Suicidal thoughts, betrayal

I was in a very similar situation to you. The best advice I can give is to keep yourself distracted from her. Go no contact. Block/Remove her from EVERYTHING.
Focus on doing things that make you happy. Travel, explore, put yourself out there in a new city. It won't be easy. It never will be.
She can break your heart, she can make you hurt so much that you want to die.
But she can never EVER take away your ability to chose.

Paragraph 4 and 3 are in the wrong order. Sorry, I didn't notice it when I posted it.

It would be really hard or impossible to change your mind in a few sentences here, but perhaps the best thing you can do is to always reason and apply reason and do not be in an unreasonably state and do not do unreasonable things.

Because our emotions tend to be very unreasonable at times, it's good if you at least realize that.

May the Gods hold your tender heart in their loving hands, while you heal. I understand, heartbreak 💔 is the worst feeling, I avoided romantic relationships for many years because I simply couldn't bear it and needed to focus on other things for a while. And the fact you felt it was a good fit, you opened yourself up, let yourself trust her with your heart and be vulnerable....thats really special.

The hard fact about life is people change and grow out of things, have their own personal internal journey and struggles, and may have needed to break it off for their own reasons that dont make sense to you right now, doesnt mean it makes it any less painful.

They say when you get really attached to someone and then have to let it go.It's very similar to your psyche going through withdrawals. And I must agree with other Zevists advice here, stay busy, stay distracted, NO CONTACT, and give yourself time to process this and heal.

And who knows , maybe after she works out whatever her reason was , maybe she'll realize what you guys had together and want to reconcile. But in case she does not, be strong in yourself, please do not give up on yourself; there are other people that value you and care bout you. We want to see you come out on the other side of this, strong and able to handle all things life brings your way. Please dont give up friend.

Sending lots of loving healing vibes your way, this community and the Gods are here for you. Feel free to message me if you just need someone to talk to, I know how important a support system can be in times that feel destitute. 🫂

You should put this person out of your mind and forget about her, the more of her things or memories you still have, the harder it will be. You need to forget all of that, healing will come gradually, not all at once, it demand time for sure, it really depends on each individual person. Imagine if you were living the way you did before, without her. Imagine what problems you could have avoided by staying together. After all, if she’s alredy made her choice there's nothing u can change, traitors are just traitors, although more often than not, people simply don't know what they want from a relationship, and because of that, people like you end up suffering

Hello,

I'm sorry you are going through this. What you are experiencing is not something easy, people even ''die'' from heartbreak after losing their long-time spouses. It weakens your heart, makes you more stressed, and gives you depression. Now, your neural pathways will be rewired as if you are withdrawing from a drug addiction.

Quitting a horrible job and having a place to go back to is not a defeat. It is a new beginning.

The hurt you feel now, only time can heal it. It will dull and heal if you give it time.

1 girl goes, 2 girls come. Never get depandent on one person, always have a plan b. All the sorrow and pain you feel do you think she feels the same? I don´t think so. Stop torturing yourself for her decission. There is the right or multiple right girls out there.