Rectifying my love nature - what is the correct mindset here?

[sinbad]

I'm not really sure what I want out of love.

I want both stability and independence, but when a woman gives into me totally, I get bored of her. Yet at the same time that is what I want.

I am romantic to the extreme. But if I'm no longer able to chase, because she no longer resists, if there is no longer the cat and mouse game to play - my emotions go to zero.

Mind you, I don't behave in a toxic way.

It is one of the areas I don't understand myself at all.

If I saw a single flaw in the woman, whether physically or personality wise, I completely lose interest on an emotional level

How can I form deep and passionate and stable relationships, instead of crap out of an eternal romance novel which is unsustainabls in reality? And how can I become accepting of others flaws?

What is the correct mindset to have regarding relationships?

I am willing to sacrifice the game for something stable, but I need to install the "logical software" to overrite the previous attitude

 

[sinbad]

Another thing is when women get clingy it's annoying as shit because they want me to waste all my time on them and it becomes suffocating, but I do want to make them happy as well.

It'd be easier if I could just clone myself.

How to balance being a workaholic and a romantic at the same time?

 

[sinbad]

I guess more accurately than "game", would be to call it the "story"... I need the story to be interesting for the next 60 years, but they show me all their cards 1 month in, because of how infectious my emotions are. But I don't want to mute my emotions either.

It seems the only way I'd get what I want is to go after a girl who barely likes me, lol

 

[sinbad]

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Yes, the lack of mental capacity is pure anguish.

It is very difficult to find someone who is both intellectual and emotional that is also compatible.

But love feels pointless without it.

People tend towards lopsidedness, and only have one without the other.

It is boring, and devoid of any poetry.