Relationships #75573 not being able to set boundaries in a romantic relationship

[AskSatanOperator]

when I start a relationship I compromise my self-love, my self-respect and everything, the understanding of "love" that I have makes this happen. there is no you or me, the feelings I have for myself and the feelings I have for him, I pour it all into the relationship and into that person. it's be out of for me. it holds me back in everything, I can't get things done, I'm tired all the time and my character is greatly weakened by the end of the relationship.

when I try to change my perception of love, I find that I can't get emotional fulfillment and the same goes for sex. if all this doesn't result in obsession and abuse from the other person, it results in a betrayal of myself and it takes me a long time to recover. what can I do to prevent this? and sorry for my english.

 

[SeguaceDiSatanas]

abuse from the other person

Try to follow this series of steps:

PRELIMINARY: Remove parasitic ties with anyone who is abusive to you (while doing the next things)

How to Detach Unwanted People/Entities from Your Aura

1) Value yourself: you are a Satanist. You are not the slave of some andrapoda who spends his life abusing you because he is worthless on his own and needs to parasitize someone else.

2) Heal and strengthen yourself emotionally:

Healing the Emotional Body (for men too, don’t disregard this)

You have your physical body, soul, astral body, mental body, and more. The Emotional Body is the part of the soul that can be damaged when you experience emotional trauma, grief, bereavement, abandonment, and so on. Many people have emotional outbursts, immature reactions, trigger episodes...

ancient-forums.com

3) Attract the people who are truly positive for you: https://satanisgod.org/AURA.html

4) Establish healthy relationships:

Futhark/Odin

In case of need, if you see that someone turns out to be a real danger, do not hesitate:

Fighting Back

At least that's what I would do.

 

[DarkPagan666]

In addition to the above:

This is not uncommon for people who deeply invest in others, but may neglect their own needs in the process. Love in this case is often seen as something that requires self-sacrifice, but true love should enhance your life, not diminish it.

One key change for you can be to look upon love as a shared experience between two complement individuals, where both people continue to maintain their own identities, but work in unison to uplift each other. You should not and do not have to lose yourself in order to love someone else.

Setting clear boundaries doesn't mean you love anyone less, rather, it means you love and respect yourself while still caring for the other person. Establishing personal boundaries can allow anyone to maintain their own hobbies, passions, and time alone, which is crucial in many respects.

When we look for emotional fulfillment primarily in a partner, it can sometimes lead to dependency. It's important to cultivate an emotional well-being within yourself, so that you're not relying on someone else to “fill you up”, so to speak.

Self-validation is another example that is important to remind yourself of your strengths, achievements, and the qualities that make you as a being unique. By becoming more self-aware here, you can start to change how you interact with other people, and/or in future relationships.

The most important relationship is the one you have with your own self. When you're centered in your own self-love and respect, you won't be so easily swayed or diminished by the negative dynamics of any relationship, as your strength is solely internal.

In essence, it all bleeds down to balance. Relationships should be a source of joy and connection, not depletion. When you are able to recognize your own needs, setting boundaries, and nurturing yourself, you can have a much healthier and stronger dynamic with both yourself and your future partner(s).