Making someone UNafraid of you?

[iorost]

Straight to the point without any unnecessary details: Here's the scenario. I'm almost completely certain my wife has fallen out of love with me. I'm almost completely certain she is also secretely christian. Her mother who she thinks very highly of and talks to daily is RETARDEDLY christian. She is the kind of person who is constantly afraid, just in general but especially of what others think. She gets stressed out incredibly easily for no reason. All of this together with what I believe is my intuition, and I have a situation in which she is too afraid of me to divorce me. Too afraid of what her family would think, how I would react, but mostly the stress of the consequences for her.

So how do I clear the speculative fog? How can I push my wife to grow a pair if need be?!

 

[Magus Immortalis]

Depending on your style, you could start talking about your marriage and your feelings for her, that you have (or had, I don't know, not my business) for your wife. If you flat out ask her if she's Christian she might get on the defensive and that's not the best way to start a conversation. Ask her for her opinion, what she thinks of the marriage, how she feels about you etc. Get her to open up, encourage her gently.Then she will put aside her assumptions about you and open up.
Whether or not you want to stay in the marriage, I really hope this advice helps. Good luck.

On Friday, October 31, 2014 5:41 AM, "iorost@... [JoyofSatan666]" <[email protected] wrote:


  Straight to the point without any unnecessary details: Here's the scenario. I'm almost completely certain my wife has fallen out of love with me. I'm almost completely certain she is also secretely christian. Her mother who she thinks very highly of and talks to daily is RETARDEDLY christian. She is the kind of person who is constantly afraid, just in general but especially of what others think. She gets stressed out incredibly easily for no reason. All of this together with what I believe is my intuition, and I have a situation in which she is too afraid of me to divorce me. Too afraid of what her family would think, how I would react, but mostly the stress of the consequences for her.

So how do I clear the speculative fog? How can I push my wife to grow a pair if need be?!

 

[iorost]

Thank you.