Aaah anger anger anger...

[Christina1]

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-

 

[landi0623]

I hope what I have to say is helpful to ur situation.

Moods are contagious, and if u can keep ur cool and remain calm when another person is raging, it can be intimidating.

Instead of running away, screaming/yelling back, stand and hold ur position. Stand tall, close ur eyes if u have to and take a few deep breaths. "Life is in the breath". U control ur breathing and u can control ur body. Control ur body and self, and u stand in a better position to control a whole situation. I have had the opportunity to deal with many angry people and situations growing up as a child, and then in the Marine Corps, and then as a security guard. If physical submission is out of the question, do not attempt it. There are other ways of subduing an opponent. U can use the power of social-submission or psychological submission. The first step is remaining calm and controlling urself and ur voice. Sometimes whispering is more powerful than yelling or screaming. What u say is also important.

It sounds like u have an angry step-dad or elder brother in the home. In that case, if I were in ur position, I would stand strong and calm in the face of their tantrum, then step up close and whisper "I don't feel safe when u act like that" "that behavior is immature and ill-advised"

Almost anything u say at this point will be pretty powerful. Showing courage in the face of a great enemy can be very damaging to their psyche.

I came close to killing my step dad when I was 10, but I never followed through with it, and I'm glad I didn't. My plan was to take a hammer's claw to his skull while he slept.

"Stand strong and keep calm". That's the main thing. U can meditate over the situation and visualize urself standing strong and remaining calm through various situations, and it will help. It's mental conditioning. U train ur mind to respond a certain way to different situations, and it becomes ur natural way.

Hail Satan

--Blue EartH

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Christina" <papia_quack@... wrote:

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-

 

[the_fire_starter666]

There's something much simpler. Just break his pattern. Say something silly loud enough, or do something silly or something totally irrelevant. And he'll start laughing so he'll forget his anger.

Some other ideas about that here:

http://ask.metafilter.com/185323/What-a ... -out-there

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "landi0623" <landi0623@... wrote:

I hope what I have to say is helpful to ur situation.

Moods are contagious, and if u can keep ur cool and remain calm when another person is raging, it can be intimidating.

Instead of running away, screaming/yelling back, stand and hold ur position. Stand tall, close ur eyes if u have to and take a few deep breaths. "Life is in the breath". U control ur breathing and u can control ur body. Control ur body and self, and u stand in a better position to control a whole situation. I have had the opportunity to deal with many angry people and situations growing up as a child, and then in the Marine Corps, and then as a security guard. If physical submission is out of the question, do not attempt it. There are other ways of subduing an opponent. U can use the power of social-submission or psychological submission. The first step is remaining calm and controlling urself and ur voice. Sometimes whispering is more powerful than yelling or screaming. What u say is also important.

It sounds like u have an angry step-dad or elder brother in the home. In that case, if I were in ur position, I would stand strong and calm in the face of their tantrum, then step up close and whisper "I don't feel safe when u act like that" "that behavior is immature and ill-advised"

Almost anything u say at this point will be pretty powerful. Showing courage in the face of a great enemy can be very damaging to their psyche.

I came close to killing my step dad when I was 10, but I never followed through with it, and I'm glad I didn't. My plan was to take a hammer's claw to his skull while he slept.

"Stand strong and keep calm". That's the main thing. U can meditate over the situation and visualize urself standing strong and remaining calm through various situations, and it will help. It's mental conditioning. U train ur mind to respond a certain way to different situations, and it becomes ur natural way.

Hail Satan

--Blue EartH


--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Christina" <papia_quack@ wrote:

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-

 

[damnplanetsaturn]

Thank You Landi and Firestarter. That was really good advice!

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "the_fire_starter666" <the_fire_starter666@... wrote:

There's something much simpler. Just break his pattern. Say something silly loud enough, or do something silly or something totally irrelevant. And he'll start laughing so he'll forget his anger.

Some other ideas about that here:

http://ask.metafilter.com/185323/What-a ... -out-there

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "landi0623" <landi0623@ wrote:

I hope what I have to say is helpful to ur situation.

Moods are contagious, and if u can keep ur cool and remain calm when another person is raging, it can be intimidating.

Instead of running away, screaming/yelling back, stand and hold ur position. Stand tall, close ur eyes if u have to and take a few deep breaths. "Life is in the breath". U control ur breathing and u can control ur body. Control ur body and self, and u stand in a better position to control a whole situation. I have had the opportunity to deal with many angry people and situations growing up as a child, and then in the Marine Corps, and then as a security guard. If physical submission is out of the question, do not attempt it. There are other ways of subduing an opponent. U can use the power of social-submission or psychological submission. The first step is remaining calm and controlling urself and ur voice. Sometimes whispering is more powerful than yelling or screaming. What u say is also important.

It sounds like u have an angry step-dad or elder brother in the home. In that case, if I were in ur position, I would stand strong and calm in the face of their tantrum, then step up close and whisper "I don't feel safe when u act like that" "that behavior is immature and ill-advised"

Almost anything u say at this point will be pretty powerful. Showing courage in the face of a great enemy can be very damaging to their psyche.

I came close to killing my step dad when I was 10, but I never followed through with it, and I'm glad I didn't. My plan was to take a hammer's claw to his skull while he slept.

"Stand strong and keep calm". That's the main thing. U can meditate over the situation and visualize urself standing strong and remaining calm through various situations, and it will help. It's mental conditioning. U train ur mind to respond a certain way to different situations, and it becomes ur natural way.

Hail Satan

--Blue EartH


--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Christina" <papia_quack@ wrote:

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-

 

[jonathon_billing]

Isa rune + "In a positive and healthy manner for me this energy is preventing *name* from harming me".

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Christina" <papia_quack@... wrote:

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-

 

[Nick1]

That is very helpful in many situations!

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "the_fire_starter666" <the_fire_starter666@... wrote:

There's something much simpler. Just break his pattern. Say something silly loud enough, or do something silly or something totally irrelevant. And he'll start laughing so he'll forget his anger.

Some other ideas about that here:

http://ask.metafilter.com/185323/What-a ... -out-there

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "landi0623" <landi0623@ wrote:

I hope what I have to say is helpful to ur situation.

Moods are contagious, and if u can keep ur cool and remain calm when another person is raging, it can be intimidating.

Instead of running away, screaming/yelling back, stand and hold ur position. Stand tall, close ur eyes if u have to and take a few deep breaths. "Life is in the breath". U control ur breathing and u can control ur body. Control ur body and self, and u stand in a better position to control a whole situation. I have had the opportunity to deal with many angry people and situations growing up as a child, and then in the Marine Corps, and then as a security guard. If physical submission is out of the question, do not attempt it. There are other ways of subduing an opponent. U can use the power of social-submission or psychological submission. The first step is remaining calm and controlling urself and ur voice. Sometimes whispering is more powerful than yelling or screaming. What u say is also important.

It sounds like u have an angry step-dad or elder brother in the home. In that case, if I were in ur position, I would stand strong and calm in the face of their tantrum, then step up close and whisper "I don't feel safe when u act like that" "that behavior is immature and ill-advised"

Almost anything u say at this point will be pretty powerful. Showing courage in the face of a great enemy can be very damaging to their psyche.

I came close to killing my step dad when I was 10, but I never followed through with it, and I'm glad I didn't. My plan was to take a hammer's claw to his skull while he slept.

"Stand strong and keep calm". That's the main thing. U can meditate over the situation and visualize urself standing strong and remaining calm through various situations, and it will help. It's mental conditioning. U train ur mind to respond a certain way to different situations, and it becomes ur natural way.

Hail Satan

--Blue EartH


--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Christina" <papia_quack@ wrote:

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-

 

[Christina Papadopoulou]

Well, breaking the pattern sounds 'entertaining' but at that moment it wouldn't really be 'funny' and I would definitely not be in the mood to be funny. I understand the concept but at times like this it's not really a solution. Thanks for the idea though.
And Landi thank you very much for your response, I'll actually try to do that, I hope it will help.
Απο: the_fire_starter666 <the_fire_starter666@...
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Στάλθηκε: 1:52 π.μ. Δευτέρα, 29 Οκτωβρίου 2012
Θεμα: [JoyofSatan666] Re: Aaah anger anger anger...

There's something much simpler. Just break his pattern. Say something silly loud enough, or do something silly or something totally irrelevant. And he'll start laughing so he'll forget his anger.

Some other ideas about that here:

http://ask.metafilter.com/185323/What-a ... -out-there

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "landi0623" <landi0623@... wrote:

I hope what I have to say is helpful to ur situation. 

Moods are contagious, and if u can keep ur cool and remain calm when another person is raging, it can be intimidating.

Instead of running away, screaming/yelling back, stand and hold ur position.  Stand tall, close ur eyes if u have to and take a few deep breaths.  "Life is in the breath". U control ur breathing and u can control ur body.  Control ur body and self, and u stand in a better position to control a whole situation.  I have had the opportunity to deal with many angry people and situations growing up as a child, and then in the Marine Corps, and then as a security guard.  If physical submission is out of the question, do not attempt it.  There are other ways of subduing an opponent.  U can use the power of social-submission or psychological submission.  The first step is remaining calm and controlling urself and ur voice.  Sometimes whispering is more powerful than yelling or screaming.  What u say is also important.

It sounds like u have an angry step-dad or elder brother in the home.  In that case, if I were in ur position, I would stand strong and calm in the face of their tantrum, then step up close and whisper "I don't feel safe when u act like that" "that behavior is immature and ill-advised"

Almost anything u say at this point will be pretty powerful.  Showing courage in the face of a great enemy can be very damaging to their psyche.

I came close to killing my step dad when I was 10, but I never followed through with it, and I'm glad I didn't.  My plan was to take a hammer's claw to his skull while he slept.

"Stand strong and keep calm". That's the main thing.  U can meditate over the situation and visualize urself standing strong and remaining calm through various situations, and it will help.  It's mental conditioning.  U train ur mind to respond a certain way to different situations, and it becomes ur natural way.

Hail Satan

--Blue EartH


--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Christina" <papia_quack@ wrote:

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-






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[the_fire_starter666]

I never said it has to be funny or that you have to be in a mood to be funny. Just do something unpredictable that catches that person by surprise so it breaks their anger. Something silly usually makes them laugh not because it's funny, but unexpected. BTW something silly is just one way, there are many other ways to do that as if you read the link I mentioned below, there are many thousand ways. For example there was a person who was depressed and I scared the crap out of him and he was no longer depressed. Or you tell them "hey, there's a fire outside!" this does work on some people.

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], Christina Papadopoulou <papia_quack@... wrote:

Well, breaking the pattern sounds 'entertaining' but at that moment it wouldn't really be 'funny' and I would definitely not be in the mood to be funny. I understand the concept but at times like this it's not really a solution. Thanks for the idea though.

And Landi thank you very much for your response, I'll actually try to do that, I hope it will help.


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Ðñïò: [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url]
ÓôÜëèçêå: 1:52 ð.ì. ÄåõôÝñá, 29 Ïêôùâñßïõ 2012
Èåìá: [JoyofSatan666] Re: Aaah anger anger anger...

There's something much simpler. Just break his pattern. Say something silly loud enough, or do something silly or something totally irrelevant. And he'll start laughing so he'll forget his anger.

Some other ideas about that here:

http://ask.metafilter.com/185323/What-a ... -out-there

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "landi0623" <landi0623@ wrote:

I hope what I have to say is helpful to ur situation. 

Moods are contagious, and if u can keep ur cool and remain calm when another person is raging, it can be intimidating.

Instead of running away, screaming/yelling back, stand and hold ur position.  Stand tall, close ur eyes if u have to and take a few deep breaths.  "Life is in the breath". U control ur breathing and u can control ur body.  Control ur body and self, and u stand in a better position to control a whole situation.  I have had the opportunity to deal with many angry people and situations growing up as a child, and then in the Marine Corps, and then as a security guard.  If physical submission is out of the question, do not attempt it.  There are other ways of subduing an opponent.  U can use the power of social-submission or psychological submission.  The first step is remaining calm and controlling urself and ur voice.  Sometimes whispering is more powerful than yelling or screaming.  What u say is also important.

It sounds like u have an angry step-dad or elder brother in the home.  In that case, if I were in ur position, I would stand strong and calm in the face of their tantrum, then step up close and whisper "I don't feel safe when u act like that" "that behavior is immature and ill-advised"

Almost anything u say at this point will be pretty powerful.  Showing courage in the face of a great enemy can be very damaging to their psyche.

I came close to killing my step dad when I was 10, but I never followed through with it, and I'm glad I didn't.  My plan was to take a hammer's claw to his skull while he slept.

"Stand strong and keep calm". That's the main thing.  U can meditate over the situation and visualize urself standing strong and remaining calm through various situations, and it will help.  It's mental conditioning.  U train ur mind to respond a certain way to different situations, and it becomes ur natural way.

Hail Satan

--Blue EartH


--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Christina" <papia_quack@ wrote:

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-






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[Christina Papadopoulou]

But it doesn't really solve the problem.
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Θεμα: Ó÷åô: [JoyofSatan666] Re: Aaah anger anger anger...

I never said it has to be funny or that you have to be in a mood to be funny. Just do something unpredictable that catches that person by surprise so it breaks their anger. Something silly usually makes them laugh not because it's funny, but unexpected. BTW something silly is just one way, there are many other ways to do that as if you read the link I mentioned below, there are many thousand ways. For example there was a person who was depressed and I scared the crap out of him and he was no longer depressed. Or you tell them "hey, there's a fire outside!" this does work on some people.

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], Christina Papadopoulou <papia_quack@... wrote:

Well, breaking the pattern sounds 'entertaining' but at that moment it wouldn't really be 'funny' and I would definitely not be in the mood to be funny. I understand the concept but at times like this it's not really a solution. Thanks for the idea though.

And Landi thank you very much for your response, I'll actually try to do that, I hope it will help.


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Èåìá: [JoyofSatan666] Re: Aaah anger anger anger...
 
There's something much simpler. Just break his pattern. Say something silly loud enough, or do something silly or something totally irrelevant. And he'll start laughing so he'll forget his anger.

Some other ideas about that here:

http://ask.metafilter.com/185323/What-a ... -out-there

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "landi0623" <landi0623@ wrote:

I hope what I have to say is helpful to ur situation. 

Moods are contagious, and if u can keep ur cool and remain calm when another person is raging, it can be intimidating.

Instead of running away, screaming/yelling back, stand and hold ur position.  Stand tall, close ur eyes if u have to and take a few deep breaths.  "Life is in the breath". U control ur breathing and u can control ur body.  Control ur body and self, and u stand in a better position to control a whole situation.  I have had the opportunity to deal with many angry people and situations growing up as a child, and then in the Marine Corps, and then as a security guard.  If physical submission is out of the question, do not attempt it.  There are other ways of subduing an opponent.  U can use the power of social-submission or psychological submission.  The first step is remaining calm and controlling urself and ur voice.  Sometimes whispering is more powerful than yelling or screaming.  What u say is also important.

It sounds like u have an angry step-dad or elder brother in the home.  In that case, if I were in ur position, I would stand strong and calm in the face of their tantrum, then step up close and whisper "I don't feel safe when u act like that" "that behavior is immature and ill-advised"

Almost anything u say at this point will be pretty powerful.  Showing courage in the face of a great enemy can be very damaging to their psyche.

I came close to killing my step dad when I was 10, but I never followed through with it, and I'm glad I didn't.  My plan was to take a hammer's claw to his skull while he slept.

"Stand strong and keep calm". That's the main thing.  U can meditate over the situation and visualize urself standing strong and remaining calm through various situations, and it will help.  It's mental conditioning.  U train ur mind to respond a certain way to different situations, and it becomes ur natural way.

Hail Satan

--Blue EartH


--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "Christina" <papia_quack@ wrote:

Hello...
My question may seem weird but I could really use your advice.

Is there a way to alter someone's... if not 'personality', then just his anger management issues?

The thing is that even though I detest so much this person that I find myself intrigued in the idea of him being constantly absent (not possible), my mother would be sad if anything were to happen to him and I wouldn't want to sadden her (even without her knowledge).

So is there any way to make this person shut the FUCK up and stop making everyone else inferior when he's angry -but *without* hurting him? It's like we're afraid of speaking our minds when he's upset and the last time I did so he punched my door... -_-






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