Bad karma involving sex. How to advance

[Isisd]

I've been seriously messed up during the last year, trying to convince myself that the modern concept of sex is right. I simply can't. It is especially worse when I think about my partner. I can't physically and mentally bare the thought that my future wife and mother of my children has been penetrated by another male. This has nothing to do with insecurity or comparison, I can assure I can sexually please women, and I never compare myself to others nor I have complexes in this regard. It's more like a "ownership" and traditional thing. I think that's the best way I can explain it. In my family the man took the virginity of the wife, always been that way. I would literally be the first in my family to ever marry a deflorated woman. I know that these are bad and out dated things to write and could be offensive to some sisters here, and I wanna overcome it. It's not a recent thing, I've always been that way. I recall that even when I was a child, when a joke about my mother or father cheating or having another partner in the past came up (and I'm talking about jokes cause they're a happy couple) I would literally go furious. Don't come at me with some christianity programming crap (I didn't have any), as if hellenic and roman pagan men didn't value the purity and virginity of a woman if they wanted to take her as a wife. Castity was considered a divine virtue for women in the mores maiorum. I know that we are in 2025 and that there is nothing bad if a woman has had other partners before his husband, and that this doesn't make her a less valuable human being. I know that obsessing over some potential partner's sex life is creepy. I'm well aware. I just have to adapt to this century and society, and in order to do so I have to point the problem up. It's like a part of my soul, the part that revolves around sex and marriage, comes from another century. Maybe it's something about some positions in my natal chart? Or maybe a past life influence? Maybe there are specific workings you could suggest. I want to ascend over this.

 

[HPS Lydia]

It's only the past centuries with xianity/islam that chastity was claimed to be important. It wasn't like this in the Ancient days. Even most Queens and Empresses had lovers before they married the King/Empower, some even had illegitimate children before marriage; peasants also had lovers before marriage. All social classes understood that sex was normal and not taboo.

Virginity was never seen to be essential until fairly recently in history, even in the 1600's-1800's even noblewomen (royalty, lesser royalty, etc) had sex before marriage. And as I wrote before, the "holy roman emperor" allowed his daughters to have non-marital sex because he refused them to get married, and he fully provided for their illegitimate children.

It is only this past while that people are so messed up regarding sex. This has caused a huge swing to vulgar promiscuity everywhere, which then also causes people to become psychologically triggered to thinking nobody should ever have sex until marriage. The enemy pushes to both extremes, preventing normal balance.

It goes against nature to refuse to have sex until marriage. People fall in love or have very strong attraction, they shouldn't need a religious/government paper to do what was always considered natural.

 

[OrionKrieger]

Its alright to feel this way but here’s some things that i wanna point out. You can’t have “ownership” of a woman, that’s just simply not possible. And if your partner loves you, what’s the deal here? You can’t control if people have had sex before you, and even if they did, they would still settle for a person they truly love. The same thought process happens to females, and if the both of you can get along and truly understand each other i don’t see why you would be worried.

I agree that the modern concept of sex is absolutely horrid, and its not the act itself, its the stuff surrounding it. But here’s the thing, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. A person that has had sex before doesn’t automatically make them unfaithful or possibly make them unfaithful in the future, that’s a childish way to think.

 

[Hárbarðr]

Don't come at me with some christianity programming crap (I didn't have any), as if hellenic and roman pagan men didn't value the purity and virginity of a woman if they wanted to take her as a wife. Castity was considered a divine virtue for women in the mores maiorum.

Only certain priestesses had to be virgins in ancient times, not average women. The idea that the average woman has to be a virgin if she isn't married is xian.