I heard that when you give attention to worms they start to think that they are.. big forces of nature. Lesson is to not focus on worms, like the worm primal, and let them be sucking on dirt alone. This goes a long way with all kinds of people in life too.
Focusing on the better, pure and beautiful people is the aim. Not on these people. Understand in your mind these two categories and see, how it should be and how it is. Then you understand that you cannot also fall for too much empathy, since sometimes this can be a trap for weakness.