Question #3581: What to do about my boyfriend and life

[AskSatanOperator]

I have been in a weird situation for a while. I am a male SS and in a relationship with a guy in a foreign country.

We are both unemployed and next month our tenancy agreement ends. I don't know if I can deal with him anymore. I love him very much and I care about it very much. We have been living together for over a year now and I cannot fathom what I would do without him but we have always had massive arguments due to his immaturity.

Lately, he's also being very irritable for no reason, blaming for his mistakes and acting angrily. For example, I went to the shop today to buy some food. Before leaving, I asked him several times if he wanted anything. We don't have the same diet as he's recently turned vegetarian against my advice. He kept saying he didn't want anything and, like usual, he didn't even want to come. So I told him to text me if he needed anything and went alone. When I was there, I messaged him and asked him again if he wanted anything. He didn't reply, later claiming that his app was not working.

When I arrived at home without any food for him, he got angry and annoyed I didn't get him anything, saying that "I should've thought about him and got him something". I calmly told him it's unfair of him to get angry at me and that he should've just told him what he wanted one of the many times I asked him. What I really wanted to tell him was to get off his ass and go to the shop himself, and stop being lazy. I would have gladly got him something and not be annoyed if he had been respectful and not gaslit me, but his behaviour is just ridiculous and it has been going on for the whole holiday period.

Then he's sad and, if I try and push him to do something I know would make him feel better, instead of fighting his sadness for the situation, he fights me. We had ridiculous argument in the past, some of which it was my fault of course because I'm not perfect. However, now it got to the point when I don't even want to bother argue.

The thing is I can also not break up with him because I'm estranged from my family and in a foreign country. If we don't get a job and get a place soon, the only place I can crash is at the crammed house with his family. But also what's stopping him from keeping me out whenever he feels frustrated and wants to use me as a scapegoat?

I haven't tried doing synastry with him and of course I'm already going workings to destroy career karma and attract a new job, while also applying for 100+ jobs a day.

What do you think of this situation? What would you do?

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

Sounds like a very low quality and worthless person. You would be better without him.

 

[MiniMe3388]

Find someone who will treat you well, respect you and approach your relationship in a mature way.

 

[HPS Lydia]

No matter how much we love someone, if they are not willing to pull their weight or try at all to be a partner (not thinking when you asked him if he wanted you to pick up food and so on), then the relationship crumbles. It takes both parties to put in effort.

Have you tried talking with him about what his thoughts are, where his mind is at, clear and open communication? Or perhaps he is very stressed about unemployment and tenancy ending.

Maybe things with him will get better, or maybe they will get worse and you'll have to leave. Uncertain changes can be scary, but the Gods do look after us even if we have to go through hard times.

 

[Isisd]

I have been in a weird situation for a while. I am a male SS and in a relationship with a guy in a foreign country.

We are both unemployed and next month our tenancy agreement ends. I don't know if I can deal with him anymore. I love him very much and I care about it very much. We have been living together for over a year now and I cannot fathom what I would do without him but we have always had massive arguments due to his immaturity.

Lately, he's also being very irritable for no reason, blaming for his mistakes and acting angrily. For example, I went to the shop today to buy some food. Before leaving, I asked him several times if he wanted anything. We don't have the same diet as he's recently turned vegetarian against my advice. He kept saying he didn't want anything and, like usual, he didn't even want to come. So I told him to text me if he needed anything and went alone. When I was there, I messaged him and asked him again if he wanted anything. He didn't reply, later claiming that his app was not working.

When I arrived at home without any food for him, he got angry and annoyed I didn't get him anything, saying that "I should've thought about him and got him something". I calmly told him it's unfair of him to get angry at me and that he should've just told him what he wanted one of the many times I asked him. What I really wanted to tell him was to get off his ass and go to the shop himself, and stop being lazy. I would have gladly got him something and not be annoyed if he had been respectful and not gaslit me, but his behaviour is just ridiculous and it has been going on for the whole holiday period.

Then he's sad and, if I try and push him to do something I know would make him feel better, instead of fighting his sadness for the situation, he fights me. We had ridiculous argument in the past, some of which it was my fault of course because I'm not perfect. However, now it got to the point when I don't even want to bother argue.

The thing is I can also not break up with him because I'm estranged from my family and in a foreign country. If we don't get a job and get a place soon, the only place I can crash is at the crammed house with his family. But also what's stopping him from keeping me out whenever he feels frustrated and wants to use me as a scapegoat?

I haven't tried doing synastry with him and of course I'm already going workings to destroy career karma and attract a new job, while also applying for 100+ jobs a day.

What do you think of this situation? What would you do?

All of these actions and behavior are symptoms of hidden insecurities and unresolved inner problems. Try to talk with him and get him to open himself to you. Try to help him getting out of this state of laziness and to stand up for himself, cheer him up also for little progress if you see some. if you know it's worth it and you love him, you will help him in what you can. But here it's fundamental to discern the difference between a person who needs help or a person who's becoming an energy vampire. If you figure out that it's the latter you better get out of the relationship

 

[AristocraticDragon666]

I have been in a weird situation for a while. I am a male SS and in a relationship with a guy in a foreign country.

We are both unemployed and next month our tenancy agreement ends. I don't know if I can deal with him anymore. I love him very much and I care about it very much. We have been living together for over a year now and I cannot fathom what I would do without him but we have always had massive arguments due to his immaturity.

Lately, he's also being very irritable for no reason, blaming for his mistakes and acting angrily. For example, I went to the shop today to buy some food. Before leaving, I asked him several times if he wanted anything. We don't have the same diet as he's recently turned vegetarian against my advice. He kept saying he didn't want anything and, like usual, he didn't even want to come. So I told him to text me if he needed anything and went alone. When I was there, I messaged him and asked him again if he wanted anything. He didn't reply, later claiming that his app was not working.

When I arrived at home without any food for him, he got angry and annoyed I didn't get him anything, saying that "I should've thought about him and got him something". I calmly told him it's unfair of him to get angry at me and that he should've just told him what he wanted one of the many times I asked him. What I really wanted to tell him was to get off his ass and go to the shop himself, and stop being lazy. I would have gladly got him something and not be annoyed if he had been respectful and not gaslit me, but his behaviour is just ridiculous and it has been going on for the whole holiday period.

Then he's sad and, if I try and push him to do something I know would make him feel better, instead of fighting his sadness for the situation, he fights me. We had ridiculous argument in the past, some of which it was my fault of course because I'm not perfect. However, now it got to the point when I don't even want to bother argue.

The thing is I can also not break up with him because I'm estranged from my family and in a foreign country. If we don't get a job and get a place soon, the only place I can crash is at the crammed house with his family. But also what's stopping him from keeping me out whenever he feels frustrated and wants to use me as a scapegoat?

I haven't tried doing synastry with him and of course I'm already going workings to destroy career karma and attract a new job, while also applying for 100+ jobs a day.

What do you think of this situation? What would you do?

I think you need to have a serious conversation with your loved one and try to discuss everything together!

If this person refuses to listen and hear you, then you may have to make difficult choices, otherwise you will suffer in the relationship!

 

[existentialcrisis]

I think there is a certain distinction between giving up on someone and letting go of someone who is burdensome and unwilling to better themselves.

Part of a relationship is mutuality, supporting each other and helping each other grow. But some people are a drain, constantly demanding from others but not giving anything in return, and not even helping themselves.

This is the point where a critical decision has to be made, by one or both people, in order to save oneself, or to save the relationship, but only the former can be guaranteed, as this decision is completely your own and not dependent on the will of others.

This person seems determined to participate in their own downfall, as by not seeking or striving for a better life or to better himself, he's relinquishing control of himself to the powers of entropy and sinking to a lower level of existence.

Circling back, it sounds like you two are facing some challenges in life. There may be things going on in his mind that he can't, or won't handle. But if you've tried supporting him and he continues to sabotage his own life, you can't let yourself go down with him.

As a Spiritual Satanist, you deserve to have somebody in a similar state of evolution who will grow with you, and walk the paths of life alongside you, and not expect you to carry him on your back for the whole journey. If you've given it your best shot to try to improve your situation then to leave wouldn't be giving up, it would be letting go.

You should listen to your intuiton about this.

You can also study your and his natal charts to see how your energies may be conflicting, and how you could reconcile them. It is also worth noting the current transits and how they are affecting both of you.

I have been in a weird situation for a while. I am a male SS and in a relationship with a guy in a foreign country.

We are both unemployed and next month our tenancy agreement ends. I don't know if I can deal with him anymore. I love him very much and I care about it very much. We have been living together for over a year now and I cannot fathom what I would do without him but we have always had massive arguments due to his immaturity.

Lately, he's also being very irritable for no reason, blaming for his mistakes and acting angrily. For example, I went to the shop today to buy some food. Before leaving, I asked him several times if he wanted anything. We don't have the same diet as he's recently turned vegetarian against my advice. He kept saying he didn't want anything and, like usual, he didn't even want to come. So I told him to text me if he needed anything and went alone. When I was there, I messaged him and asked him again if he wanted anything. He didn't reply, later claiming that his app was not working.

When I arrived at home without any food for him, he got angry and annoyed I didn't get him anything, saying that "I should've thought about him and got him something". I calmly told him it's unfair of him to get angry at me and that he should've just told him what he wanted one of the many times I asked him. What I really wanted to tell him was to get off his ass and go to the shop himself, and stop being lazy. I would have gladly got him something and not be annoyed if he had been respectful and not gaslit me, but his behaviour is just ridiculous and it has been going on for the whole holiday period.

Then he's sad and, if I try and push him to do something I know would make him feel better, instead of fighting his sadness for the situation, he fights me. We had ridiculous argument in the past, some of which it was my fault of course because I'm not perfect. However, now it got to the point when I don't even want to bother argue.

The thing is I can also not break up with him because I'm estranged from my family and in a foreign country. If we don't get a job and get a place soon, the only place I can crash is at the crammed house with his family. But also what's stopping him from keeping me out whenever he feels frustrated and wants to use me as a scapegoat?

I haven't tried doing synastry with him and of course I'm already going workings to destroy career karma and attract a new job, while also applying for 100+ jobs a day.

What do you think of this situation? What would you do?