Using magic for that isn't worth it cause you can get something you never wanted in the first place and you have to look at it through her perspective too why did she/he leave you in the first place, did you do something wrong? Things can be fixed without magic just use your brain hah...
Have you destroyed the connections you have with the enemy? It sounds like they're still influencing your thoughts.
HAIL SATAN AND THE GODS AND GODDESSES OF HELL