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It depends on the situation. Sometimes we think we do not deserve other people being rude to us or wanting to harm us, but we're actually wrong in thinking that. Our level of awareness allows us to understand whether we deserve to be in a situation or not, and whether our reaction to other people is appropriate and balanced or not.
I know many men who many times think they don't deserve their partner being annoyed at them. Then you ask their partner why they are annoyed and it turns out they've been lazy and not been pulling their weight around the house or otherwise. In that case, your girlfriend/boyfriend being annoyed at you is fully justified. And you getting in an argument with them out of ignorance is the actual abuse.
This is just an example. There many cases in real life when someone being rude or aggressive to you is justified, whether you understand why or not.
There are also many cases in which the aggressive/rude person can't control their lower urges and it's expressing them in the wrong way.
Context is key.
Also, innocence is not a thing in the NPC world. Everyone is guilty of something. 99% of NPCs have no control over their urges and end up doing something wrong whether they are aware of it or not. Don't expect fair behaviour to come from NPCs in most cases, as their level of awareness and advancement is very low. Many times I clash with NPCs because I give them too much and get little to nothing in return. Then they think they have the high moral ground with their flawed reasoning and little self-control or understanding of adult life and responsibilities, or life in general.
Among Zevism, these levels vary, so the statistics are different. Within Zevism, that's the reason why we ask other people advice. When things go to wrong, we go to the Gods as we recognise that we may not have the full picture to understand the situation and to understand how to resolve it. The Gods in their infinite awareness and advancement have that.