Be careful with your kindness. It opens your soul.

[Bluecollarbutch666]

Very true and because of that I have had to death spell individuals who treated me in an unlikeable type of way after being kind to them at first I know it's hard for me to forgive but I'm making sure people don't get into my boundaries like that again and I am planning on staying single for a while now before I know whether I will get a lover at Orion or one that is like me here on earth.

Do a freeing the soul working for any hangups you may have with the opposite sex or relationships then try doing a venus square after with a runic working.

 

[Hellknight]

Sure thing shadow cat I plan on doing that and thank you for this post may Father Enki bless your beautiful soul more.
Aves Samael
Aves La Pantheon
All Hail Orion

 

[Bluecollarbutch666]

Yesterday, I answered to this comment with consideration that it was offensive… sorry for that, because today when my reply was confirmed I reread it and understood it in positive way, thank you. So you are welder =0

Mercury retro has a knack for things like this sadly ,but i am glad you realized it was very positively meant indeed . I myself have had less than ideal reactions to certain things around this time as well that should have been better the first time around.

How to delete unnecessary comments?

You just report it and ask for deletion

 

[CandiceLee1313]

Shadowcat thank you for sharing ❤

 

[User92038471]

It's rare that I open up to anyone in such a way that they could hurt me. I've learned how naive and foolish it is to blindly trust people or giving them the benefit of the doubt. Want my trust? Earn it. And even decades of built trust can be annihilated completely in a matter of seconds. It's a fragile thing.

Needless to say, my vetting process is... intense. I don't "need" friends. People who are needy or desperate set themselves up to be victimized by people undeserving of trust or respect.

I've learned my lessons the hard way. Nobody "deserves" trust. It's earned.

Before letting anyone in now, I always give them the "don't you ever try to fuck me" speech, Scarface style and I'm not kidding.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ugTwbS24ZAQ

 

[Ariadne the Scribe]

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You should work on your third eye and intuition. I can tell when a person is rotten or untrustworthy simply by looking at them.

I think the issue is not that you shouldn't be kind, but that you should work on your intuition so you can better recognize who you should and shouldn't be kind to. At a certain point you see these things coming from a mile away and never open yourself to such things.

Shadowcat, thank you very much for this post.

I also strongly agree with Dahaarkan that working on one's intuition will save them in many ways, especially regarding such issues of trust and deciding whether to open up to others.

 

[sublimesatanist]

I had to revisit this post with more seriousness over this important matter. Much thanks to you Shadowcat!

My Dad and I are very close yet completely different. It's a weird state to be in. I have an earth sign while he's under an air sign. He likes things such as cars, tinkering with computers and doing physical work. He's very smart in his own ways and loves things with a routine/patterns.

I'm more into arts and learning about culture, nutrition, sociology and history. I like busy, stimulating and social environments while my dad is more sheltered, strives to always maintain a comfortable pace, isn't very social and tends to struggle in conversation, save from close relatives and coworkers. He's even more empathetic and easily swayed than me though and I think that could be a part of his lack of socialization.
(Eg. Once he got suckered into buying over-priced face creams while at the mall meeting me after work. Still, those emigrated sales people are persistent and exceptional at what they do).

He creates draining conversation sometimes and his monotonous micro-analysis of everything (sometimes with the aid of Google) had really gotten to me once or twice whereby I'd feel judged and react in a criticizing way, though the conversations were centred on broad hypothetical evaluations, such as the best way to live as a whole. This is extremely rare mind you.

I felt horrible after this as he was clearly hurt and we'd always work things out immediately after. With so much talking sometimes the intent behind words can be misleading.


He's someone I guess I need to be more clear and upfront with. I'm kind of an idealist sometimes, seeking what is best for both parties while avoiding things that are negative.

Because of this (again) interactions with my Father can leave me feeling drained. I love his company and him as an individual. 9/10 times we agree on things and we get along extremely well. It's just the over-stimulation of seeing the same person for 2 or 3 days that gets difficult sometimes (especially long-term visits/trips).

I guess for this I will work on closing my chakras and doing an AoP while being more open about how I feel on certain subjects.

In terms of others, I tend to be very dynamic and almost never have issues. Where I am most people are well-meaning, albeit largely myopic NPCs. If they have any issue I always remain respectfully firm and leave their crap up to them. :lol:
Generally my other relatives and I get along pretty well (even-though we're much more polarized), whilst my brother and I are like two peas in a pod. He's the only other awake person in my family very sadly.

Working as a cashier you learn quick how not to allow other's negativity affect you. (At least if you're the right person for it I guess). SO many customers say "I couldn't do what you do... no way, never."
There literally are some odd people who actively try to get a rise out of you, and others (especially women) who act and dress over-the-top pious. (Eg. "is that on debit/cr-" respose: "It's credit!")
...same button, lol. :roll:

So interesting is the diversity of this world.


PS - Does anyone know what happened to that seemingly brainwashed person, Fanboy? He sounded a tad crazy and I suspect he was ousted. ('Women are less empathetic than men...') It's almost worrying how backwards his words were.

Either he was a troll/infiltrator or someone with serious mental problems.

 

[Artifergolem]

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It is very important to keep your distance.

I've noticed many times, people just simply taking advantage from you.

I spoke to a depressed person once just to cheer them on only to instantly go after me and try to make me their girlfriend.
That was just totally fucked up.

I've decided I'll NEVER get that close to someone ever again, especially if they're depressed.

In the meantime, not being heard when you're stuck with a problem is also painful. Just fuck this society already.

It's not fucked up, it's normal. Someone who is depressed wants someone who is nice to them, he probably thought his life would be much better with you in it. That is sacred power to wield, the power to make others feel better, make their pain go away.

Every so often, male Zevism email me asking if I am their soulmate. I take that as a compliment, I don't think it's "fucked up" in any way. It is heartwarming to know that someone wants me in their life.

Next time, just politely say you are with someone or have feelings for someone else.

Yeah. Its real easy to latch onto kindness when in a bad state. Can also tell someone that with small changes, life can get better.