Question #4871: love hurts so much

[Ask Satya Operator]

How to forgive yourself? I let someone disrespect me because I loved them

 

[kaelgr]

When you start healing yourself, you also start to forgive yourself. So continue/start meditations for improvement. Be sure you will feel good. We can make mistakes in life because of our emotions. The important thing is to realize it and not to continue it in a way that will cause harm for a long time.

 

[Head Guardian Blitzkreig]

How to forgive yourself? I let someone disrespect me because I loved them

The same lack of self-esteem which can allow this disrespect is what can also make it difficult to forgive oneself. Life is about learning and growing, so mistakes can happen. However, sometimes people can unknowingly assign blame to themselves for something that was not their fault, or in other cases could have been just an accident or general misfortune.

You are capable of growing to the point of receiving proper love and respect, if you are not already here, so there is only so much reason to hold your past against yourself.

Another thing that occurred to me here also is what about the other person? They should be the ones writing an apology and restoring your sense of identity in the first place. I hope you have addressed that first, which to me is the bigger problem here.

 

[AristocraticDragon666]

How to forgive yourself? I let someone disrespect me because I loved them

You need to learn to be fair both to others and to yourself.

I recommend that you don't be afraid to tell people what you don't like. If you love a person very much, but do not want to offend him, you can tell this person about your feelings and what exactly you do not like in a milder form.

If a person is offended by any trifle, then the problem is not with you, but with this person.

 

[Onbael_]

There is something deeper going on, and you have to become aware and accept your feelings, and understand these deep things about you.

It may have been a short chapter in your life anyway, maybe not even that important after all, more usually inflated by planetary positions, karma, traumas, problems, etc., which make us think that the whole thing has a very big value, often to escape from something else.

But in any case, the important thing is to understand oneself to an honest degree, to improve where possible and to get on with one's life, free and light.

I am writing this from my own recent experience, I used to dream about this person a lot, but these dreams are actually just confused shadows and nothing more.

Chasing them is just a waste of time, and in reality there are no well-founded reasons why I should invest in that person.