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My half sister doesn't want a relationship - help

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Without divulging details about my life, I have a half-sister I haven't seen in years. We didn't grow up together as she is my biological Dad's child with another women who isn't my Mom. Anyways, this whole time, she has lived in the same city as me, so distance isn't an issue, but indifference is. We have each other only one social media channel, and I have reached out to tell her my door is always open, but she has no real interest in getting to know each other again.

How can I change this, or should I change this?

In Zevism, along with all healthy Pagan cultures, family is very important. Originally, I didn't care much for family, however I do now. I want a relationship with my sister. We are blood related after all.

Any help would be great

#1
GoldenxChild1said:

Without divulging details about my life, I have a half-sister I haven't seen in years. We didn't grow up together as she is my biological Dad's child with another women who isn't my Mom. Anyways, this whole time, she has lived in the same city as me, so distance isn't an issue, but indifference is. We have each other only one social media channel, and I have reached out to tell her my door is always open, but she has no real interest in getting to know each other again.

How can I change this, or should I change this?

In Zevism, along with all healthy Pagan cultures, family is very important. Originally, I didn't care much for family, however I do now. I want a relationship with my sister. We are blood related after all.

You can't force it. It's not like a regular sibling relationship, you didn't really have a relationship built in like most people do and your paths are not intertwined in any way.

I have half blood relatives too but I don't have a relationship with them. It used to bother me alot but I don't think it's worth trying to change at this point. I've tried but there is just no love or even basic connection, and I do not want to invite other peoples' dysfunction into my life. I've just accepted that there is nobody that I can have a familial relationship with.

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#2
GoldenxChild1said:

Without divulging details about my life, I have a half-sister I haven't seen in years. We didn't grow up together as she is my biological Dad's child with another women who isn't my Mom. Anyways, this whole time, she has lived in the same city as me, so distance isn't an issue, but indifference is. We have each other only one social media channel, and I have reached out to tell her my door is always open, but she has no real interest in getting to know each other again.

How can I change this, or should I change this?

In Zevism, along with all healthy Pagan cultures, family is very important. Originally, I didn't care much for family, however I do now. I want a relationship with my sister. We are blood related after all.

Well, Meditate in the evening/night, do your cleaning and yoga.. just do your regular spiritual exercises in the evening/night, so you have a powerful boost when you are about to go to bed.

Instead of going to bed, after Meditating, do a spell on her.

Go into a light trance, pull her light body out and hold her, so you don’t lose focus. Vibrate the runes into her soul, imagine them in golden light, also lightening up her entire soul. Make her feel the way you want her to feel, infuse her emotions, a smile, etc.

After you are done with the vibrations, program her. She should be asleep while doing so.

After that, keep your focus on her, and just let her feel positive emotions towards you.

I have been doing this for job interviews etc. And it always worked.

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#3
NinRicksaid:
GoldenxChild1said:

Without divulging details about my life, I have a half-sister I haven't seen in years. We didn't grow up together as she is my biological Dad's child with another women who isn't my Mom. Anyways, this whole time, she has lived in the same city as me, so distance isn't an issue, but indifference is. We have each other only one social media channel, and I have reached out to tell her my door is always open, but she has no real interest in getting to know each other again.

How can I change this, or should I change this?

In Zevism, along with all healthy Pagan cultures, family is very important. Originally, I didn't care much for family, however I do now. I want a relationship with my sister. We are blood related after all.

Well, Meditate in the evening/night, do your cleaning and yoga.. just do your regular spiritual exercises in the evening/night, so you have a powerful boost when you are about to go to bed.

Instead of going to bed, after Meditating, do a spell on her.

I was thinking of doing something like this! Thx

#4

I'm new here and I have a lot of questions and I don't know how to post anything here

#5

Personally, I wouldn't bother. Even if you try using magic on her, it would take 10 times as much effort because she's clearly not interested in letting you in her life.

I would just cut any bonds I have with a person like that and move on.

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#6
Olian0_0said:

I'm new here and I have a lot of questions and I don't know how to post anything here

Welcome, refer to this thread for forum usage

#7
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Purified666said:

Personally, I wouldn't bother. Even if you try using magic on her, it would take 10 times as much effort because she's clearly not interested in letting you in her life.

I would just cut any bonds I have with a person like that and move on.

I guess it just saddens me to let go of a potential relationship with a blood relative. I have 4 other siblings, all of which I see on holidays, but I do not have much of a relationship with them either.

Don't you want a brother or a sister to be close to in life? Do you have one?

#8
GoldenxChild1said:
Purified666said:

Personally, I wouldn't bother. Even if you try using magic on her, it would take 10 times as much effort because she's clearly not interested in letting you in her life.

I would just cut any bonds I have with a person like that and move on.

I guess it just saddens me to let go of a potential relationship with a blood relative. I have 4 other siblings, all of which I see on holidays, but I do not have much of a relationship with them either.

Don't you want a brother or a sister to be close to in life? Do you have one?

I look at the general compatibility with a person before I choose to invest time into them, especially if it involves magic. A mere blood bond in my current reincarnation is not enough, even more so if it didn't happen in past lives - then it's just an ephemeral bond probably not worth keeping.

Your other 4 siblings at least make the effort to meet up with you during the holidays (I assume they don't live close), unlike your half-sister who lives in the same city and doesn't want to be in your life.

Going back to my first point, family is important only if it empowers/improves you as a person. Staying in or pursuing a incompatible/dysfunctional family out of dogmatic views regarding the family will only diminish you as a person.

The choice is ultimately yours, but I suggest you at least meditate on this for some time before making a decision.

Disregard nihilism, embrace Zeus!

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Hail Athena! Hail Anubis! Hail Bastet! Hail Hestia!

Hail Zeus!

#9
Purified666said:

I look at the general compatibility with a person before I choose to invest time into them, especially if it involves magic. A mere blood bond in my current reincarnation is not enough, even more so if it didn't happen in past lives - then it's just an ephemeral bond probably not worth keeping.

Your other 4 siblings at least make the effort to meet up with you during the holidays (I assume they don't live close), unlike your half-sister who lives in the same city and doesn't want to be in your life.

Going back to my first point, family is important only if it empowers/improves you as a person. Staying in or pursuing a incompatible/dysfunctional family out of dogmatic views regarding the family will only diminish you as a person.

Strong and well-argued conviction. Respect!

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#10
GoldenxChild1said:

Without divulging details about my life, I have a half-sister I haven't seen in years. We didn't grow up together as she is my biological Dad's child with another women who isn't my Mom. Anyways, this whole time, she has lived in the same city as me, so distance isn't an issue, but indifference is. We have each other only one social media channel, and I have reached out to tell her my door is always open, but she has no real interest in getting to know each other again.

How can I change this, or should I change this?

In Zevism, along with all healthy Pagan cultures, family is very important. Originally, I didn't care much for family, however I do now. I want a relationship with my sister. We are blood related after all.

Do a Working of GEBO and WAUNJO with an appropriate affirmation that you form a healthy and loving relationship with your half sister. These aren't just form making Romantic Relationships, but also Bonds and Relationships with Friends. Family is very important and you should try to make it work. I wish you luck in this Endeavour and i wish that you would report your success in this thread as well.


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#11
General Yeagersaid:
GoldenxChild1said:

Without divulging details about my life, I have a half-sister I haven't seen in years. We didn't grow up together as she is my biological Dad's child with another women who isn't my Mom. Anyways, this whole time, she has lived in the same city as me, so distance isn't an issue, but indifference is. We have each other only one social media channel, and I have reached out to tell her my door is always open, but she has no real interest in getting to know each other again.

How can I change this, or should I change this?

In Zevism, along with all healthy Pagan cultures, family is very important. Originally, I didn't care much for family, however I do now. I want a relationship with my sister. We are blood related after all.

Do a Working of GEBO and WAUNJO with an appropriate affirmation that you form a healthy and loving relationship with your half sister. These aren't just form making Romantic Relationships, but also Bonds and Relationships with Friends. Family is very important and you should try to make it work. I wish you luck in this Endeavour and i wish that you would report your success in this thread as well.

Thanks brother. I appreciate your advice. When I have the energy and resources I will. Currently, I'm dealing with some health issues that are taking up a considerable amount of energy.

#12
Henu the Greatsaid:
Purified666said:

I look at the general compatibility with a person before I choose to invest time into them, especially if it involves magic. A mere blood bond in my current reincarnation is not enough, even more so if it didn't happen in past lives - then it's just an ephemeral bond probably not worth keeping.

Your other 4 siblings at least make the effort to meet up with you during the holidays (I assume they don't live close), unlike your half-sister who lives in the same city and doesn't want to be in your life.

Going back to my first point, family is important only if it empowers/improves you as a person. Staying in or pursuing a incompatible/dysfunctional family out of dogmatic views regarding the family will only diminish you as a person.

Strong and well-argued conviction. Respect!

Thank you!

I try to be as objective as possible whenever an emotionally charged topic/subject is at play. During such an event it's easy to lose sight of what ultimately matters: finishing the Great Work and claiming our birthright as rulers of the stars.

Disregard nihilism, embrace Zeus!

"The society that separates its scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards, and its fighting done by fools."

Hail Athena! Hail Anubis! Hail Bastet! Hail Hestia!

Hail Zeus!

#13

Have the best relationship that you can with the 4 of your siblings that you are close with. And one day the 5th one may think of all 4 of you together and want to be closer with the whole group. This shifts the focus towards wanting to be part of a family group, instead of just being closer with one person who honestly she barely knows and might not be fully comfortable with.

4 siblings who you are very close with is still a good record and you are lucky to have this. Many people don't have as good of a family.

#14
Ol argedco luciftiassaid:

Have the best relationship that you can with the 4 of your siblings that you are close with. And one day the 5th one may think of all 4 of you together and want to be closer with the whole group. This shifts the focus towards wanting to be part of a family group, instead of just being closer with one person who honestly she barely knows and might not be fully comfortable with.

4 siblings who you are very close with is still a good record and you are lucky to have this. Many people don't have as good of a family.

Thanks for the reply Ol. Although I understand the argument some of our Zevist brothers are making, I think they're too off-the-mark. Unless your family member is a Christian or something, why not try? Especially seeing as we understand the power of family and have the power to improve it.

#15
GoldenxChild1said:

But you have been trying. What about her wishes? What about her desire to stay away? You have made it blatantly clear to her that you want to be closer and yet she has rejected every attempt at a connection.

I think it's a far more fruitful endeavor to find out why that is than to keep pouring energy trying to get through to her because, after a point, it just becomes counterproductive. Imagine someone you don't want to see constantly hassling you. How would you feel?

#16

I just wanted to say that I am thankful for the pragmatic advice I have received from some of my fellow Zevists. All of you have solid arguments, and I appreciate you taking the time to discuss my life with me.

#17
GoldenxChild1said:
Ol argedco luciftiassaid:

Have the best relationship that you can with the 4 of your siblings that you are close with. And one day the 5th one may think of all 4 of you together and want to be closer with the whole group. This shifts the focus towards wanting to be part of a family group, instead of just being closer with one person who honestly she barely knows and might not be fully comfortable with.

4 siblings who you are very close with is still a good record and you are lucky to have this. Many people don't have as good of a family.

Thanks for the reply Ol. Although I understand the argument some of our Zevism brothers are making, I think they're too off-the-mark. Unless your family member is a Christian or something, why not try? Especially seeing as we understand the power of family and have the power to improve it.

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Why not try? How about, why doesn't she try? Have you thought about that?

She has no desire to have you in her life and I think her wishes should be respected. Olly and POJ have made good points. What makes you so hung up on this one person when you have several other good relationships already?

What is right and wrong?
What is the meaning of our existence?
How should you live your life, according to Nature and the Gods?
Find out here:
https://templeofzeus.org/EthicsOftheGods

Join us in the Temple, we engage in blessings and group rituals to the Gods:
https://ancient-forums.com/threads/vultus-templorum-outreach-and-temple-live-rituals.301975/

#18
GoldenxChild1said:

I just wanted to say that I am thankful for the pragmatic advice I have received from some of my fellow Zevism. All of you have solid arguments, and I appreciate you taking the time to discuss my life with me.

Oh, using the method I shared with you, this will not take much energy, and you should see results pretty fast. At least this has been the case for me.

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"Don’t quit. Suffer now,
and live the rest of your life as a Champion.“

Read the Temple of Zeus: Learn the truth and knowledge that has been secret and forbidden for MILLENIA!!

STAND TALL, BE PROUD, BE STRONG, YOU ARE PART OF ZEUS‘S HOUSE!

HAIL LADY INANNA!!
HAIL LORD APOLLO!!
HAIL BAAL-ZEBULON!!
HAIL FATHER ZEUS!!

#19
GoldenxChild1said:

This context changes everything. The way I understood it initially was that you had been trying to get through to her for a long time and that she wasn't interested.

What I meant with my initial reply was that it would be far easier to figure out why she was avoiding contact and resolve that than to keep pouring energy into trying to have a relationship again. (Though that ended up not being the case)

I don't get it; if you really haven't spoken to her in such a long time, what's the big deal? If there is no animosity, no friction, then what's stopping you from just contacting her again?

I guess you can do a short working to ensure better success and understanding in relationships beforehand, but I got the idea it was way worse.