Sounds like you two have varying degrees of the values surrounding religion. There are so many questions to ask here, and I do not want to come across as intrusive.
Maybe, you can find other grounds to connect on, and simply ask that he watch the movies that offend you when you are not present , unless you do not want him watching those movies altogether, then it's a different story.
As for you validating everything, there is nothing wrong with that. I find that a quality to be quite admirable, as long as you are really seeking the truth for yourself. If he cannot see that, then maybe try to calmly explain your position and why it is important to you. If he still resists you, then you will have to ask yourself if having different values about how you go about your religion is something you can deal with. Are there other compensating factors that could overpower your religious differences? At the end of the day, there has to be a strong enough foundation based on values that are important to the both of you that will keep you strong when you disagree on other things. A relationship is about supporting one another and cultivating growth, among many other things. There are always going to be values that we refuse to compromise on. Those are the values that the other person also has to be just as passionate about. In many ways, we want people that are just like us, while at the same time have different yet complimentary skill sets so that both people can help one another go through life with a greater set of skills and knowledge at both their disposition than if they were to go at it alone. Simply put, you want to both be looking in the same direction, while contributing complimentary skill sets. Very strong relationships even allow both parties to have different interest and goals, yet they still support one another because they understand that they are there for the person as a whole, and not as two incomplete parts that tug at each other to realize one persons needs, and not the others.
If someone cannot respect what is very important to you, then it will cause friction. This does not mean that something is wrong with him or you, it just means that in some ways you may not be a fit.
One thing I always keep in mind is that a relationship is an environment, and any environment has to be conducive to the growth of all parties involved.
I could go on, but I don't want to be overwhelming
I love studying relationships. LOL. My favorite book is how to be an adult in relationships by David Richo. It is with me all the time. I Love his work. I strongly recommend reading it with your partner. I also recommend learning about the physics of language. Everything is governed by natural laws. We can be so much more effective at communication when we understand just how important it is to understand the valence of the sentences you are constructing (rooted in hypnosis actually). Great for lovers. Remember you always want to go in the way of the skid, before you can regain control of your car. Same thing with communication. Never resist, just go in the direction of that person, then offer suggestions for alternatives. That is how you disarm a person and allow them to be calm and see your point of view. But at the end of the day, we all choose to be with one another. Do not try to change someone, it always backfires. Actually, giving someone permission to feel the way they do (going in the direction of the skid) and then offering your suggestions is allowing and nurturing.
Unless the person is a psychopath, then run for your life, and call on Satan for help
On Monday, March 2, 2015 3:45 PM, "jamesmarshall237@... [JoyofSatan666]" <
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My boyfriend gets mad at me because i don't like to watch things that spread lies or insult Satan, and now he's sorta pissed at me acting like i am a xain and treating me with the same sorta "you try to validate everything. Your becoming a religious nut". Idk what to do.
Any help i really love him and me and him have been lovers for a little over a year. I really don't wanna lose him.
