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Habit of comparing oneself to others

AvatarBlack Magic7 min to read

I dedicate this article to Lord Azazel, ruler of harmony, discipline, and noble habits. To those people with whom I spoke before about this issue

Among ordinary people and Zevists, I’ve noticed a habit - comparing oneself to others. This program is instilled in our minds from childhood, whether by external systems (such as school) or, even worse, by our parents (who were themselves shaped by the school system). Many readers of this article may think the problem isn’t significant, but as someone who interacts with our brothers and sisters, I can swear that this problem is worth to discuss. This habit leads to a number of other problems that I’m aware of, and perhaps some I’m not yet aware of. Among the resulting problems I am aware of, I can highlight dissatisfaction with life, a sense of underlying (background) unhappiness that may be difficult to explain, downplaying one’s own achievements, and a lack of motivation to strive for more. I believe that it’s pointless to fight these problems until we eradicate their root cause. So let’s discuss the so-called “comparing oneself to others.” People habitually compare themselves based on the following criteria: “Other people are smarter, stronger, richer, more attractive than I am,” and so on. At the root of all these criteria lies a single common fear that some of us cannot express clearly - “I’m not perfect, and other people will judge me for it.” Now that we’ve clearly defined this point, let’s define the concept of an “ideal.” As a rule, an ideal is something we can strive for but cannot achieve, it is ideal precisely because it exists in the world of ideas but not always in the material world. Imagine we have an ideally intelligent person with whom we compare ourselves, but how do we know whether that person’s intellect serves good or evil purposes, or whether that person is even using their full potential? After all, not all geniuses become successful, and of those who are successful, we know only a handful. The rest work in low-paying jobs because they suffer from low self-esteem, and low self-esteem leads to these people, as a rule, simply doing nothing. More and more often, I’ve observed this pattern - the smarter a person is, the stronger their arguments in favor of their weaknesses or misdeeds. Such a person’s mind will be more adept at deceiving itself, and we, as a Zevists, have all the tools necessary to subdue the mind so that it serves good purposes.

Then there’s strength - there’s no such thing as equality in nature, strong can impose their will on the weak. But remember this, Odysseus wasn’t the strongest one, he was the most cunning. Yet even setting his cunning aside, we know that Athena was on his side. The same applies to us, every Zevist has their own Guardian Demon who supports them on their path. No matter how strong your enemies will be, the Gods will always be infinitely stronger, and I won’t even mention the use of black magic, which restores justice whenever power is abused.

Some people may compare themselves based on outward appearances, imagining that the lives of beautiful people are completely cloudless. More often than not, beautiful people might fall victim to stereotypes, they’re could be labeled as stupid, promiscuous, or privileged, and may be treated with contempt because most so-called beautiful people are usualy nothing but empty shells. In fact, why develop other qualities if beauty - which fades with the passage of time, can be used right here and now? And what’s most upsetting is that even if these people are loved, it’s usually only for their looks and not for their personal qualities (I’ve experienced this myself). As a rule, people who look ordinary are loved for who they really are and don’t have to prove anything to the others.

Now let's talk about wealth. Many people compare their financial well-being to that of others, like “If my neighbor buys an expensive car, then I have to buy an expensive car too, so I don't look worse off.” This is vanity, an absurdity that can spiral endlessly, because ultimately, this mindset leads nowhere. And even if it does lead somewhere, it leads only to disappointment, because something bought in the moment brings only momentary satisfaction. And the very next day, even the sight of the most expensive, beautiful car will become routine, our brain will say something like “we need more!” and nothing will change. Our society condemns gamblers, drug addicts of all kind, yet, the victims of capitalism remain untouched.

The point is that even the poorest Zevist who has contributed to the Temple’s development will be far more valuable in the eyes of Gods than someone who spends their entire fortune on useless indulgences, like a $100,000 watch that tells the exact same time as the cheapest door watch. Think about the fact that while the wealthy people we see on social media every day are wasting their time on decadence, you, the spiritual aristocracy, represent the interests of the Gods on Earth - each in your own role, each in your own way, but all as a single whole striving toward the same goals. Yet the mere thought of this should elevate each of us above the trash that this accursed yehubor algorithm seeks to present to us as a role model.

As I reflected on all this, I came to a realization that may already be obvious to some of you, but one that is worth repeating.

What if our talents and strengths are not merely our personal qualities, but channels through which the Gods can act in the world? If a person is physically strong, would it not be better to direct that strength toward protecting the weak and the righteous, toward helping our brothers and sisters which one might know in real life? If one is gifted with intellect, should we not devote it to writing articles, to enlightenment, to separating truth from falsehood? In this way, we cease to be merely separate individuals drifting with the current. We become instruments of the Gods.

This is neither humiliation nor slavery. It is the highest form of co-creation. The divine manifests most fully precisely through our strengths. By developing ourselves, we expand the Gods’ ability to act through us. We serve the Gods, and the Gods act through us and for us. Our interests are not cast aside, they are woven into the common sacred flow. We work for the Gods and the Gods work for us. It is a partnership in which both sides benefit.

Every new skill, every weakness overcome, this is not merely our personal growth. It is yet another tool in the hands of the Gods, yet another way to make the world brighter and closer to the divine order.

As Zevists, we must purge ourselves of the illusion of other people's approval, we must stop comparing ourselves to other people. It would be better if a person one day will say "I'm afraid of what the Gods will think of me," rather than "what other people will think of me." Because others will die sooner or later, but the Gods are eternal and unchangeable, make your choice and let this choice become a new noble habit, not a one-time action.

Heil Azazel

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This piece, Black Magic's essay on the habit of comparing oneself to others, lands on something most people only half-see. The comparison habit really is a programmed reflex, and naming the root fear ("I'm not perfect, and other people will judge me for it") is the actual starting point, because most people never get that specific about it. They just feel the background hum of dissatisfaction and never trace it back to the wiring.

The closing reformulation, where the question shifts from "what will people think of me" to "what will the Gods think of me," is doing more work than it looks like. What Will The Gods Think? by High Priest Zevios Metathronos on the Library of Thoth addresses this exact pivot, and the substance of that clergy reply is worth sitting with: the Gods see intention and effort, not the polished result. Nobody gets shamed for taking baby steps against real obstacles. As the page puts it, some people give an apple and others give a whole apple farm, and both are doing their own part. That tone alone takes the shame engine out of the comparison machine.

The deeper correction, which the High Priest returns to again and again, is sharper: putting someone else's standards on yourself is a road to incessant disappointment. There is a clergy reply to a member who wrote that they wanted to be "advanced like Zevios Metathronos" that lays this out directly: Question #127. The High Priest told that member not to put his standards on themselves, because forcing someone else's obligations onto your own life wears you out and leaves you guilty. The right measure is your own advancement in your own context, not the pace of anyone else. Everyone is an individual entity, and walking at your own pace on the path the Gods have set is the actual point.

This is exactly the soil that "Know Thyself," the ninth Apollo virtue, is planted in. The Delphic maxim at Virtue Θ is not a meditation slogan, it is the actual antidote. "As within, so without. As in you, so in others. As in you, so in eternity." When measurement turns inward to who you are in your own context and what you are actually here to do, the outer yardstick loses its grip on you.

The dedication to Lord Azazel as "ruler of harmony, discipline, and noble habits" fits the closing point about turning this from a one-time decision into a stable habit. Harmony is the eighth Apollo virtue, and the page on Virtue H frames disharmony in a memorable way: a person who refuses to listen to the harmonious cycles of existence is bound to dance wrongly and not enjoy the music of existence. Comparison is one of those off-beat dances. The cure is not suppression, it is retuning.

Underneath all of it, the engine is envy, and the Temple's Life Ethics article on Envy is worth reading on this. It treats envy as a blind force that, when moderated, becomes appreciation rather than resentment. The wealth comparison, the look comparison, the intelligence comparison, all of them run on that same blind envy. When the envy is named and seen for what it is, it loses its hold.

What to actually do about it, in the existing Zevist frame. The clergy teaching on Accepting One's Self by High Priest Zevios Metathronos addresses the "ideals" trap almost one-to-one: many people do not accept themselves on a fundamental level and always wish they were someone else, then try to terraform themselves into a copy of someone who never existed. That attempt rarely works and produces more resentment, not less. The deeper root of the comparison habit, low self-worth masquerading as external evaluation, is something worth sitting with on Reaching Confidence And Self-Esteem on the Library of Thoth. A thought you can name is a thought you do not have to obey, and a self you have actually looked at is a self that stops being measured by everyone else's tape.

A small parallel from daily life. Nobody learns an instrument by looking at the person on stage and concluding they will never play. They learn by sitting with their own notes, day after day, until the music starts to sound like something. The Gods are listening for that sound from each of us on our own instrument. That is what Apollo, as the shepherd of noble habits, would want for His people.

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