I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
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It would be nice just to find that special someone. I am coming off a two year relationship that I found out he was just playing with me it was a game to him. He nvr had any intentions of coming to the US to be with me. But this is the story of my life. I am always the one left behind. The one rejected and betrayed. Is there hope of finding one person to love and be loved?
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I believe a man can be faithful with the right partner. People differ.
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On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 3:36 PM PST [ email redacted ] wrote:
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@... wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
Think about this as energy. All relationships are about giving and reciving energy. When the energy current is stronger between 2 people, then that bond is way stronger. A monogamous relationship is a different level. You give your sexual energies to only one person. Imo this is for soulmates, for partners who perfectly fit each other.
Just my opinion :)
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It would be nice just to find that special someone. I am coming off a two year relationship that I found out he was just playing with me it was a game to him. He nvr had any intentions of coming to the US to be with me. But this is the story of my life. I am always the one left behind. The one rejected and betrayed. Is there hope of finding one person to love and be loved?
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Mc Rundown <[ email redacted ] wrote:
I believe a man can be faithful with the right partner. People differ.
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On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 3:36 PM PST [ email redacted ] wrote:
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@... wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
Think about this as energy. All relationships are about giving and reciving energy. When the energy current is stronger between 2 people, then that bond is way stronger. A monogamous relationship is a different level. You give your sexual energies to only one person. Imo this is for soulmates, for partners who perfectly fit each other.
Just my opinion :)
No but my father is jamaican st anns parish...my ex husband is jamaican!
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Shannon there is a very good reason women and men usually differ in how they feel about this and it's because women have to carry children for 9 months and are always present with the child at it's birth and are have historically been caregivers, so a woman's instincts usually are inclined towards a man which feels something emotionally for them and can support them because this gives her and her child the best chance of surviving and passing on her genes if she has a supporting and emotionally committed partner.
For a man, he doesn't carry a child for nine months and can get many many women pregnant at once potentially and so his best chances of passing on his genes is if he is more promiscuous and able to attract more women. A mans chances of passing on his genes is not really increased by having a woman emotionally attached to him, at least not to the extent it is for women.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
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On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
0
Shannon there is a very good reason women and men usually differ in how they feel about this and it's because women have to carry children for 9 months and are always present with the child at it's birth and are have historically been caregivers, so a woman's instincts usually are inclined towards a man which feels something emotionally for them and can support them because this gives her and her child the best chance of surviving and passing on her genes if she has a supporting and emotionally committed partner.
For a man, he doesn't carry a child for nine months and can get many many women pregnant at once potentially and so his best chances of passing on his genes is if he is more promiscuous and able to attract more women. A mans chances of passing on his genes is not really increased by having a woman emotionally attached to him, at least not to the extent it is for women.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
------------------------------
On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
I am monogamous in nature, love is sacred to me,Ok i look at other beautiful women but i will not go for them when i am commited,For me this shows respect and how i value my relationship and it will reflect me, I am Honorable Person, once i am commited i will keep my word,When temptation comes i will use my will for loyalty to overcome such obstacles, Also when love making with an Loved one it is different,It is more pleasureable and can never be boring,I am Extremely Skilled at bed, I will always and forever will keep my loved one fullfilled in bed and always happy and support her at all times,I simply can be loyal and can sustain it as much as possible, I can as a person love an Person to no end, I am very giving and generous,My love is Genuine in my own way,I will be with one who has similiar nature with mine.This is my prefference
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I am monogamous in nature, love is sacred to me,Ok i look at other beautiful women but i will not go for them when i am commited,For me this shows respect and how i value my relationship and it will reflect me, I am Honorable Person, once i am commited i will keep my word,When temptation comes i will use my will for loyalty to overcome such obstacles, Also when love making with an Loved one it is different,It is more pleasureable and can never be boring,I am Extremely Skilled at bed, I will always and forever will keep my loved one fullfilled in bed and always happy and support her at all times,I simply can be loyal and can sustain it as much as possible, I can as a person love an Person to no end, I am very giving and generous,My love is Genuine in my own way,I will be with one who has similiar nature with mine.This is my prefference
Anand you sound like my kind of man...
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On Tue, Dec 25, 2012 8:24 AM EST Anand Bon wrote:
I am monogamous in nature, love is sacred to me,Ok i look at other beautiful women but i will not go for them when i am commited,For me this shows respect and how i value my relationship and it will reflect me, I am Honorable Person, once i am commited i will keep my word,When temptation comes i will use my will for loyalty to overcome such obstacles, Also when love making with an Loved one it is different,It is more pleasureable and can never be boring,I am Extremely Skilled at bed, I will always and forever will keep my loved one fullfilled in bed and always happy and support her at all times,I simply can be loyal and can sustain it as much as possible, I can as a person love an Person to no end, I am very giving and generous,My love is Genuine in my own way,I will be with one who has similiar nature with mine.This is my prefference
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Anand you sound like my kind of man...
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On Tue, Dec 25, 2012 8:24 AM EST Anand Bon wrote:
I am monogamous in nature, love is sacred to me,Ok i look at other beautiful women but i will not go for them when i am commited,For me this shows respect and how i value my relationship and it will reflect me, I am Honorable Person, once i am commited i will keep my word,When temptation comes i will use my will for loyalty to overcome such obstacles, Also when love making with an Loved one it is different,It is more pleasureable and can never be boring,I am Extremely Skilled at bed, I will always and forever will keep my loved one fullfilled in bed and always happy and support her at all times,I simply can be loyal and can sustain it as much as possible, I can as a person love an Person to no end, I am very giving and generous,My love is Genuine in my own way,I will be with one who has similiar nature with mine.This is my prefference
Oh Zevios thank you..<3 I remember a post you wrote on sexuality and spirituality that you posted months ago. It was soo beautiful and so true. I read it alot.
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On Tue, Dec 25, 2012 7:35 AM EST Zevios Metathronos wrote:
And this is a sign of spiritual advancement. You are going upwards in your consciousness, thus living without emotion and mental stimulation is not possible. Thats great. You should do your workings and not 'wait', as to draw the correct person to yourself, that will love you and that you can match with. Feel not discouraged sister.
HAIL SATAN!!!!!!!
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
------------------------------
On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
0
Oh Zevios thank you..<3 I remember a post you wrote on sexuality and spirituality that you posted months ago. It was soo beautiful and so true. I read it alot.
------------------------------
On Tue, Dec 25, 2012 7:35 AM EST Zevios Metathronos wrote:
And this is a sign of spiritual advancement. You are going upwards in your consciousness, thus living without emotion and mental stimulation is not possible. Thats great. You should do your workings and not 'wait', as to draw the correct person to yourself, that will love you and that you can match with. Feel not discouraged sister.
HAIL SATAN!!!!!!!
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
------------------------------
On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
Djin I understand
------------------------------
On Mon, Dec 24, 2012 6:41 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
Shannon there is a very good reason women and men usually differ in how they feel about this and it's because women have to carry children for 9 months and are always present with the child at it's birth and are have historically been caregivers, so a woman's instincts usually are inclined towards a man which feels something emotionally for them and can support them because this gives her and her child the best chance of surviving and passing on her genes if she has a supporting and emotionally committed partner.
For a man, he doesn't carry a child for nine months and can get many many women pregnant at once potentially and so his best chances of passing on his genes is if he is more promiscuous and able to attract more women. A mans chances of passing on his genes is not really increased by having a woman emotionally attached to him, at least not to the extent it is for women.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
------------------------------
On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
0
Djin I understand
------------------------------
On Mon, Dec 24, 2012 6:41 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
Shannon there is a very good reason women and men usually differ in how they feel about this and it's because women have to carry children for 9 months and are always present with the child at it's birth and are have historically been caregivers, so a woman's instincts usually are inclined towards a man which feels something emotionally for them and can support them because this gives her and her child the best chance of surviving and passing on her genes if she has a supporting and emotionally committed partner.
For a man, he doesn't carry a child for nine months and can get many many women pregnant at once potentially and so his best chances of passing on his genes is if he is more promiscuous and able to attract more women. A mans chances of passing on his genes is not really increased by having a woman emotionally attached to him, at least not to the extent it is for women.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
------------------------------
On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
But im sure spiritual advancement will change that? Change that almost primitive way of thinking....?
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On Tue, Dec 25, 2012 12:20 PM EST Shannon Outlaw wrote:
Djin I understand
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On Mon, Dec 24, 2012 6:41 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
Shannon there is a very good reason women and men usually differ in how they feel about this and it's because women have to carry children for 9 months and are always present with the child at it's birth and are have historically been caregivers, so a woman's instincts usually are inclined towards a man which feels something emotionally for them and can support them because this gives her and her child the best chance of surviving and passing on her genes if she has a supporting and emotionally committed partner.
For a man, he doesn't carry a child for nine months and can get many many women pregnant at once potentially and so his best chances of passing on his genes is if he is more promiscuous and able to attract more women. A mans chances of passing on his genes is not really increased by having a woman emotionally attached to him, at least not to the extent it is for women.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
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On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
0
But im sure spiritual advancement will change that? Change that almost primitive way of thinking....?
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On Tue, Dec 25, 2012 12:20 PM EST Shannon Outlaw wrote:
Djin I understand
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On Mon, Dec 24, 2012 6:41 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
Shannon there is a very good reason women and men usually differ in how they feel about this and it's because women have to carry children for 9 months and are always present with the child at it's birth and are have historically been caregivers, so a woman's instincts usually are inclined towards a man which feels something emotionally for them and can support them because this gives her and her child the best chance of surviving and passing on her genes if she has a supporting and emotionally committed partner.
For a man, he doesn't carry a child for nine months and can get many many women pregnant at once potentially and so his best chances of passing on his genes is if he is more promiscuous and able to attract more women. A mans chances of passing on his genes is not really increased by having a woman emotionally attached to him, at least not to the extent it is for women.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
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On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
Yeah Shannon it may do but I don't know the answer to that one honestly, I would like to know myself. I hope one of the High Priests will do a sermon on it sometime.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
But im sure spiritual advancement will change that? Change that almost primitive way of thinking....?
------------------------------
On Tue, Dec 25, 2012 12:20 PM EST Shannon Outlaw wrote:
Djin I understand
------------------------------
On Mon, Dec 24, 2012 6:41 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
Shannon there is a very good reason women and men usually differ in how they feel about this and it's because women have to carry children for 9 months and are always present with the child at it's birth and are have historically been caregivers, so a woman's instincts usually are inclined towards a man which feels something emotionally for them and can support them because this gives her and her child the best chance of surviving and passing on her genes if she has a supporting and emotionally committed partner.
For a man, he doesn't carry a child for nine months and can get many many women pregnant at once potentially and so his best chances of passing on his genes is if he is more promiscuous and able to attract more women. A mans chances of passing on his genes is not really increased by having a woman emotionally attached to him, at least not to the extent it is for women.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
------------------------------
On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....
0
Yeah Shannon it may do but I don't know the answer to that one honestly, I would like to know myself. I hope one of the High Priests will do a sermon on it sometime.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:
But im sure spiritual advancement will change that? Change that almost primitive way of thinking....?
------------------------------
On Tue, Dec 25, 2012 12:20 PM EST Shannon Outlaw wrote:
Djin I understand
------------------------------
On Mon, Dec 24, 2012 6:41 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
Shannon there is a very good reason women and men usually differ in how they feel about this and it's because women have to carry children for 9 months and are always present with the child at it's birth and are have historically been caregivers, so a woman's instincts usually are inclined towards a man which feels something emotionally for them and can support them because this gives her and her child the best chance of surviving and passing on her genes if she has a supporting and emotionally committed partner.
For a man, he doesn't carry a child for nine months and can get many many women pregnant at once potentially and so his best chances of passing on his genes is if he is more promiscuous and able to attract more women. A mans chances of passing on his genes is not really increased by having a woman emotionally attached to him, at least not to the extent it is for women.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
Darklady I also agree with what you said about people being at the least sexually monogamous...it IS sad.. Djin you are right as well this man I know loves his wife but he has a girlfriend on the side because he said his wife is soooo boring in sex etc.... I guess it is what it is...it makes me a bit nervous to know this truth... I feel as if I can be monogamous sexually and definetly emotionally...i guess it comes down to finding someone who feels the same. I find it hard to have sex with someone who doesnt love me or atleast care about me in someway...i atleast would like to have some kind of mental connection with the person.
------------------------------
On Sun, Dec 23, 2012 12:29 PM EST Djinn Draconis wrote:
darklady13 actually I love your answer. Very honest. I think it's possible to be sexually polygamous but emotionally monogamous also, but people haven't learned how to deal with that yet.
I know this sounds cruel but many of times the people we love the most as partners in an emotional way aren't always the most physically attractive or sexually exciting. It'd be mean to say that to your partner and for all you know they could think the same about you but it's true whether we like it or not.
--- In , "darrklady13" <darkladyschild@ wrote:
Im not the best person to answer on this....as I believe human beings are not NATURALLY SEXUALLY monogamous. Its painful for many people to read....but its my opinion, and what I have always WITNESSED, EXPERIENCED, in my short 45 yrs.
Love and commitment, yes that is possible. I know the bond of love is strong, especially with commitment, and children.
But physical love, meaning sex,....nahh that is about trust.
Being attracted to other people is normal. But whether you ACT UPON THOSE FEELINGS, is another.
And we humans are weak when it comes to "resisting" pleasure.
But it doesn't mean it can't happen or that people can't be faithful.!!!
And like Lamont said in a different post.....
no one should have to change their own nature, just find someone who's nature is harmonious with your own.
--- In , Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@ wrote:
I was having a conversation with someone and he said that no matter how much a person loves another they will still have this instinctual need to have sex with others...like variety with sex. He said that swingers have healthy divorce free love/sex relationships because they are fulfilling the "human need" to have sex with different people.He went on to say that people cheat especially men because it is human instict. Is he semi right and that it is a primitive thing OR is this true for alot of people because a lack of spiritual and sexual development? I use to be this way but when I started to develop myself and work on especially my sacral chakra I realised how I now feel comfortable with having just one sex/love partner who I can be with forever.... I would love to hear everyones opinion on this....ofcourse I guess there are factors like planetary placements like venus in gemini that makes a
person
NEED variety in sex and can make that person bored of the same partner BUT I have venus in gemini...so yea....