Kindness and empathy are things that help the world live in a pleasant and respectful exchange. It helps us form bonds with others and allows us to demonstrate to the people that really matter how much we care.
When you are kind to someone and demonstrate compassion towards them, you are opening up your soul to them. It is showing a vulnerability that allows them to hurt you if they have a mind to. Sadly this happens even with what is considered family or even the people that you come to love and trust and this is all too common. We live in a world that that is disconnected from spirituality and higher levels of understanding and as a result very little care and consideration is put into how to approach or treat others.
After opening oneself to a person that is family, to become friends or other, and this person hurts you, it does so in a way that is felt differently than putting up with poor treatment you might receive from a stranger for example. The reason for this is because you actually respect and trust the first person in question because your kindness and trust has opened your soul to them, and this has either happened in a family setting, because you consider them an important friend or it could even be a love interest.
Any blow from this trusted person will hurt more and incite more anger and disbelief because you expected better and looked to them for the friendship or other type of relationship you may have formed, and because of this you will actually care about what they think. No one wants to hear a friend, brother, sister, or gf/bf does not respect or care for them or be mistreated by them. These are the people in our lives that matter. If these important people hurt us or misuse our trust, it can have lasting negative effects.
With all of this being said, It must be reiterated that demonstrating kindness and compassion open your soul to someone. Because of this, especially with members outside of your own blood family this must be done very selectively. One does not have to remove all facets of basic decency, but it is important to take the time to get to know someone before going out of your way for them or focus on thinking highly of them for any reason. In other words, do not be quick to make "frends". because 9 times out of 10 this person will turn on you or fuck you over in some way if you are not selective. Overt kindness and empathy are pathological and a detriment and should be kept in balance and in proportion.
Relationships with co workers should be kept professional. And certainly never date any one from work.
Talking to someone online for any length of time also does not allow you to know them the way you would in real life. A lot of people hide behind a screen and will pretend to be someone they are not. Friendly exchange of information is just that. But it does not mean you have to start forming some bond with the person. Meeting someone from online is also very risky.
That random stranger on the bus, street corner, or the grocery store that all of a sudden wants your number or your online info? Don't give it just because they seem "nice". You don't know this person or their motives.
This is not to discourage making new friends or being social. But it is a warning about being selective and about opening up too quickly and the consequences that can and will ensue. People who are overtly open to others and very receptive sympathetically often attract nothing but trash. These are the types of people that really have to focus on closing their chakras in unknown and uncharted environments and around strangers.
We all have loved ones and friends we care for. But no one is perfect and event these can and will let you down at some point. How you decide to get through this with them or not is up to you. In the end however, no one will be able to care for you as much as you do so learn to do it well.
- learn to open and close your chakras at will. Close them in unfamiliar or toxic environments and let no one in. If you are an empath or water dominant specifically this is essential.
- Use runes for your AOP. I personally use Algiz, Sowilo and Tyr. 20x of each (more can be used) with this affirmation 10x: "the energies of algis sowilo and tyr are forming an impenetrable invincible aura of protection around me that protects me from all forms of harm and negativity in every way. All who attempt to curse me, and direct hate, ill will or harm apon me have now had it returned 10 fold in every way.
- Use returning curses parts one and 2 on top of this everyday. (especially after Ritual's)
- Don't be afraid to say no or be an asshole to someone who pushes your boundaries. Being too nice to the wrong people leaves you open to abuse and disrespect, especially if you have saturn in the 7th or in libra or capricorn on the descendant.
