Does a man ask the woman out?

[Soul Wings]

Id be willing to consider that, from what information you’ve given out it sounds like you get into a lot of semi long to long term relationships that end abruptly, correct me if I’m wrong and I’d also like to know if it’s not to personal what you’re therapist thinks is the reason for that and what you think is the reason for that, I’m interested in the kinds of stuff they have to say and their attitude/mindset.

I’ve seen people giving the advice to choose more carefully a lot but you clearly think going into your relationships that it’s gonna work out and the person appears the right way and always says all the right things otherwise you wouldn’t get attached, so being more careful in the selection process might not be what’s needed here.

The main reason for going to therapy is so I do not repeat my mistakes. To understand my repressed and unrepressed emotions. I want to learn from this and grow as a human being. I do not want to bring this toxicity [emotions, repeating patterns, broken esteem/ego, baggage] into another relationship, so I must work through it.

I apologise if I mislead with any of my wording, most of my life has been short term fun, and my ex was my first serious relationship.
All of the ending of the relationships was initiated by me. The reasons varied from I was immature/wasn't ready for a relationship/I wanted male validation - to ungratefulness on their part - to lack of respect, and different life goals. I might explore further on this at some point, I believe there [unfortunately] are a lot of childhood wounds contributing to all of the above.
My therapist believes the ending to my last relationship was moreso due to lack of respect rather than differing life goals and put an emphasis on this.

You are correct in the sense that I attach quickly and am naive, but that is partly due to childhood lack of love.
This is actually a topic of discussion with my therapist and understanding just how casual dating is/should be, particularly in modern times. I am definitely on scale 100 when it should be 10, lol.

 

[Havoc]

The main reason for going to therapy is so I do not repeat my mistakes. To understand my repressed and unrepressed emotions. I want to learn from this and grow as a human being. I do not want to bring this toxicity [emotions, repeating patterns, broken esteem/ego, baggage] into another relationship, so I must work through it.

I apologise if I mislead with any of my wording, most of my life has been short term fun, and my ex was my first serious relationship.
All of the ending of the relationships was initiated by me. The reasons varied from I was immature/wasn't ready for a relationship/I wanted male validation - to ungratefulness on their part - to lack of respect, and different life goals. I might explore further on this at some point, I believe there [unfortunately] are a lot of childhood wounds contributing to all of the above.
My therapist believes the ending to my last relationship was moreso due to lack of respect rather than differing life goals and put an emphasis on this.

You are correct in the sense that I attach quickly and am naive, but that is partly due to childhood lack of love.
This is actually a topic of discussion with my therapist and understanding just how casual dating is/should be, particularly in modern times. I am definitely on scale 100 when it should be 10, lol.

If respect in a key issue lets go back to the start of this post, you want to know what kind of guy waits for them woman to ask him out? The type that respects her boundaries and does not want things to be uncomfortable at the workplace. Men who want committed relationships take dating seriously and most men reject the attitude that has become popular in modern times. Your past will be a bit of an issue because if you are looking for a forever person most guys looking for that are inexperienced and are offended by someone having too meany partners. Having a too casual attitude is not going to convince him that you'd changed and are worthy of trust.

The problem with women saying they want a man who's dominate is that dominance is not a toy to be played with or a performance to be put on for a woman's entertainment. A man in not going to dominate a woman only in ways that she likes and the incredibly sensitive modern women who want a relationship to be a meeting of two equals should not entertain fantasies about dominance.