Thank you so much for this! The website has similar information but it can really help to hear it explained in a different way.
I do have a question about my boyfriend. He has considerable Scorpio influence in his chart and had been molested when he was young, all this has affected him into adulthood. He is addicted to porn, having grew up with it and still using it even while we've been together. We've talked about it quite a bit but he still struggles with it. Also, he has never slept with another woman while we've been together, or had any romantic feelings it's just the porn.
I've tried to be understanding and I know why he resorts to it, but it still hurts. I've introduced him to basic meditation, but nothing chakra or aura related. He's Pagan, but not a Zevist. I wonder, is there a way I can present him with this information without revealing too much about Zevism? I'm not sure if he's ready to accept it just yet.
I love him and I want us to work out. He's really a great guy with good values. Any advice would be very appreciated. Thank you!
I want to give my 2 cents on this. Right off the bat I want to say that I don't think you should tolerate this as it is akin to cheating. However, it is also more complicated than the words "you should not tolerate this."
Porn addiction is real obviously, and addictions, whether we look at them as habits or diseases, is really becoming accustomed and dependent on an influence to your biological activity (and maybe even spiritual) that is coming from a source. Ideally, we should depend on virtually nothing outside of what we can produce on our own inside of our souls. All of the energies you get from things like music and other entertainment, and drugs, etc can be invoked from just the soul alone. I know it's possible but I have not mastered it myself.
I have found (feel free to correct me if I'm wrong - anybody) that there seems to be 2 main polarities of energies, which are fear and love. It took me years to accept this but I now understand that the whole range of emotions can be viewed as belonging to 1 of 2 polarities. For instance, anger is a product of the fear polarity. I have also come to believe that lust transpires through the sympathetic nervous system and love from the parasympathetic side. So again, fear.. and love.
Porn is almost always entirely associated with lust - which is an adrenalized, shock (and fear) based state. Many relationships (I'm not saying yours is) are primarily lust based when it comes to intimacy (and maybe other things too) rather than love based. This is why they fail. Lust, to me, is selfish and de generative, meanwhile love is generative so it creates mutual growth rather than eating energy from one side to feed another. These things are more complicated to this because, like everything, there are layers to it. For instance, somebody could raise the question "well what if love causes you to sacrifice? Isn't it then also degenerative?" And really I can't afford the time right now to completely iron out all of this stuff and to branch off in many different directions. I hope this information can help you, that is all, and you may have to do some thinking on your own to figure out how useful and important it may be for you in your life.
Just like people can get addicted to feeling depressed, which is a degenerative, negative state, so too can they be addicted to lust (obviously we all know this) but lust I've come to believe is fear based sexual stimulation - this is what I am trying to share. Lust gets your adrenaline to surge. This is why it burns out and a person with this type of addiction has to regularly find something new to give them the shock value again. This is also the reason porn addiction grows into different categories, bodytypes, situations, clothes, faces, voices, etc.
I can't really prove it, only express my opinion here with very good intentions, but I believe lust isn't a healthy pathway to be limited to expressing sexuality through. This is why (again, in my opinion) it is very bad what your partner is doing. I speak as somebody that lived through this myself but was able to change when I began to learn how to feel love through the influence my current partner had on me. Before that, sex and relationships for me were, I can admit, pretty selfish. Lust doesn't create a real and lasting union. It's about highs that rely on some type of food/fuel and when the fuel is gone, it burns out. Love on the other hand will build on itself and is sustainable.
To me, I see lust as a form of self-traumatization, when it dominates a persons ability to express sexuality.
At the same time I don't believe it is healthy to regularly channel the energy your partner deserves, into strangers you are watching on a screen. I love my partner so much now that I feel a sense of guilt towards the thought of doing that. This could even create soul ties to the people you funnel the energy into, and this would reserve space for other men/women in your mind/soul, which is likely to create problems, whether they're noticed or cared about, or not. And then there is also one last issue I would mention related to porn which is the catalog-ization of the opposite sex. Viewing them like a catalog that you get to, as it pleases you, browse through and temporarily use for your own gratification. This will cause a person to feel things every time they look at the opposite sex, things which should be reserved for your partner in your relationship, and it can be hard to turn off after years of conditioning yourself into being allowed and skilled at allowing connections to strangers to manifest through your aura. The energy branches out and gets extended to the other person(s), whether they notice it, accept it, reciprocate it, or not. Meaning that there is a good chance your partner is lusting for random women every day that he lays his eyes on - online, out in public, at work, etc. From the perspective of the person doing it - they are getting a slight "high" from their lust by doing this, but ultimately I think this creates roadblocks that prevent spiritual advancement. Nobody is perfect and we all have the right to live and grow and learn while we are here, but once you know you are making a mistake it becomes a responsibility to fix it. Maybe it was different/unique for me, but I don't think so - I struggled for a long time to not have feelings for nearly every woman I laid my eyes on (which I think a lot of people are stuck in the habit of doing but it is kind of a "normalized" thing today), and a lot of this came from there having been no personal accountability inside of me for what I was doing with my energy. We sometimes can hide things from even ourselves in our own minds, and I never had to answer for it to anyone else. I can blame porn for a large part of this but it was also other chains of experiences I had in my life growing up, like being trafficked as a child by "elites," and being conditioned from a very early age to create and nourish energy pathways that were harmful to me. So maybe these things don't (or maybe they do) affect others as much as I think. Either way I still think they're worth thinking about, for everyone.
I hope your relationship works out but I think you may want to address this issue, if you want the best for your relationship or to be able to more verifiably know you aren't spending your time on something temporary, unless aren't bothered by this. Sometimes we allow ourselves to be blind (speaking from experience) because "something imperfect is better than nothing" basically, when we are craving connection with the opposite sex, and the more time you pour into it the harder it is for someone to want to consider that maybe something is wrong or they made a mistake through poor judgment. A good relationship is built though and not found.
Many relationships start off of an adrenalized shock people get when they first observe each other, which I would call lust. This can't last forever, only love can (in my experience & opinion.. I can't prove this is a fact.) I say this not just from my own experiences but from observing those of others, too. This may not apply to you but I want to also share that many failed relationships started under selfish pretenses.. I think that more people should look more to see the potential in others, instead of measuring just their current qualities and value (basically how satisfactory they are to you right now, in a selfish way) and accepting/rejecting them based off that. I found my current and best relationship by seeing the potential in them and nourishing it. I'll never look at the opposite sex again the way that I used to before her. I'm not saying go out and find a terrible person and have faith that it's going to work out.. you have to use your discernment.
And I'm sorry if reading this post makes you uncomfortable. I know it is very personal and I am a stranger trying to talk about YOUR life. I mean well though and only want to share information that I learned in my life that turned out to be very important.
I think porn is evil (degenerative). For hundreds of years (if not longer) esoteric schools have believed that porn (even paintings, drawings, statues) opens your aura up in ways that aren't good.
As of late I'm starting to find myself wondering if even music is doing things to us that most don't realize, like installing Wernicke's commands into our brains. Undeniably it influences people, most of us know that but can't very well gauge the extent to which this happens.. even Aristotle mentioned this influence of the soul from music and the C.I.A. invested a lot of time and effort in deploying rap/aggressive music to influence populations and create civil unrest.
This all may not have been articulated as best as it could've been, but I am willing to further discuss any of this with anyone who has a question, concern, or objection to what I've said here. I truly believe that I've spoken the truth here.
I don't want to make this post any longer, and I didn't really address the OP here, but I have observed the same as what he has mentioned about the upper chakras. If you can't feel love then you will habitualize getting more stimulation from the sympathetic side of the nervous system and fear in general.
Good luck to you, and to everyone.
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