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My mother's side is incredibly toxic and they poison my relationship with my parents. They suddenly show up and come on vacation when everything is calm. They treat it like some extreme event that I can wear pants instead of long skirts, that I don't cover my hair, and that my parents don't pressure me about it.
My mother defends my freedom when they say such things, but for example, when my grandmother last visited, she told my mother over and over that she made a huge mistake by not hitting me, my mother said children shouldn't be raised this way, but when they left, she hit me for the first time. She did this several times, and all for strange reasons. For example, because I didn't say hello to my grandfather.
When she did this to me, I packed my things and looked for a place to stay. She got other people involved and made sure I stayed at home that time.
Now my grandmother has come again and told my mother to do this to me again. My mother said that if she does this to me, I won't stay at home. My grandmother said, “That's fine, let her go and find someone. If you beat her, she'll get married early.” Because they know I won't have another choice.
I genuinely despise these people with every fiber of my being. What can I do? Even though there doesn't seem to be any problem right now, I know my mother is affected by them and I sense that there will be problems.
My mother defends my freedom when they say such things, but for example, when my grandmother last visited, she told my mother over and over that she made a huge mistake by not hitting me, my mother said children shouldn't be raised this way, but when they left, she hit me for the first time. She did this several times, and all for strange reasons. For example, because I didn't say hello to my grandfather.
When she did this to me, I packed my things and looked for a place to stay. She got other people involved and made sure I stayed at home that time.
Now my grandmother has come again and told my mother to do this to me again. My mother said that if she does this to me, I won't stay at home. My grandmother said, “That's fine, let her go and find someone. If you beat her, she'll get married early.” Because they know I won't have another choice.
I genuinely despise these people with every fiber of my being. What can I do? Even though there doesn't seem to be any problem right now, I know my mother is affected by them and I sense that there will be problems.
