Sexuality #79192 first sexual intimacy

[Ask Satya Operator]

I'm a 20 year old female, and i have a boyfriend. I'm with for 5 months, and both of us arenot really sexually active, we are each other's first. we have been trying to have sex for 3 times now and it just won't work. he goes soft, i get hurt so much. weird thing is that i can normally do it other ways. but when it comes to having sex with him, it really hurts and i can't bear it. I'm starting to really believe this is something spiritual. what can i do to fix this? i love him and i feel horrible for not being able to satisfy him or myself during intimacy.

 

[hailourtruegod]

It can be nervousness on his part being his first time but also I would ask if your partner watches porn as the latter guarantees for men to have intimacy problems with their partner.

 

[AFODO]

Are you of the same race/ethnicity?
I would start with masturbation, level one is he does it for you, than he does it for himself (if that's okay for him) but you can do things like kissing his neck and so on, then the second level is that you do it for him (WHATCH TUTORIALS!!) not from porn sites but there are a lot of erotica vlogs on how to do hand jobs / blowjobs correctly and so on.
Have some foreplay but not too much like a hour long, he can get exhausted.
I do think the same as Hailourtruegod that this is probably nervousness from his end. Don't be sad it's very probably not your fault entirely. But again watch tutorials. And yes I think it can be astrological as well, perhaps start with a freeing working (focus on both of you, and on the relationship itself), and then a blessing working (choose a rune from the site, I don't know from the top of my head which one is good for this, and bless your relationship with it).

 

[MT88]

Have him eat eggs and the erectile dysfunction might get resolved. In addition to what hailourtruegod said about porn, if your boyfriend lives a sedentary lifestyle (poor blood circulation and low T), that's also a factor