small town, stupid and uninteresting people - lower the level?

[nebu]

putting up with envy, low values and behaviors, conspiracy against you, in exchange for company so you don't be alone, is that valid? you know, feel and understand that they are not on your side, the only true shared similarity is that you are from the human race, otherwise it is an act.
given that loneliness kills as much as drug addiction.

and the scarcity of individuals who are worth it and are at least OK, is unusual, at my age, besides the fact that the hole where i live has very few options of people.

the people that i really like and would take with me in my life are the OLD people, how i earn my living means that i have contact with them, i can have productive, pleasant, useful conversations, talking about everything and good things, they are aware of notions and sacrifices, but it is not with them that i will go out to dinner, go out with a widow woman in her 70s, be invited to their homes for leisure, go on a paradisiacal trip, that is strange, we are completely different too.
("modesty" aside, they were generally successful people and are successful people.)

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[Gearhead]

Greetings, brother. I've struggled with this exact question for years--I know exactly how soul-crushingly lonely it feels to be in your position, and how frustrating and exhausting it can be to try to ingratiate yourself with the mundanes just for that small taste of human interaction. While I don't yet have a solid answer, I can at least offer some of my experiences.

The unfortunate truth for people like us is that yes, we often do have to compromise and lower our standards when it comes to finding companions, but you have to know where to draw the line. Decide for yourself what you can and cannot tolerate, hold yourself to these standards, and never be afraid to walk away from something that crosses that line. If it is as you say and these people hate you for what you are, then why bother trying to befriend them? All you'll end up doing is violating your principles, denigrating yourself, and putting yourself in a far worse position than if you had just stayed by yourself. It's a bitter pill to swallow, but this is the reality of our situation.

Of course, this doesn't solve the original problem of actually finding friends. As far as that goes, one method I've had some measure of luck with is through shared hobbies. Find something you like doing, preferably something cerebral, and look around your area for clubs or events. It's certainly not a guarantee, but your chances of success will at least be a little higher; it's been my experience that people who have the drive and patience to learn about things and develop useful skills at least have something interesting to offer, even if it ends up just being surface-level. Again, though, stick to your principles and know where to draw the line.

One last thing to consider: This option is certainly not for everyone, but if it's female companionship that you're after, perhaps consider requesting a succubus. It certainly isn't a decision to be made lightly, but if you've completely given up hope in finding a partner, it can be an extremely rewarding experience, provided you have the maturity and correct mindset to enter into such a relationship. After things ended the way they did with my previous partner (who actually was a dedicated Satanist--I guess not even that is a guarantee of success), and seeing a close friend's relationship end similarly (again with a dedicated Satanist), this was the path I chose to take. My senses are not yet developed enough to converse with her, but knowing she's out there, and knowing I don't have to sift through the hordes of half-naked whores to try to find something semi-palatable, is a comfort all its own.

 

[Ælberiigor]

putting up with envy, low values and behaviors, conspiracy against you, in exchange for company so you don't be alone, is that valid?...
given that loneliness kills as much as drug addiction.

and the scarcity of individuals who are worth it and are at least OK, is unusual, at my age, besides the fact that the hole where i live has very few options of people.

the people that i really like and would take with me in my life are the OLD people..., they are aware of notions and sacrifices

Since child, I've already feel and think in a similar scheme. The company is often toxic for me, only my personals interests and passions permit me to evolve.
Because people are in general superficial and aware of nothing, they become an extension of the jewtrix program remixed by their astral shits, and it's not bearable for the spiritual black sheeps we are to live in such fucking boring way.

But we can hazardously meet non conventional characters in non conventional activities like travels, hike, concerts... and share emotions with others permitting to bear our loneliness. Just don't ask too many things.

Of course, support the tyranny of imbeciles in the hope to socialize is the coward way.
We must be responsible of our life and must developed the ability to find our friends and create a circle for them.
Else accept the loneliness, but at a moment, it becomes the looser way.

 

[NakedPluto [JG]]

Stupid and uninteresting people, how much should one reflect about this towards themselves??

Simple life is needed for existence, either done by others or you appreciating that it exists outside of you. Leave them be and go in your own way if you are an exceptional. Loneliness is thinking you do not posses what you deserve, unfulfilled potential of own being - reality is mathematical. Be happy of your own presence in this existence.

 

[Tyrone1978]

There would be nothing morally wrong with being a (granny snatcher, ha ha). No really you're not ageist now and you may be very happy with a senior citizen. There is the drawback that they may soon have failing health and the inevitable loss. You know with advanced age friends you get to see your friends die.

And no way would I voluntarily hang with people I'm not comfortable around. I'm an introvert so it's too easy for me to be on my own. But maybe you have too much time. Fill your time with interests. Take up the practice of yoga and start reading lots or something to occupy yourself. I never feel lonely and when I do it's gone quickly because I have so much to do. So decide what to get busty with.

 

[Virael_]

OLD

Did you mean O.L.D. (Obessive Love Disorder) people, or old (in age) people?

 

[nebu]

ion than if you had just stayed by yourself. It's a bitter pill to swallow, but this is the reality of our situation.

Again, though, stick to your principles and know where to draw the line.

thank you for your words, you definitely completely understand what this is, i myself already hang out with people and i'm open, and i've been tolerating a lot of differences, and i wanted to know more from others, to really draw a line, like you said.
there are times when i don't know if it's worth "giving" myself.
FUCK the arrogance, look who i am and what i do, am i mixing with this type of person?

But we can hazardously meet non conventional characters in non conventional activities like travels, hike, concerts... and share emotions with others permitting to bear our loneliness. Just don't ask too many things.

good advice, i already apply it, thank you.
don't stimulate the NPC too much, even if you wear a perfect social mask and are very good at socializing, there will be no point in trying to get to the heart of deep matters, he will respond mechanically given the programming.
it happens.

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Loneliness is thinking you do not posses what you deserve, unfulfilled potential of own being - reality is mathematical. Be happy of your own presence in this existence.

i'll pretend i understand, thanks.

There would be nothing morally wrong with being a (granny snatcher, ha ha).

So decide what to get busty with.

:lol:

as people have appeared here who also go through or have gone through something like this, it's usually for long periods, you can have a thousand hobbies, as it's just you, eventually you'll get tired and stop filling them.
and i like many things, i am very varied...

Did you mean O.L.D. (Obessive Love Disorder) people, or old (in age) people?

old in age

 

[Personal Growth]

There would be nothing morally wrong with being a (granny snatcher, ha ha). No really you're not ageist now and you may be very happy with a senior citizen. There is the drawback that they may soon have failing health and the inevitable loss. You know with advanced age friends you get to see your friends die.
And no way would I voluntarily hang with people I'm not comfortable around. I'm an introvert so it's too easy for me to be on my own. But maybe you have too much time. Fill your time with interests. Take up the practice of yoga and start reading lots or something to occupy yourself. I never feel lonely and when I do it's gone quickly because I have so much to do. So decide what to get busty with.

 

[existentialcrisis]

putting up with envy, low values and behaviors, conspiracy against you, in exchange for company so you don't be alone, is that valid? you know, feel and understand that they are not on your side, the only true shared similarity is that you are from the human race, otherwise it is an act.
given that loneliness kills as much as drug addiction.

and the scarcity of individuals who are worth it and are at least OK, is unusual, at my age, besides the fact that the hole where i live has very few options of people.

the people that i really like and would take with me in my life are the OLD people, how i earn my living means that i have contact with them, i can have productive, pleasant, useful conversations, talking about everything and good things, they are aware of notions and sacrifices, but it is not with them that i will go out to dinner, go out with a widow woman in her 70s, be invited to their homes for leisure, go on a paradisiacal trip, that is strange, we are completely different too.
("modesty" aside, they were generally successful people and are successful people.)

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I don't know if I understand what you're trying to ask.

I would not associate with toxic people. It's better to be alone than in bad company. There have been people who I respected until I saw what they really were like and then I saw that I'm better off without them. Especially if you are not growing from their presence in your life. They are just not worth having around.

As for older people, I've always felt like I enjoyed the company of older people more. They can be more realistic and grounded, stronger principles, and have wisdom and perspective to share, and a more interesting outlook. They can be people who have already blossomed.

I also think that relationships across generations play a different role in your growth than relations with people your own age, since you're relating from different stages in life and each generation experiences life in its own way.

The tragedy is knowing that over the years, you'll eventually see them get sick and lose them. If you find the rare good person, love and appreciate them while you have them, and be authentic in how you relate with them, no matter their age. Goodness should be cherished wherever you find it.