Other #75731 what should I do

[AskSatanOperator]

I think I should stop being nice to everyone all the time, most people don't care they just want to go out there and do what they have to do and they don't give af about your feelings so they gonna treat you like "whatever" but I can't, I worry too much about others, I apologize all the time... I want to please all the time

 

[Sonne]

Consistently striving to show equal kindness and care to everyone can become overwhelming and emotionally depleting. People often, unintentionally, overlook the feelings of others—not out of malice, but because their priorities differ. However, for someone as deeply empathetic and sensitive as you, this can lead to exhaustion in the effort to sustain such an approach.

It’s important to embrace this truth: not everyone is worthy of your care, kindness, or effort. By reserving your energy and compassion for those who genuinely value and reciprocate it, you safeguard your well-being and create space for deeper, more fulfilling connections.

 

[Epiphany]

I think I should stop being nice to everyone all the time, most people don't care they just want to go out there and do what they have to do and they don't give af about your feelings so they gonna treat you like "whatever" but I can't, I worry too much about others, I apologize all the time... I want to please all the time

Nobody is responsible for your feelings.

You're not responsible for anyone else's feelings.

Sensitivity and humility and softness is wonderful, and you should feel free to be this way with good and proven trustworthy people.

But you have to be capable and comfortable with being mean and unyielding when you have to, because you are guaranteed to have to with everybody you meet at some point in your life.

Conflict and friction and sharp language is necessary to experience and wield in order to learn to draw and enforce boundaries and define what is yours and what is theirs.

The sooner you go through conflict, take your ground and stand your ground, and learn to fight at whatever level a situation calls for, the better. Even if you lose, the practice of standing up and fighting is very valuable and will help you toughen up.

After accomplishing this, your next great challenge will be developing the ability to discern how soft or firm you should be at any given time, and how to pick your battles and when to cut your losses.

Be kind, be nice, be pleasant, but don't be a doormat and don't be sweet to just anybody, because not everyone deserves it.

 

[Epiphany]

One reason we have peace and order in a society is because of the threat of violence from the state, through law enforcement.

Fairness is secured in a similar, albeit more socialized fashion. Anger, judgement, expectation, accountability, etc - along with the projection of your will - will help you secure fairness and peace in your life.

There's a flip side to all this and that is to be aware if you do things for other people with the covert expectation of something in return.

Sometimes you set yourself up to feel abused, and it has nothing to do with others, they may not be intending or even aware that you feel hurt, because they aren't aware of your expectations.

This is especially important for "people pleasers" to realize. It is best to be nice to people for its own sake and not because you expect something of them.

 

[AFODO]

You are just a kind individual, this is not bad, but rather good. If you notice that this kindness is against you, than change, but generally being kind and positive towards the outside world is good, but don't make sacrifices that is not worth it. I cannot say more because you didn't shared more details.