severely depressed partner

[Keunio]

Hello to all my dear brothers and sisters. I'm going through a huge difficulty... My partner has severe depression and recently she's been self-harming and taking medication to get high. She tries to use the "least harm" therapy and it's obviously ineffective... We talked once and she told me she can't imagine her life without melancholy, that she's lived like this for so long that she doesn't know what it would be like to be happy. She used this argument and I know it's an excuse not to get better; it's not easy to get better, but if she doesn't even want to try, how will that happen? What should I do? Is there any way the gods can help her? She's not a Zevist. I almost convinced her to come to Zevism, but she thinks it's too much work because of the spiritual routine, but again, it was just her depression preventing her from leaving her comfort zone.

 

[Umun]

Is she physically active? Regular exercise (among other things) helped me get out of severe clinical depression. Seeing a professional could make a difference if you can get her to go. Diet and a good sleep routine are important factors as well. There are studies that show promissing effects of high doses of magnesium. There are many ways but it only works if the patient is cooperating.

Asking for divine help is another thing you could do. After doing Asclepius or Valefors ritual you could present your case.

Wish you success.

 

[Henu the Great]

She has to be willing to change for the better. Having none, you are a central figure who can influence her to a better future. After she has some will to change, the abovementioned and many other ways are effective solutions.

 

[High Priestess Lydia Coventina]

You should tell her family. Too many people in relationships where one is depressed and harming, develop an inner closed-off world shutting out other people. We are not meant to be closed off to others, we are supposed to have a support network.

Self-harming can develop into suicide attempts, so you should definitely contact her family about this. If she has no family, then there are legal support groups that can provide help and give you a support system. This is not fair to you to have to deal with on your own.

In addition, you can try spiritual cleaning for her, this can help support her mood but is complementary to the above advice. You can use perhaps Wunjo rune and program it to help her get the help she needs, make sure to include "in beneficial and healthy ways for her" in your affirmation.

 

[Head Guardian Sophiles Phylax]

Hello to all my dear brothers and sisters. I'm going through a huge difficulty... My partner has severe depression and recently she's been self-harming and taking medication to get high. She tries to use the "least harm" therapy and it's obviously ineffective... We talked once and she told me she can't imagine her life without melancholy, that she's lived like this for so long that she doesn't know what it would be like to be happy. She used this argument and I know it's an excuse not to get better; it's not easy to get better, but if she doesn't even want to try, how will that happen? What should I do? Is there any way the gods can help her? She's not a Zevist. I almost convinced her to come to Zevism, but she thinks it's too much work because of the spiritual routine, but again, it was just her depression preventing her from leaving her comfort zone.

You can use a God’s ritual as a way to support wellbeing without committing to a full working. As one example off the top of my head, Apollo is traditionally associated with solar qualities, healing, harmony, clarity, and structure. Together, these practices may support emotional grounding, clarity, and routine, which can complement ongoing medical or psychological treatment during difficult periods. In addition, they may help inform how you support them or approach related decisions in life.

 

[Head Guardian Sophiles Phylax]

Hello to all my dear brothers and sisters. I'm going through a huge difficulty... My partner has severe depression and recently she's been self-harming and taking medication to get high. She tries to use the "least harm" therapy and it's obviously ineffective... We talked once and she told me she can't imagine her life without melancholy, that she's lived like this for so long that she doesn't know what it would be like to be happy. She used this argument and I know it's an excuse not to get better; it's not easy to get better, but if she doesn't even want to try, how will that happen? What should I do? Is there any way the gods can help her? She's not a Zevist. I almost convinced her to come to Zevism, but she thinks it's too much work because of the spiritual routine, but again, it was just her depression preventing her from leaving her comfort zone.

Self-harm and the use of medication may both be understood, in different ways and contexts, as attempts to alter or regulate internal emotional states. In some individuals, a strong identification with melancholy may also reflect a conscious engagement with these experiences.

When self-harming or emotionally intense patterns become deeply reinforced, they can create self-perpetuating cycles that make lower-intensity or healthier activities feel less emotionally meaningful at first. Because of this, adopting healthier forms of wellbeing and enjoyment may take time and gradual adjustment.

On a reflective level, some perspectives interpret certain forms of self-harming behavior as involving attempts to regain a sense of control or relief during periods of emotional distress. Rather than framing this in moral or fixed clinical terms, Zevism can be understood as offering a way to redirect that search for control into structured spiritual practice, supporting the development of greater self-awareness, emotional regulation, and a more constructive sense of agency over one’s experience.

Although it may be more difficult at the beginning, and some individuals may struggle with consistency, practices such as Sowilo practice, Apollo’s Ritual, working with the solar chakra through cleaning or spinning techniques, and breathing in or visualizing solar energy may, over time, support an increased sense of vitality, emotional steadiness, and improved capacity to engage with daily life for some practitioners.

 

[Asra]

Adding to the advice here, be mindful of the context. If you're looking for outside support, do a check on her family first. I've known several cases where the family added to the person's depression, either by being/having been abusive, or withholding resources, such as after disagreements. If the situation is similar, it would be better to contact a therapist, local groups, or authorities.