Abstinence

[Heavenraiser]

I understand that sexual repression is wrong 'cause it blocks the spine or somethin' like that, but does that mean one shouldn't save it for someone they care about? I understand that abstinence until marriage is a Xian concept( it is right?), but I think it's what best for me. My born again virginity is important to me and I don't wanna just give it to anyone. I have had causal sexual contact before with my "friends" before and it disgusted me both physically and emotionally. They would say sick stuff( if anyone wants to know, you can email me personally) and I'd get depressed afterwards. I'm still suicidal about it. I have yet to have sex with someone who cares about me and I feel like a useless sex object. Is there a way for me to get over this and move on? This is somewhat random, but why is American culture more concerned about fleeting sexual liasions then long term commitments? Anywho, is what I'm doing ok, or should I sleep with as many ppl as possible?

P.S I didn't mean to offend anyone. I"m sorry if I did.

 

[davidcommer]

Your sexuality is about you. You shouldn't do anything you don't want to,nor anything you don't want to do till you're ready. Desert religions are about guilt. Healthy sexuality is about joy.

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Heavenraiser" <mayeshakpah@... wrote:

I understand that sexual repression is wrong 'cause it blocks the spine or somethin' like that, but does that mean one shouldn't save it for someone they care about? I understand that abstinence until marriage is a Xian concept( it is right?), but I think it's what best for me. My born again virginity is important to me and I don't wanna just give it to anyone. I have had causal sexual contact before with my "friends" before and it disgusted me both physically and emotionally. They would say sick stuff( if anyone wants to know, you can email me personally) and I'd get depressed afterwards. I'm still suicidal about it. I have yet to have sex with someone who cares about me and I feel like a useless sex object. Is there a way for me to get over this and move on? This is somewhat random, but why is American culture more concerned about fleeting sexual liasions then long term commitments? Anywho, is what I'm doing ok, or should I sleep with as many ppl as possible?

P.S I didn't mean to offend anyone. I"m sorry if I did.

 

[Gerald Sylva]

From my own older perspective, having been widowed once and divorced once, both of those were decidedly monogamous, and mostly because it was the females which "demanded" it, and that was their own programing. With my first wife, I had an affair that ran for a few months and for me it was fine, since I did not fall in love with the one I had the affair with. It would have hurt her to know it since she was a one-man-woman, but I did check myself to see whether having my affair placed my marriage at the time into any romantic jeopardy, and it did not. And in admittance, I was caught all but red-handed by my second wife at it, and there was no chance of reconciling it - I had damaged the trust aspect. If I ever marry again, it will be either open at best or polygamous at worst. Caveat Emptor: let the betrothed be true unto themselves first. Looking back, what I really did was agree to both monogamous relationships in order to please and placate them, not me. It was doable, but I constantly fought my real nature to do it, and that tended to strain the relationships even when nothing else threatened the marriages since in living a lie, I had just that much more to remember, memorize and perform, and the way it taxed us as a couple only fueled the inevitable. Check your heart. Firstly, know where you stand (for the moment), THEN see where everyone else is. If it jives comfortably, do it. If not, DON'T! The energy required to sustain or suppress your own true nature will age you before your time. Good luck!!

From: davidcommer <davidcommer@...
To: [email protected]
Sent: Mon, June 7, 2010 2:53:04 PM
Subject: [Satanicgaycommunity] Re: Abstinence

  Your sexuality is about you. You shouldn't do anything you don't want to,nor anything you don't want to do till you're ready. Desert religions are about guilt. Healthy sexuality is about joy.

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Heavenraiser" <mayeshakpah@... wrote:

I understand that sexual repression is wrong 'cause it blocks the spine or somethin' like that, but does that mean one shouldn't save it for someone they care about? I understand that abstinence until marriage is a Xian concept( it is right?), but I think it's what best for me. My born again virginity is important to me and I don't wanna just give it to anyone. I have had causal sexual contact before with my "friends" before and it disgusted me both physically and emotionally. They would say sick stuff( if anyone wants to know, you can email me personally) and I'd get depressed afterwards. I'm still suicidal about it. I have yet to have sex with someone who cares about me and I feel like a useless sex object. Is there a way for me to get over this and move on? This is somewhat random, but why is American culture more concerned about fleeting sexual liasions then long term commitments? Anywho, is what I'm doing ok, or should I sleep with as many ppl as possible?

P.S I didn't mean to offend anyone. I"m sorry if I did.