What causes deep addiction?

mercury_wisdom wrote:

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Whenever you get the urge to watch porn, face the desire head on with sheer willpower.
Subdue it and move on with your day.

Once this cycle repeats enough time, before you know it, you have full control over the urge.
Its okay to trip sometimes, that's fine. Just get right back up afterwards.
However, persistence to gain control over your urges should reward you in many ways than just being free of porn addiction.

Thanks for this!

You need to find out what is the reason you want to watch porn, is it just addiction because it feels good or is it something else? For me it was high libido plus the need of a boyfriend.

luis wrote:

mercury_wisdom wrote:

Username wrote:

Whenever you get the urge to watch porn, face the desire head on with sheer willpower.
Subdue it and move on with your day.

Once this cycle repeats enough time, before you know it, you have full control over the urge.
Its okay to trip sometimes, that's fine. Just get right back up afterwards.
However, persistence to gain control over your urges should reward you in many ways than just being free of porn addiction.

Thanks for this!

You need to find out what is the reason you want to watch porn, is it just addiction because it feels good or is it something else? For me it was high libido plus the need of a boyfriend.

It is because of the intense mental stimulation in porn. My 8th house mercury needs mental stimulation in sex and masturbation.

So there is millions of porn categories and stuff filled with intense mental stimulation and pleasure. This got me really hooked and built a connection to porn which I am so trying so hard to break.

But something deep inside just doesn't want to overcome porn which is sabotaging me trying to overcome it.

Like literally porn is my only and biggest problem right now I am trying so hard to fight it. But when I get this pre-watching porn horniness my mind is constantly tricking me to give up.

The problem isn't just with watching porn. The problem is the amount of depraved porn I watch while I don't really want to watch.

So yeah, it is a struggle...

mercury_wisdom wrote:

luis wrote:

mercury_wisdom wrote:

Thanks for this!

You need to find out what is the reason you want to watch porn, is it just addiction because it feels good or is it something else? For me it was high libido plus the need of a boyfriend.

It is because of the intense mental stimulation in porn. My 8th house mercury needs mental stimulation in sex and masturbation.

So there is millions of porn categories and stuff filled with intense mental stimulation and pleasure. This got me really hooked and built a connection to porn which I am so trying so hard to break.

But something deep inside just doesn't want to overcome porn which is sabotaging me trying to overcome it.

Like literally porn is my only and biggest problem right now I am trying so hard to fight it. But when I get this pre-watching porn horniness my mind is constantly tricking me to give up.

The problem isn't just with watching porn. The problem is the amount of depraved porn I watch while I don't really want to watch.

So yeah, it is a struggle...

I'm sorry, my problem was different so I can't really help you more than I did. Do the mercury square or just the mantra for 40 days or more to eliminate the negative aspects of your natal mercury. Make sure to do an affirmation everyday to get rid of the addiction. I know what you mean when you say that there is something inside you that does not want to get rid of the problem, that is the addiction that is so strong that is "talking" to you and making you not want to do anything. This is why you need to keep doing an affirmation and program your mind that you are healed from the addiction. Good luck brother ;)

Use regular affirmations towards desiring a real sexual/romantic connection with someone, and really mean it. Think about having a real connection with someone often and reason it through your mind that this is better than porn, because it is. Work on the insecurities towards real sex porn creates, study up on it, it sounds like you’re making progress even if it’s a long road. Sexual related obsessions aren’t the only thing that come from the lower region. I’ve noticed this is where my urge to vape and fall into silly patterns comes from. Sexual energy is “obsessive” in nature for a lack of a better word and truly loving what’s good for you and loving yourself is a strong resolve. I’m a woman so I’m not sure how it differs but I get highly sexual when I am feeling low in my life, or after a break up. Being secure and settled and connected with myself and others helps. It’s not necessarily found within others but found in self security. Addictions have to do with obsessive qualities and impulsive urges, as well as low self esteem. Lower powered throat chakra or Venus issues. It’s not always a problem and I prefer to take the energy out in bed with another person because internalizing it in the past has been more damaging personally. Forcing myself to not be with another person for the sake of working myself hasn’t really had any positive affect in the past but even when I’m not looking for a relationship I don’t just throw myself around to crap people. It could be negative to do that if a person is just sleeping around with who ever whenever just for a thrill. There’s got to be genuine actions there or a person could be disgusted in their impulsive choices. I personally think it helps to figure out what you really like in a person, at least a baseline, and go from there. Being too picky when it comes to just sexual relations can be damaging. I definitely have been and I just suppressed myself in that regard. Venus related workings may help you as well. These helped me. When I did Mars workings it only increased issues. Urges to have alcohol, urges to just have too much fun and disregard more important things.

I don't know if I should say this.
Try to channel your sexual feelings up through the base chakra all the way to the crown.
This should help you dissipate your sexual feelings.
Just imagine all the sexual feelings going up through your spine.

Also, hope your chakras are correctly aligned.

Sundara wrote:

Use regular affirmations towards desiring a real sexual/romantic connection with someone, and really mean it. Think about having a real connection with someone often and reason it through your mind that this is better than porn, because it is. Work on the insecurities towards real sex porn creates, study up on it, it sounds like you’re making progress even if it’s a long road. Sexual related obsessions aren’t the only thing that come from the lower region. I’ve noticed this is where my urge to vape and fall into silly patterns comes from. Sexual energy is “obsessive” in nature for a lack of a better word and truly loving what’s good for you and loving yourself is a strong resolve. I’m a woman so I’m not sure how it differs but I get highly sexual when I am feeling low in my life, or after a break up. Being secure and settled and connected with myself and others helps. It’s not necessarily found within others but found in self security. Addictions have to do with obsessive qualities and impulsive urges, as well as low self esteem. Lower powered throat chakra or Venus issues. It’s not always a problem and I prefer to take the energy out in bed with another person because internalizing it in the past has been more damaging personally. Forcing myself to not be with another person for the sake of working myself hasn’t really had any positive affect in the past but even when I’m not looking for a relationship I don’t just throw myself around to crap people. It could be negative to do that if a person is just sleeping around with who ever whenever just for a thrill. There’s got to be genuine actions there or a person could be disgusted in their impulsive choices. I personally think it helps to figure out what you really like in a person, at least a baseline, and go from there. Being too picky when it comes to just sexual relations can be damaging. I definitely have been and I just suppressed myself in that regard. Venus related workings may help you as well. These helped me. When I did Mars workings it only increased issues. Urges to have alcohol, urges to just have too much fun and disregard more important things.

Thanks for the info and advice, Sundara! I have a monogamous succubus which I absolutely love. So I don't need a partner. I already got one.

I think no one mentioned a big part of what assembles an addiction and attachment and that is lack of experience and immaturity. Growing in any part of life does give off maturity and choices to apply yourself. Lack of experience and choice does make the body and mind conform to mediocrity and undesire to change, stagnate in lethargy.

Hi there.

My reply is late, but I am writing it because something occurred to me. You could replace pornography with anime hentai or reading erotic stories. Maybe train the imagination and reject the visual. I apologize if my comment is wrong.

Camila Javiera wrote:

anime hentai

Replace degeneracy with other degeneracy? haha
As for erotic novels, I don't know much, but I believe people should develop their own sexuality, and with erotic novels you get off to other people's sexuality.

Camila Javiera wrote:

Hi there.

My reply is late, but I am writing it because something occurred to me. You could replace pornography with anime hentai or reading erotic stories. Maybe train the imagination and reject the visual. I apologize if my comment is wrong.

Yeah this or some people in stuff i read found helpful using more natural erotica pictures and imagination then getting used to using imagination so they don't use that anymore. This could work cause it uses the same principal.

The other thing to think about is maybe porn is spiritual rape? Maybe so think about this. You are seeing someone as an object or possession. There is no consent you are sending energies and receiving energies from this.

The way a lot of guys go into this I would not hesitate to classify it as this. Maybe punishable offense in the future. Think about it.

I think porn addiction is much rooted in anxiety and insecurity, which the orgasm helps to calm down. Maybe go and talk to some therapist IRL about possible inner unrest that may be part of the cause of this addiction. Being occupied with other things is also good, and staying away from situations that will make you relapse.
For me it was usually when I was sitting up late and being tired that this addiction was the hardest to fight against, so sleep and rest, meditation, excercise etc. is also good off course.
And I also know of something which has helped me a lot with this issue, and that helps to bring comfort and peace inside but I'll keep that to myself on this forum at least. Good luck anyways.

I read through the posts in this thread, and since it was not mentioned, I thought I'd suggest seeing a therapist if you are comfortable talking about your addiction. You are not the only one with a sex or porn addiction, and perhaps talking it out might help you discover more about yourself and the root of your addiction.

There are online forums that may address these problems. And Reddit. You can talk freely and anonymously there about more explicit details (you did mention you watch depraved porn) and also hear and read other people's points and issues with this.
Knowing you're not going through this alone and there are others in the same boat.

If you don't want to do the therapist route, you can talk with your monogamous demon lover and work together to gently find a solution(s) for you to try out. Bonus points that you two draw closer. And they know how much to gently push you to talk, and what your limits are for that day/night, and when you're ready to talk about it again. I sometimes start crying when I start talking about my problems with my Demon spouse and it's sort of healing and cathartic.

mercury_wisdom wrote:

magus.immortalis wrote:

I read through the posts in this thread, and since it was not mentioned, I thought I'd suggest seeing a therapist if you are comfortable talking about your addiction. You are not the only one with a sex or porn addiction, and perhaps talking it out might help you discover more about yourself and the root of your addiction.

There are online forums that may address these problems. And Reddit. You can talk freely and anonymously there about more explicit details (you did mention you watch depraved porn) and also hear and read other people's points and issues with this.
Knowing you're not going through this alone and there are others in the same boat.

If you don't want to do the therapist route, you can talk with your monogamous demon lover and work together to gently find a solution(s) for you to try out. Bonus points that you two draw closer. And they know how much to gently push you to talk, and what your limits are for that day/night, and when you're ready to talk about it again. I sometimes start crying when I start talking about my problems with my Demon spouse and it's sort of healing and cathartic.

This advice doesn't apply to me at all.

Well, I did my best here. Perhaps it might help someone else.

Take care.