Family #80527 problems with mother and her family

[Ask Satya Operator]

My mother's side is incredibly toxic and they poison my relationship with my parents. They suddenly show up and come on vacation when everything is calm. They treat it like some extreme event that I can wear pants instead of long skirts, that I don't cover my hair, and that my parents don't pressure me about it.
My mother defends my freedom when they say such things, but for example, when my grandmother last visited, she told my mother over and over that she made a huge mistake by not hitting me, my mother said children shouldn't be raised this way, but when they left, she hit me for the first time. She did this several times, and all for strange reasons. For example, because I didn't say hello to my grandfather.
When she did this to me, I packed my things and looked for a place to stay. She got other people involved and made sure I stayed at home that time.
Now my grandmother has come again and told my mother to do this to me again. My mother said that if she does this to me, I won't stay at home. My grandmother said, “That's fine, let her go and find someone. If you beat her, she'll get married early.” Because they know I won't have another choice.
I genuinely despise these people with every fiber of my being. What can I do? Even though there doesn't seem to be any problem right now, I know my mother is affected by them and I sense that there will be problems.

 

[Henu the Great]

You can bind your grandparent from acting against you, and you can mend your relationship with your mother, both with runic magick.

 

[Yeye95]

My mother's side is incredibly toxic and they poison my relationship with my parents. They suddenly show up and come on vacation when everything is calm. They treat it like some extreme event that I can wear pants instead of long skirts, that I don't cover my hair, and that my parents don't pressure me about it.
My mother defends my freedom when they say such things, but for example, when my grandmother last visited, she told my mother over and over that she made a huge mistake by not hitting me, my mother said children shouldn't be raised this way, but when they left, she hit me for the first time. She did this several times, and all for strange reasons. For example, because I didn't say hello to my grandfather.
When she did this to me, I packed my things and looked for a place to stay. She got other people involved and made sure I stayed at home that time.
Now my grandmother has come again and told my mother to do this to me again. My mother said that if she does this to me, I won't stay at home. My grandmother said, “That's fine, let her go and find someone. If you beat her, she'll get married early.” Because they know I won't have another choice.
I genuinely despise these people with every fiber of my being. What can I do? Even though there doesn't seem to be any problem right now, I know my mother is affected by them and I sense that there will be problems.

It’s incredibly tough what you’re going through. It is painful to see how other people's toxicity, even if they are family, manages to fracture the peace and autonomy you’ve built. In the Zevist path, personal freedom and sovereignty over your own body and spirit are fundamental pillars, and this is a direct violation of that sovereignty.

1. Sovereignty of the Self (Psychic Protection)​

In Zevism, you are the master of your own temple: your body and your mind. The hatred you feel isn’t "bad"; it’s a natural response from your system against an invasion.

• Cut the energetic cord: Don’t let their "dense" words become your reality. Your mother's behavior reflects her own weakness against manipulation; it’s not your fault.
• Use emotional distance: Treat these people as strange and hostile entities. Don't look for them to understand or validate you; that only gives them power over how you feel.

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2. Strengthen your Aura and Protection​

If the physical environment gets heavy, your spiritual protection needs to be made of iron.

• Protection Rituals: Perform energetic cleansings often. Invoke your protectors and the Gods to raise a barrier that prevents your grandmother's toxicity from contaminating your mother's mind.
• Contact with your GD: Ask for clear guidance to stay calm and sharp. You need a cold head to move strategically.

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3. The "Rock" Strategy (Discretion)​

If you can't leave right this second, apply the "rock" technique:

• Be as boring and non-reactive as possible in front of them. Don’t fight or try to explain your freedom. Sometimes, open resistance just makes them want to control you more.
• Keep your thoughts and spiritual practice private, for your moments alone or with people you truly trust.

4. The Value of Material Freedom​

The Zevist path is also practical. The Gods want us to be strong and self-reliant.

• Contingency Plan: Start putting together, quietly and in order, a plan for your total independence. Studying and physical preparation are forms of active meditation.
• Don't give in to fear: They use marriage or physical punishment to make you afraid so you lose your freedom. Remember that the Gods created you for something much bigger than being a bargaining chip; that will give you the strength not to bend.

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5. Physical and Primal Meditation​

As we’ve discussed before, use physical meditations. Channel that contempt and rage through Yoga or Pranayama. Don't let the hatred get stuck in your body and make you sick; use it as fuel to forge a will of iron.