This person excludes me. I'm tired

Well let me introduce you to your first Power Move my dear.. you gain the strenght to Just say "Bye" to her :) if she doesn't care you win because you will feel proud, if she come back you win. You will feel better about yourself and possibly remove a negative relationship. Trust me you'll learn to live without her..

Hello everyone!
What I am about to tell you is very sad but also arouses a lot of anger.
Since the first year this classmate and I have always been close friends, we couldn't make friends and so we always stayed together supporting each other, laughing, joking.
This year she got it into her head that this should change and started making friends with some of my other classmates (so far there is nothing wrong with that). The problem is that she started ignoring me, giving me little importance and excluding me.
Whenever I try to tell her that I miss our times together she displays the message and doesn't respond.
When I asked her if we wanted to be deskmates again she said no, when I asked her if we wanted to be in the same room during the trip she said "but look we don't have to be in the same room."
Honestly, since it's a 4-year friendship, hearing those answers made me feel terrible, I cried for many days.
Today I have a party, in which she will also be there. I don't know how to behave and I honestly hate the fact that she has to ruin my mood and also take away my desire to go celebrate.
I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.
Seriously, I am very tired

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People come and go in life, it’s natural. Especially at a young age. The friends you start school with are not the friends you will end it with and you will gain and then lose touch with many others along the way.

It may hurt now but you will find friends who will last much longer and form a much stronger bond in time.

Move on to other people who appreciate you and forget about her as she’s forgotten about you

Hello everyone!
What I am about to tell you is very sad but also arouses a lot of anger.
Since the first year this classmate and I have always been close friends, we couldn't make friends and so we always stayed together supporting each other, laughing, joking.
This year she got it into her head that this should change and started making friends with some of my other classmates (so far there is nothing wrong with that). The problem is that she started ignoring me, giving me little importance and excluding me.
Whenever I try to tell her that I miss our times together she displays the message and doesn't respond.
When I asked her if we wanted to be deskmates again she said no, when I asked her if we wanted to be in the same room during the trip she said "but look we don't have to be in the same room."
Honestly, since it's a 4-year friendship, hearing those answers made me feel terrible, I cried for many days.
Today I have a party, in which she will also be there. I don't know how to behave and I honestly hate the fact that she has to ruin my mood and also take away my desire to go celebrate.
I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.
Seriously, I am very tired

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She was never your friend.

That may have been an acquaintance at best, but not a friend. A friend will welcome you in their life.

Forget about her, she's not friend material. Find someone who is.

Thank you very much everyone!
I am tired of suffering because of you. It is time to change my life and my friends

Hello everyone!
What I am about to tell you is very sad but also arouses a lot of anger.
Since the first year this classmate and I have always been close friends, we couldn't make friends and so we always stayed together supporting each other, laughing, joking.
This year she got it into her head that this should change and started making friends with some of my other classmates (so far there is nothing wrong with that). The problem is that she started ignoring me, giving me little importance and excluding me.
Whenever I try to tell her that I miss our times together she displays the message and doesn't respond.
When I asked her if we wanted to be deskmates again she said no, when I asked her if we wanted to be in the same room during the trip she said "but look we don't have to be in the same room."
Honestly, since it's a 4-year friendship, hearing those answers made me feel terrible, I cried for many days.
Today I have a party, in which she will also be there. I don't know how to behave and I honestly hate the fact that she has to ruin my mood and also take away my desire to go celebrate.
I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.
Seriously, I am very tired

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She doesn’t want to be your friend anymore. It doesn’t need dialogue. It’s not your problem, teenage friendships (guessing teenage because of context) are often like that.

The worst you can do is cling to her or show her you need her.

Make your own friends, forget about her, make friendships with those that actually support you and love you.

Sometimes, it’s very healthy to have an ego (probably called self-esteem) that when someone doesn’t want you, you don’t beg them to stay, you just don’t need them, show them they are replaceable, or just focus on your self and study/work/advancement.

Don’t contact her anymore and when she reaches out to you to ask for a service or she remembers she needs you be cruel and ignore her.

If someone doesn’t deserve your friendship, cut them off and only those who earn it can have it.

Focus on your growth, studies, beauty, self-care, work, future, be fun, and carefree and people will reach out to you and want to be your friend badly.

This is a process so take it step-by-step and work on it, be patient and love yourself.

Self-esteem is everything, be magnetic.

Also, something else came to mind. I wonder if somebody could be trashing you behind your back. Maybe it's her, or maybe it's her new "friends". Would explain the weird 180 in behavior and not seeming to want to be associated with you.

Either way, you must move forward and find better people. It hurts but you deserve better.

I presume you must be rather young, @Tethys333 correct? Aquarius has given you the best advice one can give - one has to learn to become less sentimental and more pragmatic. Yet this comes with time and maturity.

I had an acquaintance (had been friends for several years) who deemed me his friend, but it so happaned that he moved to another city, me after some time also moved to a different one. One may think 'there are text messages, video chats, you name it'.

Knowing, however, that he has always preached pragmatism and futility of maintaining any kind of relationships, the last time I sent him a text message was in May or June 2018. I've not received any message from him ever since.

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Unfortunately, the reason why I suffer a lot is that before besides her I had no one, slowly I am trying to spend more time with my classmates to get to know them even more.
Unfortunately, this difficulty I have in making friends is due to the position of my Saturn on my birth chart. But I am trying to live with it.
Thanks again for the advice, I was right to write to you guys

Unfortunately, the reason why I suffer a lot is that before besides her I had no one, slowly I am trying to spend more time with my classmates to get to know them even more.
Unfortunately, this difficulty I have in making friends is due to the position of my Saturn on my birth chart. But I am trying to live with it.
Thanks again for the advice, I was right to write to you guys

Don’t let a natal chart position limit you from having friends.

What you tell yourself is your reality.
Don’t let anything limit you, these are excuses.

Have courage despite the anxiety and reach out to people, say hello, make small talk and get to know people.

I know what you’re talking about and sometimes believed as you said and once I just made the decision to let go of all this and I decide who I am, I would talk to anyone beside me open small talk, and ended up taking the numbers of endless people and had friends was well known. Despite my social anxiety, and heart beating panickly, but kept a calm and casual, warm composure.

I just rememebered recently I can do this again, and that nothing limits me but myself, I had trouble with some stuff personal to me and used to say this is who I’m because of trauma, natal chart, elements, etc.

But I just decided no I’m limitless and this limitation is self-imposed I decide who I am and a problem that I’ve been facing for years got instantly better in like 2 days.

It won’t be comfortable and that’s normal and okay, get out of your comfort zone consistently, that’s where the growth is.

Who do you want to be? You can be her. The best version of yourself.

Don’t let a natal chart position limit you from having friends.

What you tell yourself is your reality.
Don’t let anything limit you, these are excuses.

Have courage despite the anxiety and reach out to people, say hello, make small talk and get to know people.

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I am ready. I have overcome worse.
Thank you 😊

I am ready. I have overcome worse.
Thank you 😊

You got this sis🔥

The videos on the 'Academy of Ideas' YT channel may help you out in regards to finding your self and realising some important points in your life.

I especially like the following:

Find power, and you will find powerful friends. And with it, happiness... or rather fulfillment.

The videos on the 'Academy of Ideas' YT channel may help you out in regards to finding your self and realising some important points in your life.

I especially like the following:

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Thank you 😊🙏🏼

Hello everyone!
What I am about to tell you is very sad but also arouses a lot of anger.
Since the first year this classmate and I have always been close friends, we couldn't make friends and so we always stayed together supporting each other, laughing, joking.
This year she got it into her head that this should change and started making friends with some of my other classmates (so far there is nothing wrong with that). The problem is that she started ignoring me, giving me little importance and excluding me.
Whenever I try to tell her that I miss our times together she displays the message and doesn't respond.
When I asked her if we wanted to be deskmates again she said no, when I asked her if we wanted to be in the same room during the trip she said "but look we don't have to be in the same room."
Honestly, since it's a 4-year friendship, hearing those answers made me feel terrible, I cried for many days.
Today I have a party, in which she will also be there. I don't know how to behave and I honestly hate the fact that she has to ruin my mood and also take away my desire to go celebrate.
I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.
Seriously, I am very tired

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I am sorry to hear that. It’s always unpleasant and frustrating when a friendship has to end up like that, When I was a teen I went through something similar.

She was probably unhappy with her situation, and perhaps maybe felt lonely, eventhough she had you as a friend, and decided to change this.

It is very likely that she indeed enjoys your company and likes you of course… however she could be subconsciously afraid to go back into isolation, if she comes back to you. Do you get the gist of what I am telling you?

I don’t know you yet, as I just rejoined the forums, but I believe that you are in your mid-teens. In this time most things are very chaotic, emotions, interpersonal relationships and life itself. Your friend most likely wants to belong to group of peers, as most people want to belong somewhere and feel included. This is only very natural as we humans are social beings, and this is part of our human experience.

This of course is also very true for you, so it must be very hard on you to felt like she has left you behind.

Have you ever tried to approach her with your other classmates? I believe she would be okay with that, and you would include yourself. Just try to approach them and stick with them, maybe with a girl of who you know she is especially nice, because your old friend might feel uncomfortable if you stick like glue to her in the beginning.

Apart from that, you could try to approach other classmates in the lunch break, ask them what they plan to do while the break and just join them. I am sure they will welcome you if you approach them.

If you see other people in the break outside doing whatever, you can also just join them. People are generally nicer than you would believe at first :)

If a group or someone is doing anything, idk, playing with a ball, showing some stuff around, or just standing around and talking, you can just approach them and literally just say this „hi, what are you guys doing? :)“
„Can I join you?“ „Nice! My name is xyz!“

They might look startled at first maybe, but people generally accept other people, if they are nice to them. Trust me. Most of the time people feel just Self-conscious, but you will feel good if you try this.

You could also join some groups in your school, that are doing activities and practices after school. I joined the theatre club at my school for 2 years! This is also a good possibility to make new friends, as those people are in an Environment and mood that makes it easier to ease up and get comfortable around people.

You could also join a club in your leisure. I was at material Arts classes when I was a teen. You could maybe do so research what is available in your area and what you would like to do!

You could also try out to work somewhere to earn some extra money. A waitress in a cafe for example, where you know other girls your age are working. Or even older girls than you are!
Maybe even charity would work for you, maybe at an animal shelter.

And of course you are free to make Friends here and to Socialize on the forums in the meantime!

When you do the AoP and clean your soul, you would want to use GOLDEN Energy/Light, as if you visualize white light this could repel other people and attachments.

Also keep your meditations going and advance. You will reach a point where people really appreciate your understanding, but maybe only as you and people around you get older.

You could also work with your Aura and feed it with energy and program it to attract people, or influence them. This is highly effective, the stronger your Aura gets. Trust me.

But the easiest way, and also a very good practice would be, to do a working on your old friend, so she includes you with her new friends, as well as working with your Aura.

Because you already have a connection, and she still likes you. She is just as selfish as a teen girl can be! 😂

I have done this successfully to influence people to, for example, get a job.

Do you want me to provide you a protocol/method?

I am sorry to hear that. It’s always unpleasant and frustrating when a friendship has to end up like that, When I was a teen I went through something similar.

She was probably unhappy with her situation, and perhaps maybe felt lonely, eventhough she had you as a friend, and decided to change this.

It is very likely that she indeed enjoys your company and likes you of course… however she could be subconsciously afraid to go back into isolation, if she comes back to you. Do you get the gist of what I am telling you?

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Hi.
Thank you so much for reading my thread.
I am slowly including myself in the class and she, when it happens, does not change. She still remains a bit selfish.
I honestly don't like to chase people, if she wants to leave let her, if she wants to stay let her treat me well.
Nevertheless, yes! I would love it if you could provide me with a method.
Thank you😊