

also has slept with three different guys before me

"BEFORE"

 

[Visitor]

This is not what he told.

This is what he told:


"BEFORE"

"but also has slept with three different guys before me (while knowing me). We've been together for almost a year"
I think there's a problem here, he says she's slept with other people even though she knows him and he's been with her for a year...

Working on advancing in general is needed. These xian/muslim thoughts of how nobody should have sex before, is unnatural and anti-life. Clean your chakras, especially your sacral chakra. This also ties in with your spying on her, people tend to obsess like this from lower frequency chakras and mind.

You spying on her now in the present, would be considered by many as worse than her having sex with others in her past. You are disrespecting the privacy of the one you claim to love. How would you feel if you knew she was spying on you?

Know that when two people are together and in love, that's what matters. You likely had sex with others in your past lives, should you be held accountable for that? It is not just the current life that matters. So focus on what you have with her.

Oh well, the sex life he prefers doesn't matter, you have to give preference to who a slut can or can't choose and she has to decide that

I don't give a shit about Lydia, a relationship is something that two people have to decide and if he has his preference why the fuck should he ignore it just to make the bitch happy?

Honestly, I have so many feelings about what I've just read that I don't even know how to describe it.

The most repulsive thing I find is that men should be passive and accept everything just to make the bitch happy.

If he doesn't care, fine, but it's bad for him, so in this context I don't give a shit about this sentence.

 

[monomotapa 2]

I respect SeguaceDiSatanas, I respect our Jo's guardians and most importantly our high priest's

I also have understood from HPS Lydia that a key in relationships is to be free and value what fulfills you

So respectively why are you guys telling him to stay in that relationship if it's making him sick.leave and go find what fulfills you isisd

Those who think am wrong do feel free to correct

 

[AFODO]

Sex doesn't leave a permanent scar in woman not physically nor spiritually, and she is over them mentally also.
Virgins are also inexperienced in sex (obviously) so you would probably have even worse experiences if she was a virgin.
Even polygamy is also not inherently bad and is normal for higher level people like Gods.

 

[High Priestess Lydia Coventina]

It is deranged to obsess about other people's sex lives. If it has nothing to do with you, then focus on your own life. Purify yourself, advance. Nobody is saying to be passive, but to understand life.

Contemplate this: https://templeofzeus.org/life_ethics_sexual

 

[Aquarius]

Void meditation to remove that feeling from your head. If you can't ignore that feeling it means you have to immerse yourself in it and "accept it", so that you can move on.

 

[Aquarius]

"but also has slept with three different guys before me (while knowing me). We've been together for almost a year"
I think there's a problem here, he says she's slept with other people even though she knows him and he's been with her for a year...


Oh well, the sex life he prefers doesn't matter, you have to give preference to who a slut can or can't choose and she has to decide that

I don't give a shit about Lydia, a relationship is something that two people have to decide and if he has his preference why the fuck should he ignore it just to make the bitch happy?

Honestly, I have so many feelings about what I've just read that I don't even know how to describe it.

The most repulsive thing I find is that men should be passive and accept everything just to make the bitch happy.

If he doesn't care, fine, but it's bad for him, so in this context I don't give a shit about this sentence.

Not only you didn't understand jack shit about this whole matter and you speak as if everybody commenting is dumb, you're also being disrespectful towards our HPS Lydia.

Way to go champ, I can suggest you two books for your problems
1. English grammar in use for English comprehension

2. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, to humble you.

Never did the OP say his girl fucked three guys during their relationship, but before and he is obsessed that he is not the first to have sex with her.

 

[Visitor]

Not only you didn't understand jack shit about this whole matter and you speak as if everybody commenting is dumb, you're also being disrespectful towards our HPS Lydia.

Way to go champ, I can suggest you two books for your problems
1. English grammar in use for English comprehension

2. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, to humble you.

Never did the OP say his girl fucked three guys during their relationship, but before and he is obsessed that he is not the first to have sex with her.

Oh wow, I'm disrespecting her by saying I don't give a damn what she said, how disrespectful

So in order to respect her I have to follow what she says without changing a comma? Spare me, do you know how to differentiate certain things by context?

So let's see, I interpreted the OP's message in one way and you in another, so the OP could come here and say that in fact like the other members are right to shut my mouth and he can have an answer to help him really

Ok, let's take into account that you are right and I read wrong about what happened, so even though the girl was with him, she decided to fuck someone else and with the various choices she had then she decided, now because of that the OP must forget what he thinks is best to adapt to her, spare me

 

[Visitor]

Not only you didn't understand jack shit about this whole matter and you speak as if everybody commenting is dumb, you're also being disrespectful towards our HPS Lydia.

Way to go champ, I can suggest you two books for your problems
1. English grammar in use for English comprehension

2. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, to humble you.

Never did the OP say his girl fucked three guys during their relationship, but before and he is obsessed that he is not the first to have sex with her.

That's a bit funny, it just shows that you really don't know how ugly the world and people can be, your meditation recommendation to be humble could mean my death

Here where I live the last thing you really need to be is humble if you want anything, I only hear that here from local Christians who are always in poverty.

It's kind of funny, well at least I'll take your first option into account when I get my life sorted out, but the second? No thanks, I'll pass

 

[Head Guardian Blitzkreig]

Oh wow, I'm disrespecting her by saying I don't give a damn what she said, how disrespectful

So in order to respect her I have to follow what she says without changing a comma? Spare me, do you know how to differentiate certain things by context?

So let's see, I interpreted the OP's message in one way and you in another, so the OP could come here and say that in fact like the other members are right to shut my mouth and he can have an answer to help him really

Ok, let's take into account that you are right and I read wrong about what happened, so even though the girl was with him, she decided to fuck someone else and with the various choices she had then she decided, now because of that the OP must forget what he thinks is best to adapt to her, spare me

You are within your right to follow your own philosophy of relationships, but you could have simply said "I disagree with HPS Lydia because ..." and that is a neutral way to do this. Removing her title and saying you "don't give a shit" is certainly disrespectful. This only undermines you by making you appear reckless; better to just apologize and move on, not double down.

Regarding the element of virginity here, of course this can be meaningful to give to someone if you intend it this way, or to stick with your first partner, but to expect everyone to do this is not realistic at all, either. Further, when a man is nervous about this, despite the girl still staying with him and having sex with him, I believe this reflects his own insecurity that he cannot outperform the other men, or that he cannot make a strong enough connection or impact over time, etc.

If the woman was daydreaming about other sexual partners, past or future, then of course you are right to be upset, but if this is not the case and she simply had past sexual partners, then you can only move forward, just like she did by leaving them and coming to you.

 

[Visitor]

You are within your right to follow your own philosophy of relationships, but you could have simply said "I disagree with HPS Lydia because ..." and that is a neutral way to do this. Removing her title and saying you "don't give a shit" is certainly disrespectful. This only undermines you by making you appear reckless; better to just apologize and move on, not double down.

Regarding the element of virginity here, of course this can be meaningful to give to someone if you intend it this way, or to stick with your first partner, but to expect everyone to do this is not realistic at all, either. Further, when a man is nervous about this, despite the girl still staying with him and having sex with him, I believe this reflects his own insecurity that he cannot outperform the other men, or that he cannot make a strong enough connection or impact over time, etc.

If the woman was daydreaming about other sexual partners, past or future, then of course you are right to be upset, but if this is not the case and she simply had past sexual partners, then you can only move forward, just like she did by leaving them and coming to you.

Well, you're right about that, my intention was never to tell him how he should behave, but rather about the situation as I understood it. The problem in itself for me is not virginity but the way the relationship is as I understand it.

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To HPS Lydia my behavior really wasn't the most appropriate, I let the context of the situation take things out of place and seem like I was directly insulting you even though I was referring directly to the context of the situation and even though I knew the text could be about another context and it being applied here.
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To SeguaceDiSatanas, I believe that something that is pertinent to me has spoken louder, if I gave the impression about you it was not the intention but about how I see it and how I see it and not directed at you.
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I believe I've already made my opinion clear on this and what I think I won't comment on any further, unless I feel it's necessary.

 

[Noble666]

I understand you perfectly. I am of the same opinion. I will never be with a non-virgin, because I am a virgin myself and I take this matter very seriously and on principle. The best option for you would be to just leave her. She will continue to hurt you, these images of her exes will continue to pop up in your head and in the worst case you will simply go crazy.

 

[Aquarius]

Wanting a virgin doesn't really make any sense, it's not like a woman is impure if she isn't a virgin.

 

[Aquarius]

I understand you perfectly. I am of the same opinion. I will never be with a non-virgin, because I am a virgin myself and I take this matter very seriously and on principle. The best option for you would be to just leave her. She will continue to hurt you, these images of her exes will continue to pop up in your head and in the worst case you will simply go crazy.

New account with 3 messages and tells a man with a relationship to leave his girlfriend because of delusions?

Not a good start.

 

[xlnt]

Ok so.. you have a girlfriend who loves you wants to be with you, and you whine about This?
The more you do this and worry about it, the less attraction she will have for you and you will thus end up risking losing her.
Become a muslim if you want to have a virgin girlfriend at all costs, and not Zevism. To be blunt. Which I think is necessary here.

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

Oh wow, I'm disrespecting her by saying I don't give a damn what she said, how disrespectful

It is NOT just a matter of respecting or not respecting HPS Lydia. As bad as it is not to give her the respect for her merits that is not even the wrong thing you are doing. The OP wrote something that was very sensitive to him. He wanted to understand about a love that is a love that is actually going well, it is a beautiful love, whether it will last forever or not forever is not important now and it doesn't change the fact that it is a beautiful love.

And the way you can't even look at any one thing that is realism, hierarchy, hard facts or a simple what a user wrote and what they didn't write, and that gives you the right in your head to be able to dictate whether such a positive love should end, even as a simple advice or way of carrying yourself in front of someone who is looking for answers, is completely damaging and can cause harm to something so beautiful that can cause so much happiness, creative happiness as a growing exponent of a positive trend that will always bear more good fruit for both partners, and you set yourself up to want to destroy that as if your necessarily wanting to say something is more important than the thing you want to say. This is wrong beyond measure.

I can't get past the fact that my girlfriend not only has losen her virginity to someone else

To the OP, as I was explaining to you, as it is exactly like that:

It is deranged to obsess about other people's sex lives. If it has nothing to do with you, then focus on your own life. Purify yourself, advance. Nobody is saying to be passive, but to understand life.

Contemplate this: https://templeofzeus.org/life_ethics_sexual

@Isisd what HPS told IS (so) important!! It DOES make the difference (if you want to understand it. And please, do it! Such a beautiful love... please, don't let that love die...

 

[Visitor]

The intensity of your anger, as well as some of your words, appears like you think we are telling you to bend over to abuse from women. In reality, all many have said is that worrying about virginity is not good.

In OP's post, he said that the woman had sex with others BEFORE she was with him. This is entirely different than if your girlfriend cheats on you, but it appears you had misunderstood this to be what was said, and then misunderstood HPS Lydia's words as saying to not worry about this, leading to a massive outburst.

There is no need to escalate to these degrees, nor direct such anger at HPS or others. This appears to me as a miscommunication mixed with sensitivity about love, however, nobody is forcing you to put up with abuse from women. It is possible that anger from your past is driving you to "see red" here and act like this, but this is like spiraling out of control over a matter that is actually not that large to begin with.

It is possible your mind is creating HPS Lydia into the negative stereotype of a bad woman that you are seeking to defend yourself against. This could be one cause for feeling a lack of respect to what she has said, as well as trying to start an angry debate, etc. It is better to recognize this and try to calm down.

About the OP's part, I understand, but even if that were the case, she still knew him and decided to date other guys. Honestly, it wouldn't affect me much, but it wouldn't be about virginity, but rather that it's making him feel bad and sick.

The problem I have is about the majority feedback, as if what the OP wanted wasn't something that should be considered, that from what it seems would be to build a family, and the part that SHE KNEW him and even so had relationships with others is what's making him feel bad.

Initially I interpreted it wrong, but this thing about him having to move on just because makes me sick. In the best case scenario, this could heal over time and he could have a great family. In the worst case scenario, this will make him more and more discouraged. And if he loses his sexual potency and his girlfriend leaves him for someone else? And then the members here will say what? That it's his fault? Pat him on the back and ask him to be strong in the Gods, and then who exactly is going to deal with this problem? It's definitely not the members

Yes, the OP has to make the decision here, but this majority of other responses of "love this", "muslin that", "this is life" makes me completely sick and disgusted

I took the opportunity to talk about certain things since they were brought up in response to me

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

"Life is like that, you have to accept that you can't have what you want. Did you see that little bitch giving it to anyone without worrying about her future? Dude, are you Muslim? She wants a life. She said the magic words "I love you", please stop being like that. That bitch is all wide and her vagina is perfect for you. Don't worry, she's trained a lot by fucking others and now she can make you happy."

@Isisd
I already know that you will read this part of his reply. But what is written here is NOT what we were saying and IN NO WAY corresponds or could ever possibly correspond to what your girlfriend did. Such extremist reasoning is not good for clarifying inherently delusional concepts. Your girlfriend was never a "street nymphomaniac" lol. The fact that she had sex with other guys is natural. It is perfectly natural and indeed this may have even matured her in terms of her relational experiences to understand how much your beautiful presence in her life is worth to her and how glad she is to have something like you to love her and to love. This is much more important than "I had two, four or three boyfriends before you."

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

Where did you get this zoophilia crap from?

I don't know lol I told you I was just scrolling my eyes. To me you really could have said anything and I wouldn't have been interested anyway lol. I am not taking seriously the opinions of someone who before formalizing an opinion does not bother to understand what they are formulating the opinion on and think about what is the most correct opinion (regardless of taking into account the words of someone more mentally and spiritually advanced like High Priestess Lydia lol). For me, you might as well have transcribed the Shema transliterated into English and I would have given a damn lol.

 

[xlnt]

Oh great, now he risks losing her too...

I can't read these feedbacks and not feel disgusted, I can't stand it, it's so out of touch with reality.

What's going to happen next? He gets on with it and it doesn't work out and it's his fault?

I can't understand where so many people like you come from, putting women on a level they shouldn't be, where they do whatever they want and it's men who have to swallow toads.

But I understand, you need that pussy for yourselves, that's why you have to lick their feet if you have to. Especially because when it comes to responsibility for their actions, taking over for them is like oil and water, you can't mix them, can you? Because you simply need that pussy, very masculine indeed

Troll.

 

[Visitor]

@Isisd
I already know that you will read this part of his reply. But what is written here is NOT what we were saying and IN NO WAY corresponds or could ever possibly correspond to what your girlfriend did. Such extremist reasoning is not good for clarifying inherently delusional concepts. Your girlfriend was never a "street nymphomaniac" lol. The fact that she had sex with other guys is natural. It is perfectly natural and indeed this may have even matured her in terms of her relational experiences to understand how much your beautiful presence in her life is worth to her and how glad she is to have something like you to love her and to love. This is much more important than "I had two, four or three boyfriends before you."

Sex doesn't leave a permanent scar in woman not physically nor spiritually, and she is over them mentally also.
Virgins are also inexperienced in sex (obviously) so you would probably have even worse experiences if she was a virgin.

 

[Head Guardian Blitzkreig]

About the OP's part, I understand, but even if that were the case, she still knew him and decided to date other guys. Honestly, it wouldn't affect me much, but it wouldn't be about virginity, but rather that it's making him feel bad and sick.

The problem I have is about the majority feedback, as if what the OP wanted wasn't something that should be considered, that from what it seems would be to build a family, and the part that SHE KNEW him and even so had relationships with others is what's making him feel bad.

Initially I interpreted it wrong, but this thing about him having to move on just because makes me sick. In the best case scenario, this could heal over time and he could have a great family. In the worst case scenario, this will make him more and more discouraged. And if he loses his sexual potency and his girlfriend leaves him for someone else? And then the members here will say what? That it's his fault? Pat him on the back and ask him to be strong in the Gods, and then who exactly is going to deal with this problem? It's definitely not the members

Yes, the OP has to make the decision here, but this majority of other responses of "love this", "muslin that", "this is life" makes me completely sick and disgusted

I took the opportunity to talk about certain things since they were brought up in response to me

It is possible to read into the situation and question why the girl was first with the other guys before him, but there can also be other reasons for this, which we are not provided the information. Maybe he did not ask her out until later. The fact that she is with him now, and actively has sex with him, does show interest on her part, though.

The problem is that OP feeling bad is not the problem of the girl. Ultimately, this is his own insecurity, and trying to find a fully virgin girl is just a defensive tactic. Through spiritual work, OP can address this insecurity and also sexual potency, or other relationship problems. This is a better solution than trying to worry about the other person, which you cannot directly control.

 

[Visitor]

It is possible to read into the situation and question why the girl was first with the other guys before him, but there can also be other reasons for this, which we are not provided the information. Maybe he did not ask her out until later. The fact that she is with him now, and actively has sex with him, does show interest on her part, though.

The problem is that OP feeling bad is not the problem of the girl. Ultimately, this is his own insecurity, and trying to find a fully virgin girl is just a defensive tactic. Through spiritual work, OP can address this insecurity and also sexual potency, or other relationship problems. This is a better solution than trying to worry about the other person, which you cannot directly control.

I feel like you just answered everything I wrote with this, thank you, my mind feels much lighter now and the answers from other members seem easier to discern.

However my off-topic question about the ethics part that HPS Lydia mentioned is still something I would like to know, not that you need to answer it but the question is still there.

 

[Yurei]

Is it true that the more you have casual sex, the more eroded your ability to pair bond becomes?

 

[BEYAZKAPLAN]

Oh great, now he risks losing her too...

I can't read these feedbacks and not feel disgusted, I can't stand it, it's so out of touch with reality.

What's going to happen next? He gets on with it and it doesn't work out and it's his fault?

I can't understand where so many people like you come from, putting women on a level they shouldn't be, where they do whatever they want and it's men who have to swallow toads.

But I understand, you need that pussy for yourselves, that's why you have to lick their feet if you have to. Especially because when it comes to responsibility for their actions, taking over for them is like oil and water, you can't mix them, can you? Because you simply need that pussy, very masculine indeed

My friend, everyone has their own reality and everyone's angle of view and what they see are different. This is just your perspective and your level. Not everyone looks and sees the way you do. You're looking at it concretely, but you don't understand that it's not about a vagina. Maybe one day you'll understand, my friend.