Hey, I’m sure I’m not the only one here faced with this dilemma so I figured it’d be a good topic to start.
A few people in my life I have a pretty strong spiritual connection with, sometimes negative, but the relationship is not that negative on the outside.
One person, she is completely non-spiritual, no meditations no praying. Our charts have some really strong south node and pluto aspects. We’ve always called ourselves sisters and so on. Events in our life follow really closely alongside each other. They will usually happen in my life first when it comes to larger events. Our children have all been born at the same age, and our minds are really in sync. This has been a little problematic because it’s as if her anxiety will rub off onto me vice-versa. We will also have the same dreams. When I advance myself, her life suddenly gets better. When one of us goes through a hard time, both of us go through it. She’s always saying what a coincidence this stuff is. As with anyone who doesn’t do self work, she can often be very negative and I don’t really blame her. I still love her. It takes a lot of energy to lift us both up at times, I don’t mind it otherwise.
Are these the kind of people that we should detach from, or should we save this for only very damning situations? She doesn’t seem to be as much of a parasite as the other person. I had previously figured I could go with leaving the connection there. Curious to hear about others experiences with this.
The other person, I’ve had a lot of difficulty with. We were close at one point. We separated. I still care for him as a person, and he didn’t blatantly treat me badly. This person has caused me an immense amount of issues since the separation even though it was ages ago, and he can’t seem to let go on a deeper level. This has become problematic because for the first time, actually ever, I’ve been unable to defend myself against his ill-will in the traditional way I take care of these people.I have had to work around this with positive feelings and white magic. I’ve never had this issue before, even in seemingly worse relationships. An event I tried to bring upon him to stop him from affecting me rebounded almost instantly and happened to me. I am certain his aura isn’t as strong as mine, he doesn’t meditate. He’s really weak in a lot of ways. When I empower myself, it seems like he reels off of this. He’s not a Zevist and is not awake in any way. He’s suddenly begun wearing black-sun type symbols. Not sure if it means anything but it seems strange. He also descended deeply into the BLM Bernie sanders rage.
The whole rebounding magic thing really stood out to me. This isn’t something that just happens for no reason. The only way I could explain were to be if he were sucking power off of me, I just can’t see it or feel it. We didn’t have a very deep connection. It didn’t seem that he cared all that much. To me this seems to be a classic case of parasite. I had hoped to eventually resolve the relationship though, so I’ve been hesitant in just cutting it off until I’m certain this is who I need to cut off. With the BLM stuff, he just starts to appear more and more Yehubor-ish. I’ve been getting signs of knives and cutting something off lately, just not sure who or what. His ill-will towards me has picked up quite a bit in the last month, without any reason whatsoever. I figured as time went on he would get over the separation but he has actually gotten more and more aggressive. He has started doing and saying things he never would have in the past, and his pluto is actually going into transit with Venus this month. I do have his chart information thankfully.
I’ve been holding out hope that he would break out of this, saying maybe he’s just being hit with the emotions, and hoping that this will just blow over. “Maybe the whole BLM thing was just a backlash to rebel against the relationship.” I don’t know these days. Break ups really suck and can do a number on a person. I don’t want to be that captain save a ho person, the time is coming for me to just do what I need to do and act.
Would anyone care to share their experiences with the detachment rituals, has anyone fully completed this ritual with someone that they did still care for in a way? What other solutions may exist to this? I believe this is important because relationships do have a direct effect on us spiritually and mentally. They can hold us back or help us.