Goldenwings
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I have always been kind with people and compassionate , from my experience there are 3 ways you may be losing huge amounts of energy or money or opportunities etc because of this.
1. Having a million causes
I used to get drawn easily into supporting a cause, for example seing an animal specie almost going extint used to easily make me emotionaly involved and feel bad about it and think hours of it, and the same thing for humans in multiple areas in life, when i used to see a category suffer in a way or another even if i am not suffering from that problem, i get super mad about it and think about it a lot and so on
When i was young 15-18 this was not a big problem since it happened once in a while, but growing up i started noticing many things happening in this planet so after a period of time i became almost feeling bad and having a negative talk daily, because of stuff other go through , i went further , started even neglecting my own life , and spending huge amounts of thoughts on this that dont even concern me
I am not saying one should not have a cause, but thinking bad about the bad things all the time is just the other side of the coin, this was sucking energy from me to the point that when i stoped it it felt like i transitioned to heaven, i started feeling better i started feeling light, everything started feeling good
2.people using you
Some people used me a lot, since they knew the key of convincing me to give them money or whatever , they just talked nice and explained that they are in difficulty and since i feel compassion i could do nothing but always help, the thing is some of the people that i was helping were having more fun in life than me. And when i refuse to help 1 time they immediatly become against me, it took me a while to get rid of those people but i did. This also freed me so much
Since i was carryig my problems and theirs like if i have many families.
I am not saying helping is bad, but there is a line , i was hurting myself to help people, and i hurt myself so much, and thats bad , as bad as not helping people, two sides of the same coin
3.Parasites
Those are the least dangerous, but they still feed of you.
After getting rid of 1 and 2
It made me notice this kind of people that were passing under the radar, i discovered many people dont meet me because they want to meet me, but they literally use me as a drug, when they are feeling down or going through bad stuff , they call me and want to meet me , just because they learnt unconsciously that whenever they feel bad they can meet me and they start feeling good
I dont know why and how exactly, but people around me get influenced massively, they start feeling better when they are around me , and i found out many like me just because of that effect , so i started turning those people down too, since i am not a healer , that they can call whenever they are going through something , especially that i discovered that this affects me negatively and massively, in the last 7-8years i never had a problem with a person, i became a professional at having good relationships with people, but in the same time i became very selective in whom i spend time with
The persons in this third category not all of them are bad, some really are good people who just need someone by their side from time to time, but the same way i cant give away my whole money i cant give away my whole energy, i do my best , but doing more than what i can do drains me ( i feel it)and make me unable to maintain good spiritual health, especially that me myself am a beginner and especially that when i meet those kind of people generally i find them in a statz similar to giving up , so its like i pick them from floor its very hard, if they were at least ready or willing to do something it would be easier
Instead they just meet me while feeling completly destroyed, for example once i was on my way home, i went in a supermarket and there was a guy that i dont really know but we talk from tiiime to tiime , he was drunk, we talked a bit, i told him have a good day and wanted to leave and he told me wait wait i want to talk more , i was thinking oh my god here we go again, i waited a minute then i told him no i must leave, i left he tried to make me wait more but i told him i need to go
I went out , then i heard him calling me several times, i felt i need to go back see what he wants , i felt a bit bad walkkng leting him call, so i went back , we talked for a minute ( he was drunk), he told me he is so broke at that moment and wanted just a 5$ i told him i have 2$ ( by the way minimum wage in morocco is 300$ , i dont know how to get equivalent in your country, but 5$ in a country where minimum wage is 300$ isnt same 5$ in a country where minimum wage is x10 ( 3000$))
He told me 2$ is very low, i picked 5$ and gave it to him, he told me can i hug you please, i started thinking oh my god here we go again, i told him okay he huged me then told me you know why i like you? I told him why? He told me God told me this guy is a good guy this made me laugh lol especially hearing someone muslim talk like that and while being drunk, then i told him i have to go and i went
I found out those kind of people feed on me , i started allowing what i can tolerate and turning down things when it exceeeds the limit i set since it blocks my progress if i do otherwise.
1. Having a million causes
I used to get drawn easily into supporting a cause, for example seing an animal specie almost going extint used to easily make me emotionaly involved and feel bad about it and think hours of it, and the same thing for humans in multiple areas in life, when i used to see a category suffer in a way or another even if i am not suffering from that problem, i get super mad about it and think about it a lot and so on
When i was young 15-18 this was not a big problem since it happened once in a while, but growing up i started noticing many things happening in this planet so after a period of time i became almost feeling bad and having a negative talk daily, because of stuff other go through , i went further , started even neglecting my own life , and spending huge amounts of thoughts on this that dont even concern me
I am not saying one should not have a cause, but thinking bad about the bad things all the time is just the other side of the coin, this was sucking energy from me to the point that when i stoped it it felt like i transitioned to heaven, i started feeling better i started feeling light, everything started feeling good
2.people using you
Some people used me a lot, since they knew the key of convincing me to give them money or whatever , they just talked nice and explained that they are in difficulty and since i feel compassion i could do nothing but always help, the thing is some of the people that i was helping were having more fun in life than me. And when i refuse to help 1 time they immediatly become against me, it took me a while to get rid of those people but i did. This also freed me so much
Since i was carryig my problems and theirs like if i have many families.
I am not saying helping is bad, but there is a line , i was hurting myself to help people, and i hurt myself so much, and thats bad , as bad as not helping people, two sides of the same coin
3.Parasites
Those are the least dangerous, but they still feed of you.
After getting rid of 1 and 2
It made me notice this kind of people that were passing under the radar, i discovered many people dont meet me because they want to meet me, but they literally use me as a drug, when they are feeling down or going through bad stuff , they call me and want to meet me , just because they learnt unconsciously that whenever they feel bad they can meet me and they start feeling good
I dont know why and how exactly, but people around me get influenced massively, they start feeling better when they are around me , and i found out many like me just because of that effect , so i started turning those people down too, since i am not a healer , that they can call whenever they are going through something , especially that i discovered that this affects me negatively and massively, in the last 7-8years i never had a problem with a person, i became a professional at having good relationships with people, but in the same time i became very selective in whom i spend time with
The persons in this third category not all of them are bad, some really are good people who just need someone by their side from time to time, but the same way i cant give away my whole money i cant give away my whole energy, i do my best , but doing more than what i can do drains me ( i feel it)and make me unable to maintain good spiritual health, especially that me myself am a beginner and especially that when i meet those kind of people generally i find them in a statz similar to giving up , so its like i pick them from floor its very hard, if they were at least ready or willing to do something it would be easier
Instead they just meet me while feeling completly destroyed, for example once i was on my way home, i went in a supermarket and there was a guy that i dont really know but we talk from tiiime to tiime , he was drunk, we talked a bit, i told him have a good day and wanted to leave and he told me wait wait i want to talk more , i was thinking oh my god here we go again, i waited a minute then i told him no i must leave, i left he tried to make me wait more but i told him i need to go
I went out , then i heard him calling me several times, i felt i need to go back see what he wants , i felt a bit bad walkkng leting him call, so i went back , we talked for a minute ( he was drunk), he told me he is so broke at that moment and wanted just a 5$ i told him i have 2$ ( by the way minimum wage in morocco is 300$ , i dont know how to get equivalent in your country, but 5$ in a country where minimum wage is 300$ isnt same 5$ in a country where minimum wage is x10 ( 3000$))
He told me 2$ is very low, i picked 5$ and gave it to him, he told me can i hug you please, i started thinking oh my god here we go again, i told him okay he huged me then told me you know why i like you? I told him why? He told me God told me this guy is a good guy this made me laugh lol especially hearing someone muslim talk like that and while being drunk, then i told him i have to go and i went
I found out those kind of people feed on me , i started allowing what i can tolerate and turning down things when it exceeeds the limit i set since it blocks my progress if i do otherwise.
