Question #1356: how can I make sure my bf never cheats on me

[Ask Satya Operator]

So my bf is Libra and I'm cancer. We have exact aspect of his sun conjunct my mars.
He loves checking out other women I think that's a Libra thing. He's Venus in Virgo and Mars Aries btw. I'm Venus Leo and Mars Libra. We have the exact degree.
He's getting a little better tho. It's almost two yrs. He's says he's never cheated and that he never will. He just likes looking. How do I guarantee he actually doesn't. He wants to get a place together but I'm scared of wasting my time with him and have to move back home if he does something stupid.

 

[Kaemythra]

So my bf is Libra and I'm cancer. We have exact aspect of his sun conjunct my mars.
He loves checking out other women I think that's a Libra thing. He's Venus in Virgo and Mars Aries btw. I'm Venus Leo and Mars Libra. We have the exact degree.
He's getting a little better tho. It's almost two yrs. He's says he's never cheated and that he never will. He just likes looking. How do I guarantee he actually doesn't. He wants to get a place together but I'm scared of wasting my time with him and have to move back home if he does something stupid.

I think this is disrespectful in a relationship, why would you want to look at other women...many say that even though you are in a relationship, you are still attracted to other people...whether you agree with that or not, it is uncomfortable. Living in a relationship where you are constantly afraid that your partner will cheat on you is not good for you, as it can become obsessive and toxic.

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

By picking a person who would not do this. Why are you with him if you don't trust him?

 

[Shadowmage]

FYI, there's not a single man who doesn't check out other women in secret. That, I guarantee you. Almost every married man I know checks out other women. It doesn't mean that everyone who does that will cheat though.

 

[Blitzkreig [SG]]

The biggest problem is the Venus in Virgo, which can make it difficult from him to connect to you, however direct synastry aspects with his Venus itself can help offset this. Also check his 7th house sign and any planets, plus aspects to his Venus, which can modify this.

Gebo energy would be the best for preventing any problems here, as it will help materialize and strengthen a connection to you. Through this, he will be more drawn and connected to you. It will indirectly fix his problems controlling his sexual attraction to others, but will directly retain his romantic attraction with you.

FYI, there's not a single man who doesn't check out other women in secret. That, I guarantee you. Almost every married man I know checks out other women. It doesn't mean that everyone who does that will cheat though.

Some amount of realism is needed here, as you describe, but it also sounds like he gave up on trying to avoid this, and instead tries to justify it. Him momentarily glancing at others is not that bad if he tried to actually avoid this, especially as his girlfriend expressed distress from this.

At the same time, he did say he wouldn't cheat, and his glances stem from sexual attraction, rather than romantic interest. However, people can get jealous if they feel their spouse's energy and focus are being taken from them. He shouldn't be pleasuring himself in this way.

 

[Karnonnos [SG]]

Mars in Aries and Venus in Virgo together can make someone extremely sexual, even fetishistic, but whether they will cheat or not depends on the rest of the chart and your synastry. This is not, imo, a great combination for fidelity in itself.

His Mars is basically in opposition to yours, and his Venus is semi-sextile yours. Although I think oppositions can be good for sex, there is a lot of clashing energy here. Mars in Aries can be VERY selfish and this can make Mars in Libra really panic, and even act like a doormat.

Contrarily, Venus in Virgo often chooses someone for a specific reason and wants to help and please their partner but their energy can come across as distinctly unromantic, even selective.

Venus in Leo can also get very paranoid, delusional and enraged when they think their partner is embarrassing them or not romantic enough. Venus in Virgo prefers to be lower key, critical and practical (unless Leo is in other planets), which can even extend to provoking Venus Leos by checking out other people in front of them. That's an example of how that semi-sextile manifests.

Neptune is what you should be looking at when it comes to cheating, also Saturn.

 

[Karnonnos [SG]]

I forgot to really answer the question. You can program your orgasm with an affirmation to attract him over and over, you can use Venus Squares or the Venus mantra, runes like Chozma or Gebo, the Rati mantra or Kamadeva mantra and plenty of other things. You can also do an Aura of Repulsion against someone you're suspicious of. But there's an internal process here as Blitzkreig said and the more external side.

 

[Shadowcat]

It's one thing to notice that someone is attractive but to ogle them while you have someone in a relationship and especially Infront of them is disrespectful I don't care what anyone's excuse is. Before the integrity of a long-term relationship I had was broken I would look away and blank out my mind if I noticed someone else who was outwardly attractive out of loyalty and courtesy.

As far as I am concerned with the way he is trying to look at every other girl and not care as harsh as it may sound, he may not find you his first choice outwardly. I would not be surprised if he watches porn or has already cheated. Tell me, has he smelled different ever coming back from some place? Shit that will tell you enough.

Dump his ignorant ass and find someone that thinks you are number one.

 

[Shadowcat]

FYI, there's not a single man who doesn't check out other women in secret. That, I guarantee you. Almost every married man I know checks out other women. It doesn't mean that everyone who does that will cheat though.

This doesn't make it normal or good however and it means the partner lacks integrity or simply has "buyers remorse". These type of people will almost certainly cheat eventually or go to other fantasies for outlets.

It's a sad situation when people cannot be faithful in action and thought anymore. It seems to be a lost art. This sadly also has a number of roots that people also are too muh feelings for to own up to and fix.

 

[Shadowcat]

by the way, you say this is a Libra sun thing but this is actually coming from his mars in Aries. Couple this with Venus in Virgo and you will have someone who is not only very particular about looks as far as sexual attraction, but they will especially on the Mars in Aries side, be more prone to be impulsive as far as sexual feelings and get bored very easily. Mars or Venus in Aries people are more after the rush of falling in love and the chase than they are for something stable, depending on other factors in the chart. It sounds to me based on what you said there are enough other factors to make this come out.

Venus Virgo can also be prone to stay in an unsatisfying relationship out of duty or responsibility, with in this case other factors making him more prone to looking at what he might rather have but feeling guilty to act on it...or lying about actually doing it. Virgo influence in general in relationships on the dark side anyway has a tendency to be very critical and cruel in relationships, so the fact that he is actually comparing you to others comes from this as well. This combined with the Mars in Aries can make him feel like he is never satisfied.

 

[Aquarius]

If he's doing that while he's with you, and very evidently, I honestly don't see it as a good sign. I mean yeah, it's normal and all for your eyes to be attracted to what stands out, but if he is doing it so purposefully I feel like something is out of place.

 

[xlnt]

 

[High Priestess Lydia]

There's nothing wrong with admiring other people. Even women do it. Happily married women notice handsome men and remark on the man's looks to other women. Even my Grandma did this, lol. Looking doesn't mean they will cheat. It's like looking at art, only the art is a living person.

 

[Shadowcat]

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There's nothing wrong with admiring other people. Even women do it. Happily married women notice handsome men and remark on the man's looks to other women. Even my Grandma did this, lol. Looking doesn't mean they will cheat. It's like looking at art, only the art is a living person.

It's one thing to notice that someone is attractive which every human being can do but it's another to basically willfully derive pleasure and ogle someone, especially in front of one's spouse, which I personally interpreted to be the case here. I personally believe actual authentic monogamy needs to also be preserved in thought by essentially not lusting after someone else in the way one should for their partner or something is missing. Next thing you know they start daydreaming about what they are like in bed. But just passing by and registering from a quick glance "oh that person is good looking" without lingering in it is pretty normal and then just going about one's day.

Just because "everyone is doing it" doesn't make it right in my eyes. It's no wonder most people lose interest and cannot stay together. A lot of people have rules in their relationship that do not see this as a problem but I know that many other people would want this type of energy and attention going to them and not someone else.

I was reading a lot and doing a lot of research on strip clubs. The men, and even women that frequent these places make the same excuses, "but it's natural and we have drives!" "It's just looking so it's fine!" (when the truth is, what they really want is sex while they basically eyefuck the strippers)

Even further baffling is how it is mainstream for things like bachelor/ette parties to consist of the people including the one getting married going to these places to basically receive sexual enjoyment of some type of degree and at the least visually. It basically comes off as "ohhh the lamentation of no longer being single! better live it up before I have to go to jail..." Why then get married i ask....I just don't understand. This is just my own take which I am sure is quite controversial. There is nothing wrong with sexual enjoyment but if someone wants actual monogamy I just don't think there should be excuses for a weak mind that cant impose some self-control. Ideally, there will be nothing to hold back, and being faithful will be second nature versus feeling like someone has to suppress fantasizing about running off to greener grass the first time they see the next greatest "art" . Because when it gets past a certain point this is essentially what people are doing.

 

[Ask Satya Operator]

https://ancient-forums.com/viewtopic.php?f=35&t=85770
In reply to original post. Not sure if this is how you do it.
We broke up today but for other reasons, he just kept treating me like an option at the end of the day. I made the decision. We're both probably better off without each other. It's going to be hard I was really attached to him but it'll only be worse the longer it goes on he stopped putting in effort and even seemed annoyed when I wanted to see him. He wasn't like this before. I don't think living together would have made things better. Anyway that's that I hope I don't get depressed or end up getting back with him.

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

https://ancient-forums.com/viewtopic.php?f=35&t=85770
In reply to original post. Not sure if this is how you do it.
We broke up today but for other reasons, he just kept treating me like an option at the end of the day. I made the decision. We're both probably better off without each other. It's going to be hard I was really attached to him but it'll only be worse the longer it goes on he stopped putting in effort and even seemed annoyed when I wanted to see him. He wasn't like this before. I don't think living together would have made things better. Anyway that's that I hope I don't get depressed or end up getting back with him.

You will find a good person who cares about you.

 

[Shadowcat]

https://ancient-forums.com/viewtopic.php?f=35&t=85770
In reply to original post. Not sure if this is how you do it.
We broke up today but for other reasons, he just kept treating me like an option at the end of the day. I made the decision. We're both probably better off without each other. It's going to be hard I was really attached to him but it'll only be worse the longer it goes on he stopped putting in effort and even seemed annoyed when I wanted to see him. He wasn't like this before. I don't think living together would have made things better. Anyway that's that I hope I don't get depressed or end up getting back with him.

The way he ogled others in front of you told you this nonverbally as it was. If you aren't someones first choice or if they start getting bored with you it will show. Like Olly said you will find someone more compatible. Be sure that he is loyal sensitive and kind.

• do not pick up drinkers
  Do not pick up drug users
  Do not pick up people who have mental problems
  Do not pick up people who have tempers
  Do not pick up people who have had lots of casual sex (they probably aren't bad people for liking sex, just aren't fit for monogamy)

Do choose someone who takes care of their mind and body and treats others with care and consideration. They must know what they want and who they want. Self-awareness is important for relationships as helps to eliminate poor choices.

The things listed at the very least will indicate someone with a weak mind and who has low impulse control. This does not bode well for a safe stable relationship where someone will stay loyal to you. Especially with the last list item commitment can end up feeling like jail to them, as their eyes will eventually start "just looking." Good luck.