Lydia wrote:Some people are happier with more than one lover, and some think they will be happier with more than one. There are so many factors, including: thousands of years and multiple lifetimes being sexually repressed with christianity/islam, spiritual degeneration, propaganda, etc, making it so difficult for many people to know themselves, making it difficult to be happy what with psychological programming etc.
I've heard of cases of couples who think they should be swingers to fulfil their relationship further, only to have it be destroyed. Also, people who have affairs while their spouse thinks they are monogamous, but then those get wrecked. Even with condoms std's can be contracted.
You need to do what is best for you, this goes for all SS here. Some people need more sex than their relationship can give them. Some people need to sleep around more, some do not. Also age, young people with out of control hormones can find it difficult to settle in a monogamous relationship.
This is such a complex topic. Many people are strong in their opinions but often due to programming. And what works for one person, can be harmful (in one way or another) for another person.
If your girlfriend is an SS then it's double the betrayal to her though if you cheat. But if she's not, your spiritual advancement comes first, so sometimes an SS in a relationship with someone who is without needs more. Weigh the pros and cons and do what is best for you.
About the Std´s I know that, but the worst stuff is avoided (if no oral sex, warts, open tooth necks or other wounds/ fluids exchanged ) = this is what I did mean with etc . This is also one main reason she doesn´t like me to have other girls. She is not SS, I've been trying to get her closer to it, but she is to liberal. Or I'm bad at talking to people.
When ever I should feel angry about it (not allowed to make a wimmen which desires me happy), I will just do one more rtr. so the situation is not total useless xD.
I will wait for my reading , thanks for your reply Lydia.