Dont know how to start so ill just say it. lived in self imposed isolation due to a sickness in my preteen to my late teens where toz became literary my home, my life, my second voice due to the amount of materials i read. before toz, tried so many times to end myself almost succeeded a couple of times. started socializing in my early 20s, the few people i had i held to them like my life depended on them, was truthful, nice and appreciative to textbook accuracy. but all that did not help. got brutalized scorned gossiped. There was a year i did so well that my energy was at peak life started being bright even when i was broke, got the love of my life at that moment, We broke up. felt hurt to the point i had chest pains. almost lost my mind from that break up. had others again ended the same. unfortunately i went to drugs and alcohol. managed to make me sleep. i still feel broken. weak and the only thing i hear everywhere is man up, grow up. i have tried a lot to man up. the thought of living for 10 more years scares me literary. Life is getting ok yet interally never been closer to death. Am not asking anything, maybe a simple next life
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Social life depends on other people's intentions, and you experienced some "bad" aspects of them, like people gossiping or a breakup. These can happen, but they can be seen as lessons to strengthen our character and move forward in life. After these experiences, one starts learning more to distinguish quality people for your lifestyle, because some people may be good friends with me but not with you, or vice versa. Go out and explore the world. The more you interact with people, the more you will learn about them and how to handle them. Do sports, eat healthy, meditate every day, and ask the guidance of the Gods. Follow Maat and Zevists' ethics. Study your natal chart and understand what the placements may be giving you issues in the social sphere of existence, and do spiritual workings to fix these.
Am not asking anything, maybe a simple next life
Unfortunately, this is only up to us. We are here, and we can just fix bad habits and bad karma in this life. If we don't fix our issues in this life, they will not disappear in the next ones. Stay strong, Brother!
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If you have thoughts or are still harming yourself, please seek help from a professional. Speaking to an expert in this field will help you more than asking for help online.
Social life depends on other people's intentions, and you experienced some "bad" aspects of them, like people gossiping or a breakup. These can happen, but they can be seen as lessons to strengthen our character and move forward in life. After these experiences, one starts learning more to distinguish quality people for your lifestyle, because some people may be good friends with me but not with you, or vice versa. Go out and explore the world. The more you interact with people, the more you will learn about them and how to handle them. Do sports, eat healthy, meditate every day, and ask the guidance of the Gods. Follow Maat and Zevists' ethics. Study your natal chart and understand what the placements may be giving you issues in the social sphere of existence, and do spiritual workings to fix these.
Am not asking anything, maybe a simple next life
Unfortunately, this is only up to us. We are here, and we can just fix bad habits and bad karma in this life. If we don't fix our issues in this life, they will not disappear in the next ones. Stay strong, Brother!
Greetings brother,
I'm sorry to hear friendships and relationships you had did not work out. ''Man up'' advice probably has goodwill in it from someone who does not want to see you suffer more, or that's how I understand it. But it might be a little inconsiderate no matter the intention. We are social creatures and a lack of it is truly difficult.
It is too early to give up hoping for friendship and love. As long as you wish for it, you will find hope and opportunities. I found it to be impossible to live and not hope. There is someone I know, she lost her husband far too young soon after giving birth to their first child. During the funeral, it was the most heartbreaking thing to watch her trying to stop people from burying her husband. She was delirious and then she became a living ghost. Years later now, she found love again and looks happy.
You can love again as long as you live and there are people who are worth giving your love. There are true friends you need to give a chance to have a friendship. They are there, somewhere.
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''Muhtaç olduğun kudret, damarlarındaki asil kanda mevcuttur.''
Greetings brother,
I'm sorry to hear friendships and relationships you had did not work out. ''Man up'' advice probably has goodwill in it from someone who does not want to see you suffer more, or that's how I understand it. But it might be a little inconsiderate no matter the intention. We are social creatures and a lack of it is truly difficult.
It is too early to give up hoping for friendship and love. As long as you wish for it, you will find hope and opportunities. I found it to be impossible to live and not hope. There is someone I know, she lost her husband far too young soon after giving birth to their first child. During the funeral, it was the most heartbreaking thing to watch her trying to stop people from burying her husband. She was delirious and then she became a living ghost. Years later now, she found love again and looks happy.
You can love again as long as you live and there are people who are worth giving your love. There are true friends you need to give a chance to have a friendship. They are there, somewhere.
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I am really sorry to hear about your bad experiences with those relationships and you are not alone in that aspect. From what it sounds like to me, those people didn't deserve as much of yourself as you gave to them. Everyone goes through life and has experiences with bad relationships but ideally those relationships should teach us to value ourselves better. If we value ourselves and have healthy sense of self-love (note: healthy and not narcissistic) then we won't allow others to mistreat us and we will also treat others according to how they should be treated based on the levels of healthy reciprocal exchange. It could help you to learn about the social exchange theory of relationships (or other theories about relationships) where people go from acquaintance to friends based on keeping the careful balance of give-and-take in healthy and appropriate levels that the situation warrants. This can help you to get a better understanding of the 'unspoken rules' of relationships and how not to give too much of yourself away and end up being taken for granted by others and will help you recognise bad actors (i.e., love-bombers who crave codependent relationships or people who exploit others' good natures). People will respect someone much more if they can tell that you respect your own time and what you have to offer.
Bad relationships should also help us recognise bad influences for the future and not to tolerate unhealthy relationships and mistreatment from others. It can even be seen in Synastry (Relationship Astrology) sometimes, some people just don't gel well with others and it is not always our own fault (although it does take two to make a relationship and no one is perfect, some honest and kind-to-ourselves healthy self-reflection is needed in every situation as we can always learn from our mistakes or missteps).
You are valid in feeling the grief you feel for how those relationships panned out especially for just how much effort you put into it. Don't let others dictate how you should feel and I'm sorry people are telling you to man up, you deserve better and more supportive influences in your life. You can join the Vultus Templorum platform to find some social reprieve as it is a very active place where Zevists can chat about many life advancement and spirituality-related topics, I believe you will add lots of value to the conversation as you've studied the website so much and I hope to see you there.
Here is a Self-Love meditation you can do especially now that the Moon is waxing and entering Libra in a day or so's time, and Venus is in a good sign. You can check the specifics for your location here, ensuring the Moon is also not Void of Course for you. Rose quartz crystal and Celestite crystal have been my favourites for this working! May the Gods bless your healing and remember that you deserve good things.
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I am really sorry to hear about your bad experiences with those relationships and you are not alone in that aspect. From what it sounds like to me, those people didn't deserve as much of yourself as you gave to them. Everyone goes through life and has experiences with bad relationships but ideally those relationships should teach us to value ourselves better. If we value ourselves and have healthy sense of self-love (note: healthy and not narcissistic) then we won't allow others to mistreat us and we will also treat others according to how they should be treated based on the levels of healthy reciprocal exchange. It could help you to learn about the social exchange theory of relationships (or other theories about relationships) where people go from acquaintance to friends based on keeping the careful balance of give-and-take in healthy and appropriate levels that the situation warrants. This can help you to get a better understanding of the 'unspoken rules' of relationships and how not to give too much of yourself away and end up being taken for granted by others and will help you recognise bad actors (i.e., love-bombers who crave codependent relationships or people who exploit others' good natures). People will respect someone much more if they can tell that you respect your own time and what you have to offer.
Bad relationships should also help us recognise bad influences for the future and not to tolerate unhealthy relationships and mistreatment from others. It can even be seen in Synastry (Relationship Astrology) sometimes, some people just don't gel well with others and it is not always our own fault (although it does take two to make a relationship and no one is perfect, some honest and kind-to-ourselves healthy self-reflection is needed in every situation as we can always learn from our mistakes or missteps).
You are valid in feeling the grief you feel for how those relationships panned out especially for just how much effort you put into it. Don't let others dictate how you should feel and I'm sorry people are telling you to man up, you deserve better and more supportive influences in your life. You can join the Vultus Templorum platform to find some social reprieve as it is a very active place where Zevists can chat about many life advancement and spirituality-related topics, I believe you will add lots of value to the conversation as you've studied the website so much and I hope to see you there.
Here is a Self-Love meditation you can do especially now that the Moon is waxing and entering Libra in a day or so's time, and Venus is in a good sign. You can check the specifics for your location here, ensuring the Moon is also not Void of Course for you. Rose quartz crystal and Celestite crystal have been my favourites for this working! May the Gods bless your healing and remember that you deserve good things.
Don´t give too fast too much from you to people, if they treat you also nicely then continue. Cherish the good memories from relationships, if they did not wrong you in a way, don´t think so much about the bad ones. Don´t be afraid off getting hurt, give everybody a chance. Look into your birthchart with our astro site: https://astroapollo.org/ you can click on the planets to get a explanation. If you did not donate, donate so you can see the calendar in the: https://hallofosiris.org/#/ so you can do a planetary square to fix your bad placement permanently. Start with the most severe one for you. Write them up and evaluate them.
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"Human beings must become enlightened in order to find their way in the dark. Becoming enlightened means becoming smart travelers, who acquire knowledge of the way, an understanding of the local language and friendship with other travelers. We are all travelers in eternity." Thoth
Don´t give too fast too much from you to people, if they treat you also nicely then continue. Cherish the good memories from relationships, if they did not wrong you in a way, don´t think so much about the bad ones. Don´t be afraid off getting hurt, give everybody a chance. Look into your birthchart with our astro site: https://astroapollo.org/ you can click on the planets to get a explanation. If you did not donate, donate so you can see the calendar in the: https://hallofosiris.org/#/ so you can do a planetary square to fix your bad placement permanently. Start with the most severe one for you. Write them up and evaluate them.