about my lost zevist female friend

[justvoid]

Let me say right off the bat: there was nothing intimate between us.
I think about her all the time, and I can’t stop. Everything was fine for a couple of years, but then we drifted apart because of a personal argument. Because of my paranoia and antisocial tendencies, I can’t stop thinking about her. It’s hard to lose friends who are kindred spirits, and every time I think about it, I feel lost. What should I do? I’ve tried to break this spell with magic, but something keeps pulling me back to the past.

 

[Apprentice]

If I were you, I'd focus on my own growth, purification, overcoming the malefic traits, and becoming the best possible version of a Zevist Human Being.
A detachment working could help you let go of the obsession, but you have to be absolutely clear-willed about it.

 

[Grimryper7]

Let me say right off the bat: there was nothing intimate between us.
I think about her all the time, and I can’t stop. Everything was fine for a couple of years, but then we drifted apart because of a personal argument. Because of my paranoia and antisocial tendencies, I can’t stop thinking about her. It’s hard to lose friends who are kindred spirits, and every time I think about it, I feel lost. What should I do? I’ve tried to break this spell with magic, but something keeps pulling me back to the past.

Sometimes, Time is key. How long have you been feeling this? Maybe you need to give yourself time. Grief is expressed in many ways, so let yourself express that grief and give yourself time perhaps?

Both of you being zevists, you guys should of course prioritize your own advancement. Then maybe once you both have grown, a reunion may be possible and healthier.

 

[Lucius Invictus [NG]]

Go out and enjoy your life. Make new friends and share moments with them face-to-face. People come and go and that's life. Don't waste your energy on wishing it was different.

You'll feel better when you fill your experiences with new things.

 

[Detacher]

What did you like about the friendship?
Can you recreate the dynamic with someone else?

Observe the root cause of your paranoia and bring it to conscious awareness or else it may become a recurring theme in your life... and perhaps consider cord-cutting.

 

[coral__]

Let me say right off the bat: there was nothing intimate between us.
I think about her all the time, and I can’t stop. Everything was fine for a couple of years, but then we drifted apart because of a personal argument. Because of my paranoia and antisocial tendencies, I can’t stop thinking about her. It’s hard to lose friends who are kindred spirits, and every time I think about it, I feel lost. What should I do? I’ve tried to break this spell with magic, but something keeps pulling me back to the past.

I'm very sorry to hear about it.
Losing a friend is never a nice thing... Unfortunately, these type of things happens and we can't really control anything except ourself.

If I may ask, when did this happen? Recently or few months ago?
Reflect on what happened in the situation: did you try to hear her out too, during the argument? Did you try to get your point through with respect and politeness?
These things are very important during an argument.
From what you say, I feel is very unlikely that she will come back so I think that one thing you can do is reflect on how you acted during the argument, if you were respectful, if you tried to look things from her point of view and so on...

Despite of how hard it is and how difficult it sounds: let her go. Don't push her, don't do nothing. If you tried your best, you have nothing more to do if not learn something for the future.


As other brothers already suggested, go out and look for new friends. Be open to receive and actively search! You will never know who you will met, they might be even better!
Of course, you will never find another one like that ex-friend of yours... This doesn't mean that they won't be good friends too!

Good luck on your search. Remember that you have the Gods with you!

 

[Desdemona_666]

Let me say right off the bat: there was nothing intimate between us.
I think about her all the time, and I can’t stop. Everything was fine for a couple of years, but then we drifted apart because of a personal argument. Because of my paranoia and antisocial tendencies, I can’t stop thinking about her. It’s hard to lose friends who are kindred spirits, and every time I think about it, I feel lost. What should I do? I’ve tried to break this spell with magic, but something keeps pulling me back to the past.

The grieving period is like that, and there is nothing wrong with how you're feeling. We need time to make peace with the fact that someone who meant us so much and we really cared about is gone. Suddenly, there is this huge hole in our life that this person previously occupied and we just don't know what to do. This is normal.

I cannot tell you how to grieve, dear Brother, as grieving process is highly individual, but I wish you to be strong, Brother and find the way forward. Because there is one. There always is.

Stay strong, and may the Gods help you overcome this difficult period and show you the path forward.

 

[ARIES SPIRITUAL LIGHTOFLUCIFER666]

Let me say right off the bat: there was nothing intimate between us.
I think about her all the time, and I can’t stop. Everything was fine for a couple of years, but then we drifted apart because of a personal argument. Because of my paranoia and antisocial tendencies, I can’t stop thinking about her. It’s hard to lose friends who are kindred spirits, and every time I think about it, I feel lost. What should I do? I’ve tried to break this spell with magic, but something keeps pulling me back to the past.

May Zeus reunite you with your future lover

 

[justvoid]

May Zeus reunite you with your future lover

Thank you <3

 

[justvoid]

I'm very sorry to hear about it.
Losing a friend is never a nice thing... Unfortunately, these type of things happens and we can't really control anything except ourself.

If I may ask, when did this happen? Recently or few months ago?
Reflect on what happened in the situation: did you try to hear her out too, during the argument? Did you try to get your point through with respect and politeness?
These things are very important during an argument.
From what you say, I feel is very unlikely that she will come back so I think that one thing you can do is reflect on how you acted during the argument, if you were respectful, if you tried to look things from her point of view and so on...

Despite of how hard it is and how difficult it sounds: let her go. Don't push her, don't do nothing. If you tried your best, you have nothing more to do if not learn something for the future.


As other brothers already suggested, go out and look for new friends. Be open to receive and actively search! You will never know who you will met, they might be even better!
Of course, you will never find another one like that ex-friend of yours... This doesn't mean that they won't be good friends too!

Good luck on your search. Remember that you have the Gods with you!

What did you like about the friendship?
Can you recreate the dynamic with someone else?

Observe the root cause of your paranoia and bring it to conscious awareness or else it may become a recurring theme in your life... and perhaps consider cord-cutting.

Go out and enjoy your life. Make new friends and share moments with them face-to-face. People come and go and that's life. Don't waste your energy on wishing it was different.

You'll feel better when you fill your experiences with new things.

In my country, any dissent can be prosecuted, even though the country is officially secular. This ranges from internet censorship—where people can be jailed for liking videos of opposition politicians on YouTube—to making negative comments about the current government. And when it comes to religion, anything not related to orthodox christianity can be published, condemned, and lead to very negative consequences, since the criminal code contains one VERY remarkable article titled “offending the feelings of believers” with a very substantial prison sentence, and in my country, someone who has served time in prison is practically denied the chance to get a normal job. I think it’s obvious why I’m going crazy with paranoia and why it’s so hard for me to make friends. Everyone is different, everyone has different views on life, and there’s a very real chance that this or that person could cause serious physical harm.

Most of the population in my country has been brainwashed, with the exception of politicians. I’m saying all this to explain why I have trouble socializing (I condemn politics, and I don’t want to start arguments about it; I wrote this just to provide context).

So how am I supposed to open up and trust people in that case?

 

[justvoid]

There could be plenty of situations where my freedom might be at risk. That’s why, unfortunately, I’m very lonely.

 

[serpentwalker666]

Focus on your spiritual growth and overcoming these issues and tendencies. I struggled with anti social tendencies and relations for much in my life, as my mother has Agoraphobia and there was a period when I was younger where I barely left the house for about 5 years.

I know how this can be. I forced myself to overcome this and just used the isolation to heavily spiritually advance, but I understand this is very damaging. I kept my sanity by just doing RTRs, and a full strict advancement program for that period of time of my life.

If you ever want to talk and need help overcoming this you can just message me.

We are all here for you, my friend.

 

[Tethys333]

Losing a friend is never a pleasant experience for anyone, but you can grow from every event in your life, even the negative ones.

Don’t let your life depend on someone else. The ancient Greeks called this autarkeia, self-sufficiency.

Before you can be a friend to someone else, you must learn to appreciate yourself and be self-sufficient. As you’ve seen, you won’t always have someone by your side,and many here have experienced this, so the only person you can always count on is yourself.

Learn to appreciate yourself and to understand that you don’t need anyone else to define yourself or to live. Friends come later. It may seem like a selfish thought, but believe me, it will prevent others from walking all over you and limit the number of disappointments in your life.

Live your life carefree; I’m sure there are plenty of people out there who are a better fit for you and who can appreciate you for who you are.


Learn not to depend on anyone, and you’ll be a free man.