Rectifying my love nature - what is the correct mindset here?

[sinbad]

I'm not really sure what I want out of love.

I want both stability and independence, but when a woman gives into me totally, I get bored of her. Yet at the same time that is what I want.

I am romantic to the extreme. But if I'm no longer able to chase, because she no longer resists, if there is no longer the cat and mouse game to play - my emotions go to zero.

Mind you, I don't behave in a toxic way.

It is one of the areas I don't understand myself at all.

If I saw a single flaw in the woman, whether physically or personality wise, I completely lose interest on an emotional level

How can I form deep and passionate and stable relationships, instead of crap out of an eternal romance novel which is unsustainabls in reality? And how can I become accepting of others flaws?

What is the correct mindset to have regarding relationships?

I am willing to sacrifice the game for something stable, but I need to install the "logical software" to overrite the previous attitude

 

[sinbad]

Another thing is when women get clingy it's annoying as shit because they want me to waste all my time on them and it becomes suffocating, but I do want to make them happy as well.

It'd be easier if I could just clone myself.

How to balance being a workaholic and a romantic at the same time?

 

[sinbad]

I guess more accurately than "game", would be to call it the "story"... I need the story to be interesting for the next 60 years, but they show me all their cards 1 month in, because of how infectious my emotions are. But I don't want to mute my emotions either.

It seems the only way I'd get what I want is to go after a girl who barely likes me, lol