Hello everyone,
I recently got into relationship with a girl I liked, but was previously in a relationship with another person whom she knew for 4 years and was in a relationship with for 6 months. Their relationship was mostly long distance. They broke up 3 months ago. After that I confessed my feelings to her and she accepted. But sometimes she says that she misses her ex as she knew him for long and had grown an attachment towards him. I understand her feelings but I'm afraid that this could affect our relationship. What should I do to get rid of that attachment and the feeling she has for that person.
Her attachment issues are more up to her, and it her choice of whether or not she will let them get in the way of your own relationship with you.
In this case, I would say, out in the open to her, to ask whether or not this is going to effect you and her in the short and long term. Though, my answer continues, as trusting those to their word can be something that can backfire easily in the world as it is today. Lady Maxine had once mentioned in a part of a sermon that upon being criticized on not trusting anyone, mentioned as a response, it is how she has survived so long. If it can be applied into any relation to what we are literally a part of now because of what she has built, well, all of the actions speak in extreme volume for themselves.
If it was me in the situation, I would likely walk away, and if that is really meant to be, let her come find me on her own, even if it would be very challenging with the overarching feelings that can begin to feel more like claws tearing you up inside than the heady soft joy and delicate warmth we wish as a result of romance in relationships, among other positive feelings and the exchange of actions have the ability to provide basis for them.
Relationships can be simple and complicated at the same time, but fortunately for you Brother, she has made it easy for you. Some people may be shocked or hurt that you would ask them so directly, but, sometimes the Truth has that effect, and some need that to be shocked out of their complacency in ignorance. It may be what she needs, and if you are so interested in her, where the relationship is unbalanced from the start despite some shared interest she may have in you, but is still experiencing her past relationship's waves into today, it sounds like a recipe for disaster and heartbreak down the road, unless she gets herself sorted internally and is truly ready to commit.
Fortunately for you, you can ask this, it is only the beginning of this between you two as you frame things, and ask with the note, that you are interested, In love, etc, wish to continue, but if there will be any interference from what was her past and no longer in the present, then you must walk away, and that you likely should anyways while you still have the ability to, while she sorts herself. As sometimes powerful relationships and attachments can take a very long time to dissolve to where they do not potentially lay waste to future relationships with others..
I know from perhaps, too much experience, or perhaps, just enough, at least to wave a red flag for you (vigorously), so you may not have to take those plunge(s) yourself. A key, hard won, very hard won, I share with you today. Even if it is simple or trivial to some, of while one day it will also be for myself, the scars are fresh enough to really wish to put my foot down here for the sake of need, and with the wish you do not have to go through something that sounds near to what I have. I hope others might read this to overcome similar situations too, and though it may be more complicated than how I put it, I do mean all of it.
Meditation, Hatha and Kundalini Yoga, Mudras, Mantras, Yantras, Sexual Activity, Pranayama, and Bhandas, we have quite a bit to do in working to understand the Path of and the practice to attain higher consciousness. Rolling around in unmet expectations and suffering in the blackness of heartbreak over someone(s) who is uncertain in their feelings, while you feel quite certain.. well... for me I have made my choice on what I truly wish to achieve, a little late has it been, of course no fault but my own. I hope that you will see the light in this, but that freedom is freedom, and you will do what you do. I wish the best for you Brother going forward.
Take Care.
Hail Satya.
Hail Zeus.
