The pain of missing someone.

Hey brothers and sisters.
So, this SR year was weird for me. I made friends, lovers then lost them.

Anyways, I currently have lost all and any friendships, relationships that used to mean a lot to me.

How to deal with these kind of feelings and thoughts of missing people that pop out of nowhere on the daily now?

For me helped to recognise truth about what all those people are, whom they serves, who are their friends and members of their families, by what values they are living and by what they are manipulated, how much there is truth in them and how much of our beloved lie.

After thinking of all this, I started to feel that my all feelings for those people was based on these things, which actually was not them, but toughtforms… now I look at it as all lie, because after a lot of time living separate without them, and when just came back to see them, I recognised that they didn’t changed in any aspect, same emotions, same thinking patterns, same toughts and etc., repeating endlessly itself trough these people. they are astonished what is happening to me, but that astonishment is coming from the same old thought patterns which lives trough them, so I cant accept this either, as all this matter of theirs is dead, if it is same like in the past I consider it dead (not people, but what is in them.)

And as above already said, all my feelings for these people was based on things which was repeating themselves in those people, I just was blind and believed this was truth, now I started to not believe in all those feelings and those people, as it all was lie so my feelings for them was also lie, I’m catching myself expressing feeling on what I think now about all this, and not what was then, for me this is most realistic option, which is based on reality.

I think what can be best done with this, is advancing, and start learning to master life as it really is, by this is best to lean on Gods, brothers and sisters, as change which is expected from us, without all this real beings is impossible. Change need to happen for new eyes of us to see much bigger picture of what is happening with life around us, and to rise above it, and after that to start change everything from heavens.

I can't really relate cause I get over these stuff quickly, but maybe freeing your soul would help. With MUNKA you afffirm that you got over your ex friends, and you are not have emotional bond with them anymore.

Also, when you clean your soul with a light orb that pass trough your body and push out the dirt, instead of dirt visualize the memories with them, anything that relate to them, or their face, and affirm what I wrote before.

Anytime a thought pops out of nowhere that relate to them, make use of the power that you might have mastered from void meditation.

Also, you might lack air.

Get fulfillment from spiritual advancement and new prospects in the physical, such as new friends and hobbies.

For a while Mercury, You just have to feel these feelings because they are completely normal. These people meant something to you and now they are gone - that is horrible.
HOWEVER, the best remedy, do the opposite. Get out there and meet more people. Because you put yourself in a little bubble of toxic/useless people it seems like that is all there is for you out there. I am telling you that is not the case, I am sure people would love to get to know you out there that are good for you.
Anubis has been wonderful to me teaching me always how to socialise with people better and better. Perhaps you could ask one of the Gods for guidance who can help with these kinds of things?

I've lost a few friends on my journey as well. It hurt at first but I realized I was better off. There's a reason why they aren't in my life. It took a long time to realize this. Things happened as they did when I started growing because I outgrew my pot so to speak and I needed to be planted in fresh soil which meant cutting off the weeds that were holding me down and trying to keep me buried in bad decisions.

In the end it wasn't my fault they were toxic and I had to let them go. I had to forgive myself and not blame myself.

It's ok to miss people, it's ok to cry, it's all part of the healing process. It's perfectly normal. The best way to deal is to confide in the Gods when these painful memories and feelings come up. As soon as I realized I was thinking about it or hurting from it I meditated and I cried and I spoke my heart out to Father Zeus and the Gods. And they did send me comfort, they showed me ways on how to cope. They gave me these realizations.

It helped me grow past it and become stronger as a result. I have good friends still who I love. I visit them occasionally. But some of the friendships I lost were long friendships and I was blinded by my care of them to realize that they were not really my true friends. Or good influences.

You will make new friends in time. It might not seem like it now, but all things will fall into place so long as you let it happen. And trust always in the guidance of the Gods to bring you there.

Things like this sometimes need to happen to show you how strong you are, and that you can survive on your own without needing other people.

I don't like being alone either, it was rough at first but I realized who my true friends were in the end and it opened my eyes to a lot of things I otherwise would have missed.

Much love to you, keep hanging in there, it will get better. Never doubt this.

Anyways, I currently have lost all and any friendships, relationships that used to mean a lot to me.

I can relate a bit. There is basically only my brother and one or two (not that close) friends left, and my parents and cat.
The rest was useless drug addicts anyway. Writing about how you feel here and getting responses can help a bit, so that's a good method for one. Many people are shit these days, to the point where I can feel that my cat is my only true friend in life.
Always there and always sincere, as opposed to many humans in general. I recommend cat.

Related to this; I came to think about something that someone here wrote once; that connection is a must for everyone.
That is very true. That's why I never want to become off mod here for example; because I always want to make sure at least someone is reading my posts. For damn sure that is :mrgreen:

It's not exactly the answer to your question but getting to know some people is my goal as well.

And I like some brave people on this forum. Can you make friends here as well?

Just joined yesterday to forum, consider myself as independent Zevist.

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It does not fix all relationship problems, but drawing the energy of a God into your heart chakra can give you some feeling of connection, in the sense that you are alleviating the ache of loneliness.

Also, if these people were bad to you, then don't try to miss them. You could just be feeling nostalgic and perhaps a little desperate, but remember that being rid of negative people is a blessing in disguise.

Unfortunately it is hard to replace deep friendships overnight, but you should do your best to start getting outside and finding people to connect with. If you meet 10 different people, pick the one who you liked the most and ask them if they want to hang out again.